Dov

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Dov's Story
An Entirely Different Track
Is our problem a "Lack of Simcha"?
Giving Up, not Giving In
Teshuva = Hashem's Will for Me Today
What Recovery is About
Feeling Clean is an Afterthought
We Must Replace the Lust
Should I Join SA?
An E-Mail from Rabbi Twerski
The 12 steps are for those who have NO HOPE (even WITH the steps!)
No Masturbation Days
Let Go and Let Purple Bunny (??!)
Thinking Too Much
Yetzer Hara & Teshuvah vs. Addiction & Recovery
Fighting the 700lb gorilla was not working for me
Who do we REALLY believe in?
His Mission is to Kill Us
It's a Fight for Survival, Nothing Else.
Perhaps Our Only Chance to Get Our Very Own G-d
Self-Knowledge vs. Self-Honesty
The Inner Wiring of an Addict
The More Real With People, The More Real With G-d.
The 12 Steps are all Teffilah
That's What Addicts Do
With Hashem, the hopeless can succeed too!
How much more are you willing to take?
Natural Consequences Teach Best
Getting Busy with Living
Don't Get too Detailed with your Wife
Balance is a Big, Big Deal
What "One Day At A Time" Really Means
Mikveh Yisroel Hashem
Sobriety is like Breathing; Recovery is like Living
Curiosity or Lust?
Figuring it out never helped me
Torah is the Goal, Recovery is the Door
Slip = Sobriety Loses It's Priority
I'll Fall Tomorrow
Our main issue is not just an "eye problem"
The steps are to help me be 'useful'
Growing is the Focus, not Fighting Lust
We Have a Problem With "Living"
Remodeling Our Way of Life
Freedom from Temptation = Dead Man
Our Lust Problem is Just a Symptom
The Little Kid in the Back Seat
Lust Kills Love
Just Pass it By
Do you have the right God?
Sakanta or Issura?
Days of our Lives
Without real change, we'll fall again.
Sometimes it's good enough just to be sober
I'm Just Me; Hashem's Little Guy
Giving In or Giving Up?
How do we turn our will over to G-d?
Letting it slide off our backs
The Beauty of the 4th Step
He's Gonna Help me even more now!
My life is unmanageable with lust in it
I needed support, humility & directions
Stopping for the Thousandth Time
I inherited this from my father
AA / SA is Not a Religion
Not acting-out is no longer my main preoccupation
Walking with Hashem Through the Tears
Even if I'm Destined for Gehinnom
Our Lust is Often Misguided Yearning
It's an Inside Job
Focusing on Not Focusing is Silly
If I Look Down, I'll Fall and Die
The Groups are a Mirror
There's a Big Difference Between Lusting & Acting Out
I'd Never Satisfy Myself With Lust Without Dying For It
All I Want to Do is Live
The 12-Steps Are Just About Being Real With Ourselves
What to do When Under Attack
Why I Daven for the Lady I Lusted For
The Difference Between Lust & Love
Getting Caught
Dramatic Struggle or a Wisp of Fog?
Becoming Open to the Miracle of Sobriety
How to say 'Sorry' to Hashem?
Stick with the Winners
The Cup That Can Be Filled With His Gifts
Letting go of our Da'as
Love Kills Lust
Despair Was My Entrance Fee
Sobriety is About Allowing Him to Help Us
The 12 Steps are for Those Who Are Beaten
Admitting the Truth About Ourselves to Another
Self-Will is our Greatest Enemy
It's more than a 'Schmutz' Problem
Getting Over Our Shame
Don't Wait for the "Consequences"
Get yourself a group of friends you can call
Tolerating Imperfection
Sick Enough to Really Need Him
DILBERT
Worshiping Avodah Zara
Why Dov First Posted On GYE
The Issue That Brought Dov to GYE
Do you want painful comfort - or painful peace?
We Start Paying From The First Instant
Tears That Open Doors
Clean Your Side of the Street First
I've Done Stupid Things Before
The Trash No Longer Rules My Life
Help, I Found a Way to Bypass My Filter!
Lust vs. Sex: "Lust" is a Motivation; "Sex" is an act
Letting Go of the 'Gimmies'
You CAN Crawl Out Of This Mess
Self Esteem
Davening After a Fall
I Don't Think I Can Wait!
When Are Our Prayers Really Answered?
As Much as I Had to Stop, I Couldn't Live Without it
By The Time Davening is Over, I am a New Man
Normal vs. Useful
Not a Candy Machine
Lust Makes Us Fools
An Emunah that We Really Use
A Miracle Happens When We Put Down The Bottle
The Gifts We Get When We Give it to Hashem
Because I am an Addict
He Thrives on Being a "Nirdaf"
Fantasy Takes Me Out of Reality
The Old Way vs. The New Way
Dov's Advice to a Non-Addict
Weakening the Power of Secrecy (Safely)
Giving Up
The Real Meaning of Love
Reality is More Precious Than Sanity
Only Frum SA Groups?
We Need to Suffer
Making That Call
My Will Needs to Be Broken
Eventually, It All Catches Fire
No One Can Give Me Lust if I Don't Use It
Giving up: Why the First Step is so Important
We become more needy as we heal!
More Invested in G-d: Two Great Parables from Dov for Step 3
Lust Addiction is a Disease
A Few Pearls Learned the Hard Way
Living or Just "Not Dying"?
Recovery is the Tube that My Torah Runs Through
Dov Welcomes a Newcomer
Distracting Myself vs.Giving It Up
I Haven't Got it All Figured Out
"Adult Entertainment" = Childish Stupidity
Holding On to Things Loosely
Emunah Problems?
Can't Sleep Without Acting Out
Why I Can’t Use Porn
Are You Worth It?
Sober For Ourselves, Not Our Wives
Counting Days Can Backfire for Real Addicts
If You Wish You Couldn't Tolerate It
Real Change Takes Time
Pleasure Like No Other
It All Stems from Lack of Integrity
Hashem Sees Our Hearts & Efforts
The Concepts Behind the Steps
See What Your Life is Like Without Lust
What do you want in your relationships?
Obsessions of the Mind
Lust Doesn't Deserve Real Estate in My Brain
The Music Will Become Beautiful To You Too
Dov's Secret
Learning from "Farm Boys"
Self Honesty is All There Really Is
Do YOU see that you need to stop?
Don't Give Power to Flesh & Blood
My 'Life' Forbids Me to Act Out
If It's Impossible, There Might Be Hope
Don't Put the Cart Before the Horse
Letting the Familiar Curiosity Go
We Need to Make it Real
There's Only One Day Of Recovery
The Makka is the Refuah
Breathing Air Is Not "Al Pi Torah"
Turning the Ship Around
I Refuse to be Relegated to the Trash Heap
The Day AFTER the Seder Night
Addict vs. Non-Addict
R' Shimon Bar Yochai Didn't Bring Along a Sandwich
To the Point of Survival
Turning Our Back on Our Old Selves
Reversed Order
Sometimes Low Self-Esteem Comes From Pride
A 'G-d Help' Program
Get Free Through Surrender
Accepting the Real Truth About Ourselves
A Religious Problem vs. YOUR Problem
We Give Them Power In Our Heads
Turning Our Wires Around
Don't Get Stronger, Get More Help!
You've Already Won
Prayer in the Trenches
The Moment of Truth
Giving It Up - Even Though We Can't
Two Ways to the Good Life
Our Goal Should Be True Growth & True Love
I Stopped Trying To Change the Little Lady
The Attitude Paradox of an Addict
We Need To Start Where We Are
Ein hadovor tolui ella bi
What's wrong with surrendering alone?
Ever Smile At Yourself?
Love Sick
Appreciating What We Have
It's not about Teshuvah, it's about being alive
The Only Truth that Matters
Life Without Burdens is a Sober Life
Banging Our Heads on the Aron Kodesh
Real Bitachon comes in baby steps
It Takes One To Teach One
Love Cripples
For me, the "first drink" is pikuach nefesh
G-d is Free
We can't have true relationships till we're sober
Live Differently
Give it Away to Get it Back
Working the Steps
My Business vs. His Business
Hashem As Superman?
When the Wife Feels Betrayed
The Double Edged Sword of the Disease
Chazak Mimenu
Are you willing to go to any lengths?
Sharing Pain Can Help Others - And Ourselves
Like a Son Talks to His Father
Don't Argue
The Only Thing That Matters
Give it to Him, Get it Back
Being "Good" or Being with Hashem?
The "Cake" is Self Honesty, Period.
The Real Balm
Recovery in Action - a Miracle.
The Failure of Self-Centeredness in Making Life Work
Do I have to live my whole life in pain?
Lust vs. Love
My Emotions are My Problem
Doing what you need to do, today
The Need to Feel Special
His way is getting me well
Training the Good Muscles
Dressing our struggle in the Chaluka d'Rabonnon
Even the most horrible rotten stuff ever!
How will she ever trust me again?
Wives don't generally understand - and that's good.
Recovery can't mean just not acting out
It's Not a Marriage Problem
Don't let it build up!
We need to reach out from where we really are
Asking for Help
What I was Looking for in Lust
Dov's "Decent" Day
Live to Give = No Lack
Lust is Like a Star
Freedom is the Gateway to Pleasure
A Respected Marbitz Torah and Mashpiah Ruchani
Dov Defines His Understanding of GYE's Role
More of the same, or REAL change?
Where is the Desperation?
What a Therapist Can't Provide
Romantic Struggle vs. What Hashem Really Wants
Feeling Miserable is Useless
Sharing With a Partner
Quality Not Quantity
The G-d I Know
My Sobriety Cost Me My Entire Life Savings
The Problem is not with life, it's with US
Small Pearls From Dov
Dealing with Fantasies
It's time I stopped playing House
Taking the Actions of Love
Bad Choices
Is Sobriety the Tachlis?
Free Time on My Hands
SNOWED UNDER
Dov discusses some Torah thoughts on: "Letting Go of SELF WILL"
When do we finally get 'healed' and let go of Self-Will?
Wishful Thinking
Live To Give
The "Program"
Living as G-d's Boychik
What's with YOU?
Knowledge of the Issur vs. knowledge gained through experience
Purpose vs. Side Effect
Don't Go For the Pretty Box
Running 'Away' or Running 'To'?
Dov Tells More of His Story
Scream For Help
Misinterpretation
Dov Talks About Purim
How Do You Define an "Addict"?
You've Surely Gained a Lot
Which Hard Work Do You Choose?
Letting Go of Our Garbage
Madreigos & Hashkafa in Recovery
You already are a good person
Working the Steps
Keep Your Eye on the Ikkar