Tips & Suggestions

I'm not counting the days now, but I know that I've passed two weeks clean. I am being very careful with my thoughts, not just my actions. I'm determined to remain clean during ;shovavim, and from there I'll work towards 90 days again. When I feel tempted and weak, I realize that it's just my add...

I would suggest that you carefully study the theory of Abraham Maslow on "The Hierarchy of Needs." He suggests that there are five sequential 'needs' aligned like a pyramid. Once the more primitive needs are met (safety, security, belonging), a person can begin to work on achieving success (self-...

Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it. We fear that by giving up what we lust for, we are giving up great pleasures in life. False. By running after those lusts, we hurry past ;real pleasures (not only spiritual, even physical ;healthy real ;pleasures), and ...

Your comment about the TV and internet reminded me of a shiur I once heard from Rav Ezriel Tauber: He too was traveling, and was delayed overnight after a long hard day. The airline put him up in a fancy hotel with a huge TV screen and internet access. Being Rabbi Tauber, these posed no real chal...

Just a thought... ; If someone is not addicted yet and has merely just begun to dabble in inappropriate sites, there might be a clean and simple solution. ;Pledge a $100 to tzedaka for each conscious, purposeful and clear infraction that involves looking at an inappropriate image on the web or mo...

Movies are a no-no for any Jew serious about guarding his eyes, and a thousand times ;more so for a lust addict. Even the most "innocent" movies today are filled with triggers. Click ;here for an article on movies by the famous Arutz 7 blogger, Tzvi Fishman. If after reading this article, you sti...

With me, the YH's most successful tactic is ;when he makes me feel tired of fighting...Not interested in battling...Just want to give in.He says:"Enough already...Block out all those thoughts of chizuk...They are old, I heard them already...They don't motivate me anymore....Who cares, it's just n...

Powerlessness is what the ;balei mussar call destroying the ;"Anochi"; the "self".The ;Chassidishe seforim call it "being ;batul u'mevutal to the ;ohr ayn sof"But being powerless does not make you ;one iota less responsible for your actions.Being powerless does not mean helpless.My ;zayda says in...

The question is always the "self". ;"I" fight for Hashem. ;"I" do for you. ;"I" had a bad day. The reference point of my existence - is ;me. I feel my self-identity very deeply. And the paradox is, that when I hold onto to the self, I do not truly have it. You see, it could be that we truly did -...

You fell? So what. Like "Bardichev" always says, ;"fell shmell". We are not perfect and we are not ;supposed to be perfect. We are meant to fall. If not, why would we be here? So I don't really give a ;hoot that you fell. Yes, when I first heard about it, I was down. Not because you fell, but bec...