Tips & Suggestions

First and foremost I thank this very special group, the finest of the finest, called GYE. For many decades I could not rid myself of using porn and acting out until I found this site. Today, thanks to Hashem, I am three years clean. I often have to travel by plane for...

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Triggers: The Why Matters In order how to understand how triggers work and how to avoid them, the larger question of the why a person is triggered must be addressed. A preoccupation with pornography might begin as just that--a preoccupation/bad habit--but it can easily mo...

Somewhere in our past life, we may have picked up the idea that it's not all right to ask for help, that asking for help would be a sign of weakness. Recovery calls for some basic changes in our thinking, and when we feel vulnerable is the best time to reach out and ask ...

Keeping my eyes and my thoughts away from even mildly pornographic or destructive things is something I believe is important and will make me a happier person. I want to be thinking about how to reach my dreams, how to be a better husband, how to do something awesome,...

"Sexual addicts need to remember the decades of struggle that alcoholics had to go through in order to earn public acceptance of their illness." ~ Patrick Carnes Sex is a normal, healthy urge. But for the sex addict, it becomes perverted into a cop...

I always wished I could save that horrible, sickening feeling of shame and regret after the aveirah in a container, and then I could open it the next time I am thinking about acting out, and it would remind me and wake me up like a cold shower and surely prevent me from...

ADDITIONAL TOOLS FOR RECOVERYIMPROVE RELATION WITH SELFEMERGENCY TOOLS 1. Short prayer, "I'm powerless, please G-d help me!"2. Move somewhere else. (Get away from the trigger!)3. Pick up litter.4. Sing (or hum) a favorite tune. Or listen to music.5. Call someone from the ...