Tips & Suggestions

I wrote to you a few months ago telling you about the book "Breaking the Cycle". At that point, I wasn't ready for your approach on GYE. I needed to deal with the addiction without any mussar. This book greatly helped me, but it wasn't enough. A few weeks ago I looked through your handbook and f...

; Realize the effect masturbating has. This will be different for every person. For me, immediately I’m high, drunk, ;lost inside myself. Self-pleasure is mine, mine, mine. It leads me to sexualise every person that crosses my path. No longer are they human, they’re walking god’s, there to ...

; ; Are you new to recovery? If you are reading this and you answer this question with a solid yet resigned YES, walking into a 12-step meeting can be overwhelming. The sights, the sounds, the smell of strong coffee, strangers engaging in recovery speak that sounds like a foreign language–it ca...

Several months ago, a video went viral regarding pornography from an unlikely source. Comedian Russell Brand discussed his battle with porn, the negative effect it has had in his life, and his desire to have it out of his life. First, he shares his belief that: “Our attitudes toward sex have bec...

; Most of us spend a lot of time inside our own mind — ;worrying about the future, replaying events in the past, and generally focusing on the parts of life that leave us dissatisfied. While common, negative or unwanted thoughts can prevent ;you from enjoying experiences, distract you from focus...

I have a great tool that helped me a ton.It's a small but powerful tefila that works instantly, and according to the guy that taught it to me, it works for everyone. ; First, a few things to point out before I begin. It's important to know that we always have bechira (choice), even though sometim...

All living creatures have no shame, with the exception of human beings. When we have intellect we understand the concept of shame. When we don’t use our intellect as human beings (behaving like animals) we have no shame. The trait of shame is a boundary to protect us from going against our valu...

*Take life ;one day at a time. ;*Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it. ;*K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amoun...

Hoshana Raba is the last chance of the year to make a difference in what is decreed for us in the coming year. Some people stay up all night learning, and some of the Teffilos are said with the Nussach of the Yomim Noraim. What does this mean to us in terms of Teshuvah? We've done Teshuvah alre...

Dear GYE Family, I hope everyone had an easy fast and a meaningful and uplifting Yom Kippur. Now as we move from the Yemei HaDin (which were also Yemei HaSimcha) into the days of Z'man Simchaseinu, I'd like to share a few thoughts ;with the chevra, which have special significance in our personal ...