Tips & Suggestions

The Gemara in Kidushin 81/a tells a story: Some women who had been taken captive were redeemed and brought to Nehardai. They were kept in the attic of Rav Amram the Chasid and ;the ladder was removed. At night, a ;beam of light reflected ;off one of the women, revealing her beauty. Rav Amram was ...

The ;"Jewish Healing Group" had a great FREE session this past Tuesday night, with a professional sex-therapist on the line who offered a lot of important information of the nature of the addiction. One important ;aspect mentioned by the therapist was, that although we are all religious, ;Mussar ...

Posted by 'Mevakesh Hashem' on ;the forum: One who thinks that they are ever "in full control" is opening himself up for a nasty fall, as the Yetzer Hara is a lot stronger than you! One must ALWAYS realize that they are never "in full control", rather they are in the control of Hashem Yisborach!...

Here are some excerpts from a discussion on ;our forum that's just packed with great tips and chizuk! (Some slight editing was done to make it easier to read). "Frumthinker" writes: I came across this site today, and I felt compelled to make some comments here. I won't say that I am very far alon...

In the summer time, many people have lots of time on their hands. The ;Michtav M'Eliahu (R. Dessler zt"l) writes ;that the mind is like a vast empty field. This field will not remain empty. If you do not fill it with good positive thoughts, or busy yourself with something, whether it be learning,...

  A Member posted on forum... One thing that works is Tefillah. Instead of asking Hashem for all the things YOU want, thank HIM for all the things ;he has done for you lately, like giving you a day without acting out. ; Keep doing this every day and you will see and feel the results of calm and s...

Summer time is harder. Wherever you go, there are mixed crowds of vacationers and immodestly dressed women. One-time-addicts are especially sensitive to what they see on the street. The nature of the addiction causes the chemicals in the mind to be quickly aroused. It is not enough to say "I am w...

An 18 year old Bachur posted his story on our forum along with the tips that he uses to help him stay clean. The story is particularly inspiring due to the fact that this boy received no Jewish Chinuch from his parents, and yet he is clean already for almost a year! If he can do it, what excuses...

Read what this holy Jew posted on the forum (edited a bit for clarity): As I require Internet access for my line of work, I had fallen into harmful patterns of not only porn usage, but also secular media and culture exposure. ; My rationalization for this was that I needed "something" to distract...

A member on the forum called "Tahor" posted: I am in my 40's. My second marriage. My first ended because of multiple affairs. At that time, I spent hour upon hour in Torah study. I attended the place of assembly regularly (SA groups). I formed small groups of men for accountability, and yet I fai...