Tips & Suggestions

In the summer time, many people have lots of time on their hands. The ;Michtav M'Eliahu (R. Dessler zt"l) writes ;that the mind is like a vast empty field. This field will not remain empty. If you do not fill it with good positive thoughts, or busy yourself with something, whether it be learning,...

  A Member posted on forum... One thing that works is Tefillah. Instead of asking Hashem for all the things YOU want, thank HIM for all the things ;he has done for you lately, like giving you a day without acting out. ; Keep doing this every day and you will see and feel the results of calm and s...

Summer time is harder. Wherever you go, there are mixed crowds of vacationers and immodestly dressed women. One-time-addicts are especially sensitive to what they see on the street. The nature of the addiction causes the chemicals in the mind to be quickly aroused. It is not enough to say "I am w...

An 18 year old Bachur posted his story on our forum along with the tips that he uses to help him stay clean. The story is particularly inspiring due to the fact that this boy received no Jewish Chinuch from his parents, and yet he is clean already for almost a year! If he can do it, what excuses...

Read what this holy Jew posted on the forum (edited a bit for clarity): As I require Internet access for my line of work, I had fallen into harmful patterns of not only porn usage, but also secular media and culture exposure. ; My rationalization for this was that I needed "something" to distract...

A member on the forum called "Tahor" posted: I am in my 40's. My second marriage. My first ended because of multiple affairs. At that time, I spent hour upon hour in Torah study. I attended the place of assembly regularly (SA groups). I formed small groups of men for accountability, and yet I fai...

The Yetzer Hara is stronger than us. We have no hope of beating him alone. After all, he was created by Hashem, so it's like trying to fight Hashem himself! The only way we can win him over is when Hashem himself steps in to fight for us. ;But how do we get Hashem to do this for us? I saw a beau...

The chizuk emails have been deepening something that I've been using lately to help fight the yetzer hara. Last year while learning Baba Metzia, the Rav gave and incredible explanation of the concept of 'kinyan'. ; He drew from Rebbe Nachman and other sources and described that there are many lev...

One of our members (whose story can be seen ;here) wrote the following e-mail to his partner who was struggling to break free of this addiction:   There are 2 areas that need to be addressed when dealing with this - the root cause, and the practical day-to-day challenges. For the root cause, I wo...

"Battleworn" posted recently on ;the Forum ; I want to point out a few things that I didn't know when I was a Bachur. I hope others will benefit from my experience. ;1) The struggle is not a problem but rather a gift from Hashem to make us grow. Although we must always avoid nisyonos (tests) as m...