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Someone posted a great question on the forum: I AM WONDERING IF THERE IS ANYTHING ONE CAN DO NOT TO GET STIMULATED FROM TRIGGERING SIGHTS OR SITUATIONS? I AM NOT LOOKING FOR NISYONOS RATHER I AM TRYING TO FIND A WAY HOW TO CONTROL MY MIND AFTER I SEE SOMETHING THAT BOTHER...

Yakov provides tons of Chizuk and inspiration for so many of us on the forum, and we are truly blessed to have him with us. May these "90 days" be merely a first step for him, in a life-time of Kedusha and divine service. May he truly merit to fulfill the words of the Tor...

Let us all remind ourselves what it was that pushed us to seek help. What was it about the addiction that we hated the most? If we focus on that, it will help us not to slip or fall. For me it was as follows: A. I was using it as a crutch for instant gratification B. I kn...

Here is "Me's" very inspiring e-mail to us (edited for clarity). There is much to be learned from it: Shalom, B"H, tonight is my 2nd arrival at 90 days. The first time, I was running fearfully from the Yetzer Hara until I ended up falling. The second time around though, I...

Day 57! WOW!I wanted to share a few things that "occurred" to me over Pesach.Those of you who have been following my journal know that I am working on abstinence from food addiction as well. Over Pesach I was surrounded with food and guests and the works. I can't tell you...

This motzaei Shabbos I had to stay up half the night for a work related item. I had not anticipated having to stay up and was caught somewhat off guard. All the symptoms that normally preceded a slip began appearing. I was resentful for having to stay up, there was a stre...

B"H I have reached 90 days. Mazal Tov. I can't begin to express my gratitude to you and your web site on helping me reach this stage. The way I look at 90 days, is like finally finishing the first step to healing from this disease. I see this as being the first step of a...

Today, Yaakov is doing fantastically well and is helping us inspire many other strugglers on the forum. Hi, I am new to this forum. I have been reading some of your posts in the past few weeks as I was trying to get acquainted with the site and I have been so inspired. I ...

If you're feeling down, vulnerable, weak or depressed, it's easy to begin to feel that this journey to sobriety is just "not worth it"... But perhaps a "paradigm shift" in attitude can change everything. What's a "paradigm shift"? Stephen Covey (author of the best-selling...

Ahron Posted on the Forum: I have gotten to the point where I can occasionally understand why "normal" people view p***n as repulsive (not all the time though). I'm happy about that. However seeing pretty women on the street, even with no further thought beyond the first ...

In our "Practical Tips" section on our site (at the very bottom of the page), we present a tip called "The Last Resort" for someone who is about to stumble. We offer an alternative to viewing pictures of flesh that will turn one "on", namely by showing pictures of flesh t...

I was on the street, walking back from getting lunch at a milchig restaurant in Manhattan because of course, it's the Nine Days so we don't eat meat. But the Yetzer Hara doesn't mind that one, it seems. He was much more intent on getting me to lust after women who felt th...

Here's what helped me after a 15 year addiction. . . A rabbi was saying that if you would rather DIE than eat a bug, that Hashem won't have it happen that you will ever eat a bug. I had heard this before as a Chasidic story, but the Rabbi said it in such a way, he said th...

HOW TO START EACH DAY RIGHT 1. Open a new file in your computer.2. Name it 'Lust'. 3. Send it to the Recycle Bin. 4. Empty the Recycle Bin. 5. Your PC will ask you: 'Do you really want to get rid of Lust?6. Firmly Click 'Yes'

I just saw an ad for GYE on YeshivaWorld.com. It reminded me of the ad I saw last August that changed my life. Wow - it's almost a year that I'm clean of the bad stuff!! (See Jack's 90 day timeline here). But, I know I could fall in a second - so I'd better not be too hau...

Someone who has been on our forum for a long time and put in a lot of effort to break this addiction and yet still continued to have occasional falls, wrote on the forum: I think many of us have given it our all. We've made drastic changes in our lives, created many fence...

I'm sorry if you weren't warned, but the fact is - this forum is a one way street; there is no leaving! This is a club of fighters, not winners. In truth, we are winners, because not giving up IS winning. When the angels claimed that the Torah should be given to them and...

Rav Arush discusses how people get depressed because even though they try their best to succeed, they fail and continue to fall. He writes that if someone gets depressed, he should realize that he doesn't have enough Emunah, because he thinks that he could accomplish some...