INDEX

1. Success Stories   ⇓
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2. Polls                                ⇓
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3. Important Links  ⇓
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Important Threads
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4. Recovery              ⇓
5. Life Situations   ⇓
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6. Chizuk   ⇓
7. Audio    ⇓


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Welcome Aboard: I'd like the first few pages of this thread to be publicly shared / traded. My intent is to include universal trucking tips many guys can benefit from - that aren't found (yet) in 30 tool section.

Please Comment: I'm open to any input. If there's something in the first pages that you'd like to add or comment on, please do so right here

Keep on Trucking!!!

UPDATED - 100 day Success Stories
Click on the Link of any user to read his Great Trucking Story

Member Story Link	E-mail
cordnoy	thenewme613@hotmail.com
Gevura Shebyesod	yesod25@gmail.com
Dov	wequithiding@gmail.com
gibbor120
serenity	Gomu2serenity@gmail.com
Watson
Workingguy
Yesod	yesod613@gmail.com
GrowStrong
Singularity
Hashem Help Me
yechidah

There are 500+ success stories on the WOH, but I have selected only those which I feel are most beneficial, i.e. users that post regularly

If you would like your story added, removed, or the links changed, or whatever, please let me know

Add Your Vote
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1. What was your Primary Source of Recovery?
2. Your Biggest Concern
3. Do you think You're an Addict?
4. Chasin' general Pleasurin' - do you Minimize?
5. How would you react to being recognized here by someone in real life?
6. How did you find out about GYE?

GREAT LINKS

1. Dov Quotes - thanks gibbor
2. SA white book  |  SA pamphlet |   AA Red Book
3. The 3 Second RULE
4. Objectifying Women
5. GYE Glossary Of Terms
6. Skep's Tips
7. gibbor120's Colorful Links
8. The GYE Handbook
9. Frequently Asked Questions

GREAT POSTS - Recovery
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0- Recovery Mistakes to Avoid
1- Sobriety's not about beating a previous high score
2- Why do I act out?
3- Think you can do it without the 12-Steps?
4- SA Meetings?? Are They Necessary?
5- Am I An Addict?. See also here
6- leaving only pornography
7- 90 Day Chart - A great instrument when used with other tools, also see here
8- Disclosing to Wife, see also here and here and here and here
9- Lust is a state of the mind. If your brain is lust free, regular life situations won't bother you, not even surfing gye forums
10- Appropriate Dress in Shul

GREAT POSTS - Situations
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0- Reaching Out for Help on Shabbos
1- The Bathroom - MY SHUL
2- What to do about Wet Dreams?
3- Prayer before watching a movie click here
4- Boys In Yeshiva?
5- Does anyone go to a Psychologist woman?
6- Not Married? Grab the opportunity to recover today
7- Divorced, see also here
8- Attraction to well dressed women (copied here)

CHIZUK
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The Mark of Torah - Lust Chizuk

PART A

TORAH TAVLIN: a) Torah is not a blanket protection and can actually do the opposite if not approached correctly.  b) May not work for all forms ofYetzer Hara
Gd wants our small sacrifice and effort
ODAAT: One Day at a Time. And a nice source for ODAAT.
DO SOMETHING: When facing a personal challenge,We can't say "I tried, I cried, I prayed", No no no! Do something positive!!
BECHIRA: The "main" bechira we have is to avoid triggering situations in the first place
THE 3 SECOND RULE: The pasuk is telling us - do not follow your heart to take that second look
THE REAL PROBLEM: To me it seems poshut that the problem is lusting not shmiras eynayim
WHITE KNUCLING: Is not the Torah way so cut the Confrontations . Which according to the Torah way will not succeed
Is everyone in the world an addict?
WIFE: Is she your Pas Besalo?
 Warning: Spoiler!
Quote: "I promise you there is no mishna gemara chazal responsa or chasidisha vort anywhere that says it is ok to lust and fantasize and stare at women in the street if you are married because a holy jewish wife has to save her holy jewish husband from sinning by being his [outlet]."
INTENT: I'm a lustaholic and I want Intimacy leshem shamayim. Honest?
TESHUVA: Teshuva (the way we understand it) is NOT recovery but a ploy
in the Zohar, it is said the sin of wasted seed is the worst sin for which no recovery is possible. And that relations with non-Jews attaches to us even in Olam Haba. What are the defenses against these charges?


SCOURCES:

The prohibition of V'NISHMARTA and V'LO SASURU
including undressed unmarried gentile women
A wife is like bread?


HOLIDAYS

Chanuka - ODAAT
Thank Gd - Al Hanissim
The 3 Weeks - We are building the Beis Hamikdash with GYE

PART B
1- moshol by Watson
2- Can we truly correct 30 years and have a תחיית המתים in 90 days?
3- What in the world does Hashem want from me?
4- Repent! Teshuvas Hamishkal - For addiction its enough the tremendous effort and accomplishment of getting over the addiction! Rav Wosner
5- Great Shiurim
6- Can an addict be a Chazan for the Yomim Noraim???
7- Click HERE for a prayer to recite before watching a movie)

AUDIO
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1) The chasan schmooze you never got, and many more great lectures
2) Shalom Bayis - Attention Affection Appreciation, and more!!
Enter your Login to torahmedia.com go to "Speakers" from the main page, then select the "Pamensky, Rabbi Aryeh" lectures and enjoy!

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tryingtoshteig wrote:

Ideas

1. It's best to share what has worked for us in our own experiences rather than trying to think up good advice for the person we are chatting with. We are not here to play therapist/rabbi, we are here as people who could relate to each other because we've been through similar situations. Sometimes just being understanding, even if we don't have all the answers, is helpful. Cordnoy wrote "Know (or try to know) who you are talkin' to, and talk from experience and how it was productive, or how it wasn't". If you don't have experience e.g. what to say to a teen, take a back seat, relax, someone will be in shortly with right thing to say

Please forgive my bluntness, but HERE's an example of many foolish pieces of advice

Phew... ok.
Whoever wants to respond now please do.

Im hoping to compile summaries of great notes in the first 20 posts, and index them in the 1st.
From here and on Id like to hear input criticism and feedback, so whoever can pass by this post every now and then and blow your horn is appreciated.

Of course I have my personal perception (as we all do) when deciding how to broach and deal with different topics, but Id like to share these posts with the chevra therefore whatever / whenever you choose to input - please do, and don't be scared to be blunt with me, so go on fire away!!!

Gotta run
Hope to continue on this some day soon