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Heard a wonderful vort from Rabbi Yudin this morning that is particularly relevant to the addict. One of the root causes of the Egel was impetuousness, the bnei yisroel wanted instant gratification, which is usually the problem of the addict as well. We can't see tomorro...

Hi, Kol khakavod on this site! B"H I have had great siyatta dishmaya all my life, even though since I am 12 I have burning passion. (When I was 13 during studies in class, I had to literally inflict blows and bruises on my flesh in order to chase away fantasies). But I wa...

Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, LCSW-R, sent us the following overview on how he views the problem of lust addiction, and his solution through therapy: My clinical orientation is psychodynamic, relational, family systems, CBT to correct distorted thinking and beliefs, EMDR to rep...

In this week's Parsha the Torah sums up all of the donations that the Jews made to the Mishkan, both for the Keilim as well as the Bigdei Kehuna. The first question we must ask ourselves is, why is it so important to have an exact count of everything that was gathered? We...

I got a filter 3 weeks ago and it is amazing!! How could I have lived without it?!! Just by installing it, it helped me not even try to look at anything bad. For 3 weeks I was able to stay away from evil without a problem. At first my Yetzer Hara told me not to get a filt...

I don't know quite how to explain what I've started figuring out about this whole addiction thing, but I'm going to try to start to put it down. Basically, it boils down to this: I need to grow up.What I mean is, if I see something and it's 'triggering' I feel, "oh no, wh...

From the GYE Handbook Tool #6: Alternate Fulfillment: It is very important, at all levels of the struggle/addiction, to engage in exercise and physical activities on a regular basis, at least a few times a week. Besides for boosting self-esteem, exercise releases tensions...

Part of the compulsive aspect of it, is that I'd sit in front of a computer, and once I was there, it was a natural next step to look at garbage.One thing that helped me was to use my imagination. Before I was in the situation, I'd picture myself being tempted, and gettin...

Feeling bored and aimless while sitting in front of a computer is a recipe for disaster for an addict. It is so easy to be pulled to YouTube for some so-called "kosher" entertainment, but one click leads to another... and we all know where this can lead. In previous Chizu...

Hey, I need to thank you... A while back you recommended SSRI medication (after all else had failed - even live SA groups) and I dismissed it. But having failed repeatedly without meds, I started taking them and they've done wonders... I haven't had any lust attacks and I...

True happiness comes when we become givers not takers, when we give of ourselves to help others INCLUDING OUR WIVES. Linking happiness to fulfilling every life pleasure is more like bondage to self. The pleasure doesn't last. Take a vacation, for example. You have a great...

For once I feel like I have made some progress in this battle - after over a decade of failure. The most amazing thing happened to me today. I had a day off and I was reading the White Book (I can relate to it more than the 12 Steps AA book.) I really tried to internalize...

Going through Sha'ar Ha'bitachon in Chovos Ha'livavos six times helped (and still helps) me tremendously. (Addicts should start from chapter 1, not the 'pesicha' introduction, to the sha'ar, I think). It's just 70 pages of warm, warm loving words of compassion and persona...

GET YOURSELF HAPPY BY____; 1. Appreciating all that you have------ make a list-oral or written, and just enjoy all the abundance that is yours. 2. Overcoming doubts -------perhaps just say the word 'done' over and over again-ridding yourself of doubts and lettin...

1. G-d speaks with us all the time. 2. There is nothing & no one else but G-d [AIN OD MILVADO]. 3. Therefore, to the extent that we are real with G-d's omnipresence, we will be able to carry on a constant dialogue with G-d. 4. The Holy Baal Shem Tov taught that to the...

I was thinking about the difference between love and lust. Some people think that hate is the opposite of love. I disagree. I think that lust is the opposite of love. When you hate something or someone, you still have an outgoing energy towards that person or thing. Love ...

Chazal says, "Whoever has enough to eat today and says, 'What will I eat tomorrow?' such a person is lacking faith." Poshut pshat is that the person is lacking in faith because he is worried about tomorrow instead of relying on Hashem. The Kotzker, however, says a differ...

It's been a long time since I've posted on the forum. In the past two weeks I have come to the realization that I cannot be on the computer alone with internet access, despite filters and other means of prevention and discovery. So I unplugged my internet connection and m...