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During these Three Weeks, in addition to mourning the destruction of the physical Yerushalayim, we must turn our focus inward and dig deep with ourselves, to mourn our own destruction. Who could we have become if we hadn't let sin take root? What happened to that innocen...

As we all know, the Internet is a cesspool of shmutz. And yet, in the modern era, it's almost impossible to live without it. So, like walking on the streets, where you need to know which are the safe places to go and which are not, and what behavior is safe and what is ...

I'm a lust addict. What does that mean? It means that even when I'm not actually doing the big act, I'm thinking about it. I'm fantasizing. I'm checking out women for lower-level excitement. And the pressure builds until I am completely out of control and act out again...

1) Always guard your eyes carefully during the day. 2) Guard yourself from lustful thoughts. 3) The Kitzor Shulchan Aruch offers advice on preventing keri like reciting the first four Psalms before going to bed, and not overeating before retiring to sleep, and avoiding ...

A girl wrote: "I found the root of my addiction - ADHD. I'm a typical, frum, 20-year-old girl from Lakewood. To an outsider I would seem like I have everything going for me: I come from a beautiful family; I am smart, pretty, fun, wealthy, thin, popular... And in a way, i...

I just want to respond to someone who said that he "just can not say no (to lust)." I am a member of Sexaholics Anonymous. What works for me is realizing that I am totally NOT in control and only God can get me out of this. Therefore, whenever I feel "I just can't say no,...

Guys - here's why I appreciate the forum and YOU!When I started on the holy GYE forum more than half a year ago, I asked the following question: "I've been wondering if people with mild Aspergers are more vulnerable to the lure of pornography"I quoted from "Asperger Syndr...

Perhaps you've heard the news. Iceland is gearing up to ban Internet pornography. It won't only be a crime, it would be straight-up impossible to look at porn with government filters in place. Soon, your first step to freedom could be to move to Iceland. I've priced tic...

I go to Las Vegas twice a year for a business convention. This past time I decided that I had enough of the seedy Strip and instead I stayed at the La Quinta in Summerlin, next door to Rabbi Wyne’s Shul (Young Israel of LV). I really enjoyed myself. I was able to sit ou...

Help other anonymous members on GYE by chatting and posting chizuk! Do u know the relationship between your two eyes? They Blink Together, Move together, Cry together, See things together & Sleep together. Even though they NEVER EVER SEE OTHER.

Although it took place more than fourteen years ago, the conversation I had with my Rebbi, Rav Mosheh Twersky zt”l Hy”d, in the wake of 9/11 remains vivid in my mind. As I imagine many people felt at that time, a sense of emotional disorientation and feeling rudderless ...

Thank you for your mail. It helps me to find the strength to face this situation, without being overwhelmed. I knew that being mad and so upset was neither appropriate nor helpful reaction to his fall, but I could not find my way out of my painful feelings. When I read yo...

The marriage guru and researcher John Gottman, Ph.D. uncovered a fascinating dynamic that seems counter-intuitive. Statistically, there is an inverse relationship between how free spouses feel to say they are not in the mood and decline sex and the frequency of sex the co...

If you're reading this, it's likely that you've been struggling with Shmiras Ainayim for years with ups and downs, and can't seem to get a full grip on it. Well, you're not alone. This is one of man's greatest struggles, and all the more so for people who already became...

Porn was our escape. A destructive and co-dependent escape, but an escape nonetheless. When hard times came into our lives, we would dodge them and go running for a fix rather than dealing with them head on. The release we felt from using porn would numb us to the bumps ...

Accepting and living in reality is the foundation of the recovery process. When we have faith in a Power greater than ourselves, we accept the fact that we are no longer in control and that what is happening for us at this time is in our Higher Power’s hands, not ours. W...

This article is being published courtesy of https://www.1st-man.com/nofap-timeline/. Whether this is new to you, or you’ve heard of the concept and wanted to explore it further, you cannot deny that the entire notion is intriguing. It is common belief that regular masturb...