Tips & Suggestions

I have really begun to feel and see the Yad Hashem more and more as I learn to ;let go of control. Strangely, the idea that I am not in control has led me to ;increased responsibility for my actions, because they are the sole thing for which I am responsible (Hashem is 100% in charge of the resul...

I need to learn from my fall, and this past fall has taught me that I have to cancel my Facebook account. It's really a waste of time anyway. The only reason I've been keeping the account is to see what's new in my friend's lives, see new photos of their kids, and have all of their email addresse...

Excerpts of Battleworns's "Torah Approach" on our Forum ;Here. In this struggle, we must internalize the following truths: a) Those who struggle with this issue should understand that the purpose Hashem sent us to this world was to work on this very issue! b) The reason we are given a lifetime, i...

I'm sorry to say I had a fall yesterday. I didn't post right away, cuz I was depressed. I was extremely MAD at myself and I felt soooooooooo lost. I hated every part of me and my animalistic desire to sin. The feeling of shame trickled down all over my body. I felt oh so far f...

There are many people who are desperate and say that they would do ;anything ;to be free of the compulsion. Here is something that will indeed take much ;effort, but if one is really ready to do ;anything, this can help greatly: WATCH YOUR SPEECH! Be meticulous in avoiding ALL ;l...

There was an incident that taught me something about turning to Hashem for help: At a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous in Jerusalem, one man who was seven years sober related that he had resisted AA at first because it was God-oriented, and he was an atheist. "One day", he said, "I w...

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We have a member on our forum who calls himself "Momo". When he first read through the GYE handbooks (here), they did not seem to have a lasting effect on him. We managed to convince him however, that the handbooks can't work unless we read them slowly and try to IMPLEMENT t...

Dear Neshama, you've come to the right place! As much as reading your story was painful, it also made me smile because it is SO typical. ;Everyone ;who turns to us for help at first, thinks (and I quote your words below): - "I feel like I don't have an ounce of self control". - "...

One of the slogans of the 12-step program is "Keep it simple (stupid)". It is important to keep things simple. We make things difficult by complicating them. "Simple" does not mean "easy." A command to lift a 100 pound weight is simple, it's just very hard. If we keep things s...