Attitude Tips

Question: I am currently struggling with lust and addiction. Not recovery, but continuously struggling. Some days are better then others. I need to work on myself and I know I have the wrong train of thought, but I am hoping that marriage will help change some of that lust into true feelings and ...

You're not going to believe this, but here goes - ; If not for this addiction, I would not have learned the concept of surrendering to G-d and the Torah, which all Jews have to do. The way I learned this crucial concept was, in trying to find what works in fighting an addiction, I found that we ...

After 3 1/2 years in 'the struggle', here are a few thoughts: ; 1. There are no chidushim - as the mesilas yesharim writes, we already know ;most of the things we need to know, it's a matter of reviewing them and putting them into practice. 2. Be patient with yourself - these things take time. ...

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You asked about davening for women you see on the street or work with at your job who you have a hard time getting out of your mind. ;The first business I have with Hashem's pretty women (and shiksas are of course ;His humans, too) is to have the right relationship with them. And the right relat...

Is It Helping or Enabling? ; You see a disheveled person asking for tzedakka: Is he an alcoholic or drug addict, or just a person down on his luck and in need of a helping hand? Your friend asks you to help him find a job, but to tell the truth, you don’t think your friend is responsible o...

When struggling with this issue, most people think they are just dealing with a much larger than usual Yetzer Hara, or simply a lack of self-control. It is neither of these. It is vital to understand that this is an addiction. An addiction is a spiritual and psychological disease. What classifies...

By ;Naomi Wolf in ;The Times, London   Andrea Dworkin, the anti-porn activist, rose to fame in the 1980s arguing that if we did not limit pornography most men would objectify women more intensively and treat them less as people than as porn stars. The floodgates would open; rape and other sexual ...

Suppose I were to call one of you on the phone and say the following:Hi, here’s what needs to be done today:First wash my car – scrub it well and rinse thoroughly.Next, my shoes need a perfect shine – make sure to buff them evenly.Third, my laundry needs to be done today. ;Make sure to fold ever...

There are three different mind-frames that one can use when he is faced with a strong challenge in ;Shmiras Ha'ainayim ;or ;Shmiras Ha'bris ;. Each person can choose the one that works best for him. There also may be times when one way will work better for you than the other ways, so it is import...