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Re: Uman 05 May 2025 18:45 #435484

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Segulas aren't what work it's the real work that helps for this YH. Hazlacha 
Lifes short.... cover ground before ground covers you
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Re: Starting my journey 05 May 2025 18:36 #435483

Look around and find someone who's story talks to you and reach out.

SSSL's Story (Google Doc)​ [You will need to request permission, which I'm happy to give.]
Holy In Jerusalem (My Thread)

Feel free to say hi or send some chizuk over @ stopsurvivingstartliving2024@gmail.com.
My google voice number got shut down, so I won't be able to receive or send messages from there.

Re: I’m just like you 05 May 2025 18:33 #435482

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Thank you for sharing your story.
I am really inspired by your gevurah!!
And I love your attitude!!

Chazak V'amutz!!

Uman 05 May 2025 18:28 #435481

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Hi,

I wonder if anyone tried davening at Rav Nachman's grave for this issue. Also, can the segulah help for someone to get married? I heard that Rav Nachman promised that anyone who davens by his grave the whole tehillim he will do anything in his power to help them get married (if they are single).
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What was wrong with your life?

Re: I’m just like you 05 May 2025 18:15 #435479

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Thanks for sharing your story it gives me definitely chizuk and probably others as well that it's possible to break free and everyone should know that.

Wishing you all the best on your journey 
keep strong
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I was in a bad place last week with ogling on the street, Started TBOTG with accountability. Bh doing wonders.
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I was looking over my first post, and it is interesting to see it from the future



Hello, Friends.

My name is iLoveHashem247. I am a married man with a supportive
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wife and three wonderful kids. Looking at my life from an outsider's perspective, you'd think I have it all. I own a renovated home on my own private road with lots of land, run my own business with which i support myself
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, am fortunate to be able to learn many more hours a week than i work,
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  and am a popular and recognized member of my community
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- and I'm not yet 30 years old. But all this comes with a price tag - a lifelong struggle with addiction, mostly with marijuana and risky sexual encounters.
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I had girlfriends in high school before becoming BT, and had shmirat habrit challenges, like most teens
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. I struggled with SB and engaging in sexual activities at massage parlors but was able to be clean
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for at least 6 months before marriage. during my wife's pregnancy with our second child, i unfortunately reverted back to my pre-BT habbit of recreational marijuana during the stress of a second pregnancy (the first one outside of the shana rishona "infatuation zone"), which in turn let down a rabbit hole of other issues... i had recently been visiting massage parlors, not for the sexual experience (i do not engage in any "happy endings" anymore, rather when i do succumb it is for the exhibitionism that i can indulge in without making a massive chillul Hashem).
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I am also very disappointed to admit that i had a sexual encounter with a shiksa who picked up a business card i had left at a restaurant i ate in, she sent me lewd photos and we met up one time (sept 12, '22) where she performed oral sex on me.
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I am struggling to break out of these addictive patterns - i have recently filtered my home office desktop, my work laptop, and my smartphone i use to run my business (main issue was watching movies and free "live cams").
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The crazy thing is that I am a person who has made such amazing changes in my life - in many ways, I am the kind of person i look up to and always wanted to become - but it is the sticky residue of my past life that I'm having such a hard time getting rid of.
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I am sick of who I've secretly become and the double life i am living.
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I want to be fair to myself, honest and equitable with my wife, and and terrified of the shame i will face when standing before my Creator on my day of judgement.
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Well, that was deeply revealing and I have revealed to you, fellow strangers, that which i have not even revealed to my wife. To be fair though, i have been fully open with her regarding the guarding of eyes and marijuana addictions, but have never ever discussed the massage parlor or infidelity.
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HELP!
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Just getting over a case of mild insanity here...
My Story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/385922-My-Story-Being-Honest-For-Once
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Sicha keep on movin 05 May 2025 17:51 #435476

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Does anyone here know the Sicha that the 8th day soon "Rolin" is based off? If you are familiar do you think it appies to these Inyanim?

Re: No Despair Allowed 05 May 2025 17:40 #435475

Hello, GYE Chevra.

I would like to resume regular posts on this forum. I am struggling. I have had some successes in the last months since posting here, but I have also found myself in many a rut.

Shout out to @chosemyshem. We are regularly in touch by text and a rare phone call.

Short post today. Wishing everyone great b'rochoh v'hatzlochoh.
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Did you think that you've got this once you passed 115 days? That you're over the hump? 
That's been my experience - when i feel like it's all behind me and I got this now, then I get a not so friendly reminder that my will power is not enough. 
Just getting over a case of mild insanity here...
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Re: I’m just like you 05 May 2025 17:02 #435472

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being open and honest in that way can pay off tremendously.  you are fortunate that you had that opportunity.  
wishing you continued success and growth
vehkam
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The Battle of the Generation by Hillel S. has been a huge help for me.  Message me to find out how you can receive a free copy.



some of the experiences I write about may make it easier to identify me.  This is ok.  I trust that if anyone discovers my identity they will keep it to themselves.  If you do realize that you  know me, I am completely comfortable and welcome you acknowledging me and my struggle in person.
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Re: I’m just like you 05 May 2025 16:49 #435471

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Yes, I do watch the videos—they definitely keep me going. Looking back, I think the reason I told my wife is because it was such a big part of my life. It felt like a part of me, and not telling her meant she didn’t really know the whole me.

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Perspective Uno:

Yossi, what the heck are you thinking?! It's a plain, simple Shabbos, no one is interested in that long Belz Av Harachamim song for Mimkomcha! Save it for when you need to impress someone.


Two minutes later:

Kalman, what's the matter with you?! You're butchering a beautiful song by being off-beat at the rhythmic escalation. For the love of everything holy, listen to yourself! Can't you hear that you're the only one starting the next bar at downbeat 1? You're supposed to wait till the upbeat! And stay at 65 BPM, what are you doing at 80? And because you have the loudest voice in the Shul, you're throwing everything off-kilter. Grrrrr
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chosemyshem wrote on 04 May 2025 21:01:
Checking in.

Still clean. Definitely a little slipping at the end of the week last week, but feeling grateful that the area of slippage is in shemiras einayim in the streets and not hardcore porn at the office. Still something that needs work and a lot of care that it doesn't become that first sip that drags me off the cliff. One tough thing is that my new job is in a much more urban and crowded area, and the streets are just alot more intense than where my previous job was. And keeping your head down while driving is just not so shayech. . .

Actually a funny story about that. I was thinking over shabbos about what works in the street and what doesn't. One thing I used to try was to look out for interesting stuff on the sidewalk - Rabbi Miller has a shtickel about looking for coins or something. And I so on shabbos I decided that that doesn't work since there's never anything interesting on the sidewalk and I should focus on other tools. But Rabboisei! Pull out your guitar and hum along! Hayad Hashem Tiktzor! There I was walking along this afternoon, and I happened to glance down. And what did I see? A hundred dollar bill on the ground!

Never happened to me before. Absolutely blew my mind.

Now, this would be a better story if it motivated me to keep my eyes down. Which it hasn't so far. We'll see. I've been getting somewhere with the "women on the street are not your eye candy" so hopefully I'll be able to keep on working with that. But it's tough.

The GYE calendar has me at 32 days but no idea if that's accurate or not. I have not been checking in at all, trying to actively avoid it, but needed a little chizzuk so checked in for the boost from the "streak." Either way, glad to be clean today.

This reminds me of an amazing story with a profound lesson I heard recently.

A Ben Torah had a dream that he found a couple of hundred bucks on the street on Shabbos. Being a Ben Torah and all that flair, he started rummaging through his extensive knowledge of loopholes to see how he could take the money and settled on the good old "Graf Shel Re'i." He did his worst, and just as he was about to bend down to move it out of the way, he woke up and realized that only the second half of the story was real.

To echo Shem's words, Hayad Hashem Tiktzor?
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