Attitude Tips

Learn how to bear the mental pain of saying "No" to yourself. Naturally, we go to what feels good and we stay away from pain. We got that from cows. Animals don't understand that a painful experience can be beneficial. Try and explain surgery to a cow. All the cow underst...

If you can't stop looking at pretty women, keep this in mind. From the smallest baby, to the prettiest woman, to the old fat man down the street, human beings are all made out of the same stuff; blood, veins, muscle tissue, guts and fat--all covered over with a thin layer...

We all believe in "S'char Ve'onesh" (divine reward and punishment). So here's a tip for staying strong and guarding your eyes. Sometimes we tell a child that if he does a Mitzvah he will get as much candy as he wants in the next world. This isn't a lie because the reward ...

Chaza"l and the Torah are generally very careful to speak in the cleanest language possible. When discussing the impure animals that came into the Ark with Noach, the Torah writes "Take with you seven of each pure animal and two of each animal which is not pure". The Tora...

The Torah says "Ki karov elecha hadavar me'od" - "for it (i.e. the Torah) is very close to you" (meaning that it is not difficult to uphold). The question is though, if so, why is it sometimes so hard?? The answer is, that the fight against these desires is truly only 10%...

Someone wrote the following on the forum... It has been a long and difficult few months with the struggle to overcome the addiction, but I have seen my own progress and awareness mature, and have recognised that there is will power after all. Not long ago I did stumble an...

I would like to share with you the advice of someone who recovered from a strong po-rnogrophy addiction. Every person can find the ways that work for them. If a person is determined, he will succeed. And each success story paves yet another spiritual path that others can ...

"Rabbeinu Yonah discusses various barriers to teshuva in Sha'arei Teshuva. But perhaps the greatest barrier most of us experience is a lack of belief in our capacity to change"... Yonason Rosenblum in an article on www.matzav.com. (Click here for the full article).   The ...

Taken from an article by Rabbi Avi Shafran on www.Matzav.com. (Click here for the full article). Among the collected letters of Rav Yitzchok Hutner, zt"l, is one that was written to a talmid whose own, earlier, letter to the Rosh Yeshiva had apparently evidenced the stu...

Battleworn posted his story on the forum, and he writes one of the best pieces of Chizuk that he heard as a Bachur, which helped him not to give up: I heard back then, I think in the name of R' Abramski zt'l, what I think might be the most important yesod in chizuk. He sa...

Someone that I am a sponsor for, recently wrote me as follows: One of the ideas mentioned on the weekly call this past Tuesday that I thought was great, is that it's OK to let painful feelings just sit there. It's OK to be in pain - it's part of life and it will pass. W...

Someone posted something beautiful on the forum. Ahhh, the Yetzer Harah. Yes, this shmendrick IS stronger than us, and yes, without Hashems help, we have NO chance of overcoming him. He knows this truth, and I personally have experienced this over many many years. I had ...

Posted by 'Mevakesh Hashem' on the forum: One who thinks that they are ever "in full control" is opening himself up for a nasty fall, as the Yetzer Hara is a lot stronger than you! One must ALWAYS realize that they are never "in full control", rather they are in the cont...

The Yetzer Hara is stronger than us. We have no hope of beating him alone. After all, he was created by Hashem, so it's like trying to fight Hashem himself! The only way we can win him over is when Hashem himself steps in to fight for us. But how do we get Hashem to do th...

The chizuk emails have been deepening something that I've been using lately to help fight the yetzer hara. Last year while learning Baba Metzia, the Rav gave and incredible explanation of the concept of 'kinyan'. He drew from Rebbe Nachman and other sources and described...

"Battleworn" posted recently on the Forum I want to point out a few things that I didn't know when I was a Bachur. I hope others will benefit from my experience. 1) The struggle is not a problem but rather a gift from Hashem to make us grow. Although we must always avoid...

"Habib613" posted on the forum: I'm starting to feel the yetzer hara following me around, telling me how disgusting and fake I am. I am trying not to let it get to me. I am fighting. GYE Replies: Never let the Yetzer hara tell you that you are fake. Chaza"l say that Mosh...

Someone sent me a nice article from www.jewishworldreview.com By Rabbi Zelig Pliskin. The philosophy behind this idea can help us in our struggle with the Yetzer Hara. Five Powerful Words: 'What Can I Do Now?' Develop the habit of asking yourself, "What can I do now?" Th...