Tips & Suggestions

The miracle is in process at this very moment! It is more useful for me to be aware of one short coming in myself, than realizing a thousand in someone else. Happiness is not ready made, it is built through our actions. I know that true happiness comes from Hashem - ...

I have really begun to feel and see the Yad Hashem more and more as I learn to let go of control. Strangely, the idea that I am not in control has led me to increased responsibility for my actions, because they are the sole thing for which I am responsible (Hashem is 100%...

I need to learn from my fall, and this past fall has taught me that I have to cancel my Facebook account. It's really a waste of time anyway. The only reason I've been keeping the account is to see what's new in my friend's lives, see new photos of their kids, and have al...

Excerpts of Battleworns's "Torah Approach" on our Forum Here. In this struggle, we must internalize the following truths: a) Those who struggle with this issue should understand that the purpose Hashem sent us to this world was to work on this very issue! b) The reason we...

I'm sorry to say I had a fall yesterday. I didn't post right away, cuz I was depressed. I was extremely MAD at myself and I felt soooooooooo lost. I hated every part of me and my animalistic desire to sin. The feeling of shame trickled down all over my bod...

There are many people who are desperate and say that they would do anything to be free of the compulsion. Here is something that will indeed take much effort, but if one is really ready to do anything, this can help greatly: WATCH YOUR SPEECH! Be meticulo...

There was an incident that taught me something about turning to Hashem for help: At a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous in Jerusalem, one man who was seven years sober related that he had resisted AA at first because it was God-oriented, and he was an atheist. ...

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We have a member on our forum who calls himself "Momo". When he first read through the GYE handbooks (here), they did not seem to have a lasting effect on him. We managed to convince him however, that the handbooks can't work unless we read them slow...

Dear Neshama, you've come to the right place! As much as reading your story was painful, it also made me smile because it is SO typical. Everyone who turns to us for help at first, thinks (and I quote your words below): - "I feel like I don't have an ounce o...

One of the slogans of the 12-step program is "Keep it simple (stupid)". It is important to keep things simple. We make things difficult by complicating them. "Simple" does not mean "easy." A command to lift a 100 pound weight is simple, it's just very ...

This may seem a little different, but it's tried and true. Whatever it is that you are struggling with - in our case it is lust, we all know that we are most vulnerable when we are feeling down. When we are well rested, we feel good. A...

I just printed out and started reading the Attitude Handbook. Amazing! I'm very impressed; a shame I didn't get around to reading it earlier. I just saw something that is written that inspired me: Hashem does not desire result...

Yom Kippur can only atone for sins that we do Teshuvah for, but if we continue to hold on to the "Sheretz", can we ask Hashem to purify us? Doing teshuvah means "letting go" of the sins, and making fences so that we don't inevi...

Don't fall on a whim. I'll say it again: Don't fall on a whim. Falling is too painful to do just like that. If a person c"v feels like he must fall, he should at least think it through. Write down 10 reasons you don't want to fall. The...

An idea by "Bardichev" It's before Rosh Hashana. Can we completely change our ways? That is doubtful. But we CAN start with small steps. As Bardichev wrote on this thread called "Kabalos for the New Year": LET'S MAKE A SMALL KABBALLA, BUT A HONEST K...

I've been trying to write down in my pocket calendar how many times I've looked at women in the street each day. I'm only counting if I see someone and keep on looking, or if I intentionally look around. I used to think this happens nearly a hundred times ...

I want to share an eitza which occurred to me. While on the road to 90 days, one can fall into a monotonous routine... Once this happens, the propensity to act out increases. I just started planning posts on the forum. Thoughts and ideas that I want to pos...