Tips & Suggestions

By Naomi Wolf in The Times, London   Andrea Dworkin, the anti-porn activist, rose to fame in the 1980s arguing that if we did not limit pornography most men would objectify women more intensively and treat them less as people than as porn stars. The floodgates would open;...

Suppose I were to call one of you on the phone and say the following:Hi, here’s what needs to be done today:First wash my car – scrub it well and rinse thoroughly.Next, my shoes need a perfect shine – make sure to buff them evenly.Third, my laundry needs to be done today....

There are three different mind-frames that one can use when he is faced with a strong challenge in Shmiras Ha'ainayim or Shmiras Ha'bris . Each person can choose the one that works best for him. There also may be times when one way will work better for you than the other ...

Sometimes you are feeling low, depressed and very vulnerable. In such a state the Yetzer Hara tells you that there's no use trying to fight. But realize one thing. The depression you feel will not go away by giving in, it will only get worse. The more you give in, the mor...

The middah of humility is one of the most powerful tools in dealing with sexual desire and obsession. When you are feeling weak, vulnerable and needy, and everything inside you in craving to just give in, one of the best ways to overcome the test is to just let go and say...

Rav Nachman says, the name of the Yetzer Hara in our generation is "Dimyon" - "imagination". This is very deep. That's truly all the Yetzer Hara is, a big bubble of "imaginary" pleasure that just pops in your face! Think about it. Sexuality is really 97% desire and only 3...

The Yetzer Hara is all air, and that by using your head, you can conquer him without a major battle in your heart. However, this is only true if you guard your eyes carefully. Once the eyes start to see, the heart starts to lust, and the battle switches over from being in...

There is nothing as powerful as prayer to help a person break free and overcome the greatest tests. Make a note of pesukim in Tehilim that you feel relate to your situation. Compile a list, print them out and save them in your wallet to read over to Hashem, with a broken ...

Never underestimate the value of each and every time you say no to yourself. Sometimes a person is feeling weak and says to themselves, "what's the difference if I look now at something that I know I shouldn't - I'm anyway not feeling strong now". You must believe in the ...

This is an amazing tip that really works to get you started, if you are determined to learn how to guard your eyes: Commit (for a few weeks or a period of time), to pinch yourself -- enough to make it hurt -- every time you gaze improperly at something that you know you s...