Tips & Suggestions

In recent weeks I've been thinking about something I saw in one of Rabbi Noach Weinberg’s books where he speaks about reaching our goals. He says that the most common reason we don’t reach our goals is because it feels “heavy”, “painful” or “hard”, and therefore we don’t ...

Question: I’m 18 and according to Chazal I should get married. It is just not fair! My desires and urges are so great but I have at least 3 years to go until I get married! Sometimes I just feel like giving up. What is the proper outlook? Answer: First of all, Hashem sen...

I wanted to share my recent experience in the hopes that it can be mechazik others. I’m 30 and married, and like so many of us I’ve been batting in this area for years. There’s always ups and downs, but eventually I reached a point at which I felt I had things under co...

In response to Chizuk Boost #572: Bad Remorse Versus Good Remorse someone wrote: Thank you very much. I needed to hear this, and it is very true point. But what should I do when I try to be positive and move forward with joy and optimism, but then the thought comes "But h...

Every human being has a compartment in their brain for the area of intimacy. As long as this so-called "box" hasn't been opened yet, it remains only in potential and does not take up much bandwidth in the mind, if any at all. This is the normal case with pre-adolescent ...

I wanted to just share this... Recently, a fellow that I know from many years back was arrested for some deviant behavior in the realm of z'nus. Here was a guy just about my age and on the surface seemed to have had it all. A great job, beautiful family, prominence in the...

“AnonyJew” wrote: I'm just starting out on my journey. I jumped right into the 90 day challenge and made it 5 days before stumbling. But I didn't let the fall drag me down and just brushed myself off and restarted, but I realized that signing up to this website and saying...

Question from member "wilnevergiveup": I am a serious avreich learning full time, I learn mussar regularly and constantly strengthen myself with various incentives. I can then usually keep myself clean for 2-3 weeks, then this or that and I am back to square one. I will t...

I struggle with lust as far back as I can remember. I’m married now and I have a loving wife with beautiful children b”h. My wife knows about my struggles, but not the extent. I just started my journey on GYE and I’m a few days clean. However it was still a struggle for ...

Question: I need to air out and relax from work, family, etc. How can I deal with stress? I'm looking for healthy ideas and (non-addictive) outlets... Reply: In general, the best way to deal with stress is to ask ourselves at every given moment "What would Hashem want ...