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The iBoss Enterprise Web Filter has full integration and support of Youtube for schools. Youtube for schools can be enabled/disabled by group. Simply copy your unique Youtube ID into the group section and this will open access to Youtube for Edu. Note that you can still C...

In Israel, the bus companies have been incorporating speaker systems for all buses to announce every stop (this probably also exists in other parts of the world). Some would say this is for the blind but I choose to see the gift Hashem has given us. Previously I could a...

I think we may have lost focus a little... we've been taking it a little easy on lust... maybe allowing it a little wiggle room here or there.. It's time we look this addiction in the eye and proudly proclaim: Not one inch!... There is no room here for negotiations... If ...

What do we seek in lust? It is our subconscious that is craving true love and true security. There's a deep need inside of us that we desperately attempt to fill with lust. But the lust never fills it, and can NEVER fill it. The fulfillment of the most amazing fantasy we ...

The losers aren't the ones stuck in the dirt, but the ones who gave up the battle along the way. Fighting with (what seems to you to be) your last ounce of courage, is the proof of how much you're able to accomplish. Most of us with a few years and battles under our belt ...

We just installed a new spam-filter at work. It works like this: whenever we get an email from anyone in the world, our filter refuses it and sends it back to the server saying: "I'm busy now, can you try again in 5 minutes?"... The real legit e-mail servers simply try ag...

Last night I was feeling really upset about something. Months ago, I probably would have acted out. More recently, I would have told myself, "don't act out, don't act out." But lately, I've had a lot of success with catching these bad moods before they start and warding t...

In the video clip on this page, Rav Noach's eyes fill with tears and his voice breaks as he says: "Almighty, I know that You care about this much more than me, I know that You want me to succeed. I know that if You help me, we can change the whole world. I know You want t...

"HabaLetaher" Posts: I hate the "so busy - yet not doing anything" feeling that leaves me feeling dazed and confused. Sometimes a good run does it for me, a good sweat.. Then I come home, shower up... and BAM I got endorphins flowing and things just get snappier and more ...

I'm not counting the days now, but I know that I've passed two weeks clean. I am being very careful with my thoughts, not just my actions. I'm determined to remain clean during shovavim, and from there I'll work towards 90 days again. When I feel tempted and weak, I reali...

I would suggest that you carefully study the theory of Abraham Maslow on "The Hierarchy of Needs." He suggests that there are five sequential 'needs' aligned like a pyramid. Once the more primitive needs are met (safety, security, belonging), a person can begin to work on...

Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it. We fear that by giving up what we lust for, we are giving up great pleasures in life. False. By running after those lusts, we hurry past real pleasures (not only spiritual, even physical healthy...

Your comment about the TV and internet reminded me of a shiur I once heard from Rav Ezriel Tauber: He too was traveling, and was delayed overnight after a long hard day. The airline put him up in a fancy hotel with a huge TV screen and internet access. Being Rabbi Tauber,...

Just a thought... If someone is not addicted yet and has merely just begun to dabble in inappropriate sites, there might be a clean and simple solution. Pledge a $100 to tzedaka for each conscious, purposeful and clear infraction that involves looking at an inappropriate...

Movies are a no-no for any Jew serious about guarding his eyes, and a thousand times more so for a lust addict. Even the most "innocent" movies today are filled with triggers. Click here for an article on movies by the famous Arutz 7 blogger, Tzvi Fishman. If after readin...

With me, the YH's most successful tactic is when he makes me feel tired of fighting...Not interested in battling...Just want to give in.He says:"Enough already...Block out all those thoughts of chizuk...They are old, I heard them already...They don't motivate me anymore.....

Powerlessness is what the balei mussar call destroying the "Anochi"; the "self".The Chassidishe seforim call it "being batul u'mevutal to the ohr ayn sof"But being powerless does not make you one iota less responsible for your actions.Being powerless does not mean helples...

The question is always the "self". "I" fight for Hashem. "I" do for you. "I" had a bad day. The reference point of my existence - is me. I feel my self-identity very deeply. And the paradox is, that when I hold onto to the self, I do not truly have it. You see, it could b...