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It's Elul and we all want to start doing Teshuvah, but we ask ourselves "Where do we start?". Someone posted on the forum yesterday something simple yet profound from the Chofetz Chaim (and we added it to our Teshuva page). The Chofetz Chaim says that the essence of doing...

The Gemara in Kidushin 81/a tells a story: Some women who had been taken captive were redeemed and brought to Nehardai. They were kept in the attic of Rav Amram the Chasid and the ladder was removed. At night, a beam of light reflected off one of the women, revealing her ...

The "Jewish Healing Group" had a great FREE session this past Tuesday night, with a professional sex-therapist on the line who offered a lot of important information of the nature of the addiction. One important aspect mentioned by the therapist was, that although we are ...

Posted by 'Mevakesh Hashem' on the forum: One who thinks that they are ever "in full control" is opening himself up for a nasty fall, as the Yetzer Hara is a lot stronger than you! One must ALWAYS realize that they are never "in full control", rather they are in the cont...

Here are some excerpts from a discussion on our forum that's just packed with great tips and chizuk! (Some slight editing was done to make it easier to read). "Frumthinker" writes: I came across this site today, and I felt compelled to make some comments here. I won't say...

In the summer time, many people have lots of time on their hands. The Michtav M'Eliahu (R. Dessler zt"l) writes that the mind is like a vast empty field. This field will not remain empty. If you do not fill it with good positive thoughts, or busy yourself with something, ...

  A Member posted on forum... One thing that works is Tefillah. Instead of asking Hashem for all the things YOU want, thank HIM for all the things he has done for you lately, like giving you a day without acting out. Keep doing this every day and you will see and feel th...

Summer time is harder. Wherever you go, there are mixed crowds of vacationers and immodestly dressed women. One-time-addicts are especially sensitive to what they see on the street. The nature of the addiction causes the chemicals in the mind to be quickly aroused. It is ...

An 18 year old Bachur posted his story on our forum along with the tips that he uses to help him stay clean. The story is particularly inspiring due to the fact that this boy received no Jewish Chinuch from his parents, and yet he is clean already for almost a year! If h...

Read what this holy Jew posted on the forum (edited a bit for clarity): As I require Internet access for my line of work, I had fallen into harmful patterns of not only porn usage, but also secular media and culture exposure. My rationalization for this was that I needed...

A member on the forum called "Tahor" posted: I am in my 40's. My second marriage. My first ended because of multiple affairs. At that time, I spent hour upon hour in Torah study. I attended the place of assembly regularly (SA groups). I formed small groups of men for acco...

The Yetzer Hara is stronger than us. We have no hope of beating him alone. After all, he was created by Hashem, so it's like trying to fight Hashem himself! The only way we can win him over is when Hashem himself steps in to fight for us. But how do we get Hashem to do th...

The chizuk emails have been deepening something that I've been using lately to help fight the yetzer hara. Last year while learning Baba Metzia, the Rav gave and incredible explanation of the concept of 'kinyan'. He drew from Rebbe Nachman and other sources and described...

One of our members (whose story can be seen here) wrote the following e-mail to his partner who was struggling to break free of this addiction:   There are 2 areas that need to be addressed when dealing with this - the root cause, and the practical day-to-day challenges. ...

"Battleworn" posted recently on the Forum I want to point out a few things that I didn't know when I was a Bachur. I hope others will benefit from my experience. 1) The struggle is not a problem but rather a gift from Hashem to make us grow. Although we must always avoid...

"Nomer" posted on the Forum When you have an urge to check out a news story that involves anything sexual just to peak your interest or to stay informed of the 'news', AVOID it like the devil!!! I have fallen into this trap quite a few times and although it seemed innocen...

Rabbi Avraham J. Twerski sent us an article he found in Hebrew that he thought would be useful for our Chizuk (I believe that Rabbi Twerski personally translated it into English for us). Advice for Someone Tempted to View Forbidden Pictures - and a Tikkun If the yetzer ha...

When the Yetzer Hara strikes hard and we feel suddenly weak, vulnerable and afraid of falling, here are three things a person can do to save themselves: 1) Stop what you are doing and cry out to Hashem. "Hashem, the Yetzer Hara is too strong for me. I need you. I can't do...