Just Pass it By
Swimming in the Problem is not a great idea. It gets us muddy and yucky. Many here on GYE are fighting with their addiction - or if they are not addicts and just have a bad habit (cuz porn feels good), they insist on wrestling all day with their lust and keeping it in the foreground - while it would best be just passed by! It's hard for me to convince some frummies who tend to be like pit bulls and lock onto the fact that their assur thoughts are horrible aveiros, that these are largely just nutty thoughts that need to be admitted to others quickly and done away with, passed by, that's all. Not ruminated on or pulverized with guilt, but surrendered!