Attitude Tips

I am 20 years old and a good boy, overall. I discovered pornography and masturbation at about age 13 or so. I got very into both of those things and etched those neuron pathways in good and deep, turning it into an addiction. I've tried to stop countless times, but just c...

Eye.nonymous Wrote: I had this very wise roommate in Yeshiva. After watching my long and futile struggle to get up in time for minyan he pointed out, "the secret to getting up in time is to go to bed on time." Sometimes we're just fighting the yetzer hara at the wrong en...

Here's the tool in a simplified version: 1) We all know that throughout history, Jews for the most part willingly gave up their lives rather than bow down to idols or convert to other religions. In fact, says Rabbi Shneur Zalman, this is the nature of every Jew - that he ...

I fell about a week ago because I became disinterested in the battle. I could have easily won. In fact, after 50 days clean, my habits had set me not to fall. But I broke it anyway because I had lost my inspiration to stay in the fight, as easy as it was. I think it was b...

Stress often leads and addict to his "drug". When we feel stress, it's important to immediately pinpoint the cause. Once we've pinpointed it, we can than ask ourselves: "Is acting-out going to 'solve' this?" - "Can it take away the 'cause' of my stress?". The answer to th...

How are you doing? 1,000 unique chizuk e-mail members... wow. You're one busy guy, keep up the good work! Since you're still my accountability partner (from over a year ago), here's an update: B"H I'm still clean based on the rules of the Wall Of Honor for 15 months now. ...

HELLO ALL HEILIGEHS AND HEILIGOS, TODAY IS SEVEN MONTHS THAT I AM OFF THE CYCLE OF:SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN, SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN, SHTUSS/SHMUTZ/CRY/DAVEN SHTUSS/SHMUTZ... OK, WITHOUT ANY FANFARE AND ONE SHOT OF WOODFORD, HERE GOES: I LEARNED 4 P...

"Letakein" Posted: Yesterday, I was feeling sad and I realized that I hadn't spoken to Hashem in English in a really long time. I was driving and I just started talking out loud as if Hashem was in the passenger seat right next to me. As soon as I started with, "Hi Hashem...

The Steipler talks about these nisyonos in Kraina de'igrisa, and he tells us not to think about the past, but only to look forward. Even Teshuvah, the Steipler writes, should be left for once a person is married, lest it bring him to "atzvus". He also tells people not to ...

People who suffer from low self-esteem and/or depression are often more prone to addictive behaviors (be it alcohol, drugs, or lust). We use the addiction to "self-sooth" feelings of inadequacy, and to escape from ourselves and from the harsh world around us. Also, the "l...