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Here's the tool in a simplified version: 1) We all know that throughout history, Jews for the most part willingly gave up their lives rather than bow down to idols or convert to other religions. In fact, says Rabbi Shneur Zalman, this is the nature of every Jew - that he ...

"Chizkiyahu" writes: For a while, I thought that the battle was simply yetzer tov vs. yetzer hara. I thought that if I simply strengthened my yetzer tov by learning more Torah, doing more mitzvos, etc. that the yetzer hara would simply fall away on its own. Instead, the y...

Learn to relax while you are doing your work. Tension is a habit. Relaxing is a habit. And bad habits can be broken and good habits can be formed.How do you relax? Do you start with your mind, or do you start with your nerves?You don't start with either, you always begin ...

I fell about a week ago because I became disinterested in the battle. I could have easily won. In fact, after 50 days clean, my habits had set me not to fall. But I broke it anyway because I had lost my inspiration to stay in the fight, as easy as it was. I think it was b...

I've had some addiction counseling in the past and the therapist said that addiction is base on a cycle of thought; premise, action, confirmation.It begins:1 - I am bad so I do bad things (premise)2 - Then we act out and do something we know is bad/wrong etc... (action)3 ...

The process of protecting an Android device is a 3 step process: Step 1. a. Sign up for a monthly Covenant Eyes account here https://secure.cvnt.net/signup/?nocode you can complete this on your computer.b. From your Android device open the web browser and go to http://www...

Last night I met with Rav Shlachter, (a sex-addiction therapist and author of the book "The First Day of the Rest of My Life"). He thought that the insights I had about my childhood trauma were on the mark, but he doesn't like to dwell on the past. That's history! What's ...

Stress often leads and addict to his "drug". When we feel stress, it's important to immediately pinpoint the cause. Once we've pinpointed it, we can than ask ourselves: "Is acting-out going to 'solve' this?" - "Can it take away the 'cause' of my stress?". The answer to th...

How are you doing? 1,000 unique chizuk e-mail members... wow. You're one busy guy, keep up the good work! Since you're still my accountability partner (from over a year ago), here's an update: B"H I'm still clean based on the rules of the Wall Of Honor for 15 months now. ...

HELLO ALL HEILIGEHS AND HEILIGOS, TODAY IS SEVEN MONTHS THAT I AM OFF THE CYCLE OF:SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN, SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN, SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN SHTUSS/SHMUTZ... OK, WITHOUT ANY FANFARE AND ONE SHOT OF WOODFORD, HERE GOES: I LEARNED 4 P...

Like many people, I have tried and failed many times to be free of my addiction. Since I became aware that I had a problem about six years ago, my longest sobriety period has been a little over 50 days. That run was pure will-power. Recently, I managed to stay clean for o...

"Letakein" Posted: Yesterday, I was feeling sad and I realized that I hadn't spoken to Hashem in English in a really long time. I was driving and I just started talking out loud as if Hashem was in the passenger seat right next to me. As soon as I started with, "Hi Hashem...

Filtering & Monitoring for Android devices: Android devices are particularly hard to filter. There are workarounds, loopholes etc. So in conjunction with a filter, reporting software is highly advisable, which will monitor all web logs and send a report to your Rav or...

The Steipler talks about these nisyonos in Kraina de'igrisa, and he tells us not to think about the past, but only to look forward. Even Teshuvah, the Steipler writes, should be left for once a person is married, lest it bring him to "atzvus". He also tells people not to ...

People who suffer from low self-esteem and/or depression are often more prone to addictive behaviors (be it alcohol, drugs, or lust). We use the addiction to "self-sooth" feelings of inadequacy, and to escape from ourselves and from the harsh world around us. Also, the "l...

Life really is a good place to be visiting. Force yourself to notice the sunshine, the fall leaves, the chirping birds. Take a walk and notice the gurgling baby in his stroller, the school kids laughing and running home to play. Notice life, everyday, 'boring' life. Notic...

StayFocusd is a Google Chrome extension that helps Internet procrastinators focus on their work instead of browsing copious amounts of time-wasting material. This add-on is useful when you want to limit how much time you spend on a particular Web site, or even the entire ...

In this book that I read (and am re-reading) by a sexual addiction therapist called "The First Day of the Rest of My Life", this woman goes about a tremendous life-changing day-at an amusement park. Basically, we have fallen into the addiction because we live lives of fea...