Tips & Suggestions

If you are sitting by the computer at work and a strong urge comes to you, just get up and walk out of the room. Take a walk and pray. Whenever you feel weak, just stop what you are doing and pray. Say: "Hashem, please save me from this menuval! He is too strong for me! O...

Our website and network is called "GuardUrEyes" because the eyes are the "windows to the soul". All the limbs of the body - including the heart and mind, follow the purity of the eyes. No matter how complex this disease seems to be, emotionally, psychologically, physicall...

Today is Hoshana Rabba, the last chance for Teshuvah before the final "Chasimah" of the new year. We need to have a clear cut plan if we want to succeed in doing true Teshuvah. We need to make sure that visiting forbidden sites and masturbation is simply "not an option" f...

I want to share with you a beautiful story of recovery that someone posted on www.jewishsexuality.com. The story contains tips and ideas that can help us all in this struggle, but what I found the nicest about it, is the simple no-nonsense outlook that the writer has, acc...

"Habib613" posted on the forum: I'm starting to feel the yetzer hara following me around, telling me how disgusting and fake I am. I am trying not to let it get to me. I am fighting. GYE Replies: Never let the Yetzer hara tell you that you are fake. Chaza"l say that Mosh...

Someone sent me a nice article from www.jewishworldreview.com By Rabbi Zelig Pliskin. The philosophy behind this idea can help us in our struggle with the Yetzer Hara. Five Powerful Words: 'What Can I Do Now?' Develop the habit of asking yourself, "What can I do now?" Th...

Every Midah (attribute) that Hashem created, can be used for either good or bad. How can the attribute of "laziness" be used for good? Well, one powerful way to fight the Yetzer Hara is simply to be LAZY about sinning. The Yetzer Hara wants us to act out, but what if we j...

Today begins the six week period known as "Shovavim", which is an acronym made up of the first letters of the Parshios of these 6 weeks, Shmos, Va'era etc... Shovavim is a very auspicious time for Teshuvah, based on the Pasuk "Shuvu Banim Shovavim - return, my wayward chi...

"Poshut Yid" posted today on the forum: I have failed! I have fallen. After 32 days I lost it. I knew I was losing it and I couldn't stop myself. It started with Facebook and I spent the whole day on the computer surfing. I even went home for supper and came back and thou...

After we talked about taking drastic measures in the past, "Mevakesh" sent us the following e-mail: I'll tell you something that I have been doing for a while and it seems to be working and may work for others. Every time I find myself looking at a woman for more time tha...

Staying happy, upbeat and positive is one of the biggest keys to success in this struggle. Chanukah is over, there's war in Israel, the cold winter lies before us and there have been falls and slips here and there. The Yetzer Hara wants more than anything to drag us down ...

I came across an awesome song called "Moishi On-Line" by "Destiny 4". Click here to listen to it. The song is a great example of how a person sometimes must take drastic measures to save his soul. Although most of us can't afford to smash our computers, there are other th...

Some important points of Chizuk from "Battleworn" on the forum to someone who was having a hard time guarding his eyes and who found that focusing on guarding his eyes made it even harder for him: 1) Your life's focus must always be on the positive. You absolutely can't g...

"Habib613" posted the following yesterday on the forum: Baruch Hashem, today is day 9. I cannot believe I made it this long! It's incredibly difficult, especially at night when there is no one around. But this site has helped tons! I listen to music while I work, and it b...

Some may protest the above title. "Why do we need to look for psychological explanation when someone acts out sexually?" they protest. There is a simple explanation. It's called taivah (lust) and yetzer hara (evil inclination). Looking for psychological explanations, they...

"Be-Holy" posted once on the forum: We have kosher internet Rimon and my temptations are getting lighter, but my issue is that I still can't look my wife in the eye because I wish she looked better, and in my mind, I want her to dress sexier - while at the same time knowi...

Jack writes to ShomerAyin: Dear ShomerAyin, I feel your pain and frustration because I've been there. It's true, nothing seems to help. But group support really does help. And there is one more thing you need: brute strength. But you can't do it alone, no matter how stron...

ShomerAiyin had a slip after 12 days and writes: I remember saying "No" to the Yetzer Hara quite a number of times during the past 12 days, so I guess that's gotta count for something. But the fact that I've only been able to string together bunches of clean days separate...