Attitude Tips

One of the greatest challenges in the life of a Jew, especially in the generation we live in, is the concept of ;hotza'as zera levatalah, emitting seed in vain. This is an extremely difficult prohibition that many, many struggle with, often unsuccessfully. Unfortunately, it is also one of the mos...

I was in a grocery store, unloading my cart on the counter, and behind me was an attractive lady. She began unloading her stuff from the cart on the same counter as well. It was very triggering to me. I was turning back and forth for my stuff, and she was so close to me, also moving back and fort...

Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, teacher, parent, manager, or - fill in the blank here -, what percentage of your game do you think is mental? ; When Lanny Bassham, our Olympic gold-medal-winner, asks elite performers that question, they all say that elite performance is 90% mental. ;...

Habit #2 of "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey ; Begin with the End in Mind ; So, once we move from being reactive to being proactive (Habit #1), we realize we aren’t victims. We’re creators. Which, naturally, begs ;the ;question: What do we want to create? ; For that, ...

I just read a Medrash today that asks, "Why does Hashem forgive the sins of the Yidden and not those of the goyim?" Answers the Medrash, that when a goy sins it's because he wants to throw off the yoke of Heaven. But when a Yid sins, it's only out of taavah or laziness, but deep down he really wi...

Somewhere in our past life, we may have picked up the idea that it's not all right to ask for help, that asking for help would be a sign of weakness. ; Recovery calls for some basic changes in our thinking, and when we feel vulnerable is the best time to reach out and ask for help from our Higher...

The Lies The Truths If no one sees me, no one loves me. Porn gives me the feeling of being loved I am seen. I am worthy of love. When I am alone, I can hold on to love. I deserve this, I do some much, I deserve a break I deserve good self-care. My needs are important. In th...

; Porn is everywhere in our culture and is increasingly socially acceptable and even defended. You’ve been to the mall (bookstore, movie theater, etc.); you know that sex is largely seen as no big deal. What you may be wondering is why it matters. So what if porn is everywhere? Why does it matte...

A favorite saying in sports is, "It isn't losing to get knocked down. Losing is staying down." In life, as in sports, that idea makes great sense. Like "Let go and let God," or "Let it begin with me," it is a saying that reminds us of an important underlying principle. In this case the principle ...