Tips & Suggestions

A struggler shares with us some of his tips... There are (at least) three great temptations the evil one tempts us with to make us view Internet pornography: 1) home alone, bored and with nothing to do 2) depressing *I am worth nothing, I can't do anything* feeling, 3) ...

More from one of our members who shared with us some of the tips that helped him in his journey to recovery: (If you have tips that worked for you, send them to us please as well)   One of the only ways I have found to deal with the problem of porn addiction is to have so...

One of our members, who happens not be be Jewish (but enjoys Jewish teachings), shared some of the tips that helped him in his journey to recovery. I bring you here part of his letter:   "To deal with pornography that is a more serious problem, bordering on addiction, it ...

Often, people just don't trust the power of Torah to save them from the clutches of the Yetzer Hara. They try everything, the 12 steps, meditations, psychotherapy, etc... but they won't sit down and learn a blat of Gemara. My friends! Gemara is "sechel hayashar" - "strai...

Kids think that dolls look so human. They are fascinated with them and have fun playing with them and imagine that the dolls are real. We always have to remember this fact. All the fascination that we have with sexual desire and with the beauty of women is fake. It is sat...

"I have tried to stop over and over, but just can't seem to. I have even gone like 3 or 4 months without porn, but always the desire grows so strong that life seems too dull and worthless to live without being able to indulge in the viewing of women... " We would like to ...

Bitul (self-nullification). Learn to think "Who am I to want anything? We are not here for pleasure. I am doing the work of the king every time I say "No". What more can a Jew want in this world? Along these lines of Bitul, R' Nachman offers a powerful suggestion. Whenev...

Learn how to bear the mental pain of saying "No" to yourself. Naturally, we go to what feels good and we stay away from pain. We got that from cows. Animals don't understand that a painful experience can be beneficial. Try and explain surgery to a cow. All the cow underst...

If you can't stop looking at pretty women, keep this in mind. From the smallest baby, to the prettiest woman, to the old fat man down the street, human beings are all made out of the same stuff; blood, veins, muscle tissue, guts and fat--all covered over with a thin layer...

We all believe in "S'char Ve'onesh" (divine reward and punishment). So here's a tip for staying strong and guarding your eyes. Sometimes we tell a child that if he does a Mitzvah he will get as much candy as he wants in the next world. This isn't a lie because the reward ...

One of our members sent us their story recently. I think we can all learn a lot from it. I struggled as a teenager with pornography and masturbation, mostly as an escape mechanism. When I got married I thought all my problems would be solved. However, I equated love wit...

Someone wrote on The Forum that he had overcome his addiction and was doing good, but he requested help now that he was working in an enviorment with non-Jewish, young women and felt he was again in danger of slipping back into his old ways. In response, a Frum psychologi...

Often, the need to seek self-pleasure comes from a mild-depression. Almost 50% of humans have a tendency to some form of depression, even if they don't know or admit it, and it is often this feeling of "void" or "emptiness" that can bring one to seek ways to sooth themsel...

Some Tikkunim for sins of the eyes, collected and translated by www.jewishsexuality.com. (Note: These aren't just Tikkunim for the past, but will help you also to control your eyes in the future).   A person who was wont to gaze lustfully at women or at forbidden images ...

Chaza"l and the Torah are generally very careful to speak in the cleanest language possible. When discussing the impure animals that came into the Ark with Noach, the Torah writes "Take with you seven of each pure animal and two of each animal which is not pure". The Tora...

People wrote on Arutz Sheva "Talk-Back" about the importance of internet filters... I feel Freed...from Carmel We downloaded a filter (I asked my wife to do it for me so I wouldn't know the code) and now for the first time in ages, I can sit down at the computer without t...

The Torah says "Ki karov elecha hadavar me'od" - "for it (i.e. the Torah) is very close to you" (meaning that it is not difficult to uphold). The question is though, if so, why is it sometimes so hard?? The answer is, that the fight against these desires is truly only 10%...

It is a known fact that someone addicted to pornography begins to neglect his job, his wife, his children and even himself. He misses out on the best parts of life, such as watching his children grow up, and he lets his life deteriorate until ultimately he loses everythin...