Attitude Tips

The jack is a simple machine. It allows you to lift or move something that otherwise would be too heavy. However, this ability doesn't come from nowhere. You have to move the lever much farther, so you are exerting a smaller force but over a larger distance. When someone ...

It's been frequently noted that to tell anyone, "I love you," we need first be able to declare the "I." And only when we develop a personal identity may we respond personally to life. So identification with another and with life is an art that starts with identifying ours...

Question: I am currently struggling with lust and addiction. Not recovery, but continuously struggling. Some days are better then others. I need to work on myself and I know I have the wrong train of thought, but I am hoping that marriage will help change some of that lus...

You're not going to believe this, but here goes - If not for this addiction, I would not have learned the concept of surrendering to G-d and the Torah, which all Jews have to do. The way I learned this crucial concept was, in trying to find what works in fighting an add...

After 3 1/2 years in 'the struggle', here are a few thoughts: 1. There are no chidushim - as the mesilas yesharim writes, we already know most of the things we need to know, it's a matter of reviewing them and putting them into practice. 2. Be patient with yourself - t...

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You asked about davening for women you see on the street or work with at your job who you have a hard time getting out of your mind. The first business I have with Hashem's pretty women (and shiksas are of course His humans, too) is to have the right relationship with th...

Is It Helping or Enabling? You see a disheveled person asking for tzedakka: Is he an alcoholic or drug addict, or just a person down on his luck and in need of a helping hand? Your friend asks you to help him find a job, but to tell the truth, you don’t think your...

When struggling with this issue, most people think they are just dealing with a much larger than usual Yetzer Hara, or simply a lack of self-control. It is neither of these. It is vital to understand that this is an addiction. An addiction is a spiritual and psychological...

By Naomi Wolf in The Times, London   Andrea Dworkin, the anti-porn activist, rose to fame in the 1980s arguing that if we did not limit pornography most men would objectify women more intensively and treat them less as people than as porn stars. The floodgates would open;...