Attitude Tips

Every Midah (attribute) that Hashem created, can be used for either good or bad. How can the attribute of "laziness" be used for good? Well, one powerful way to fight the Yetzer Hara is simply to be LAZY about sinning. The Yetzer Hara wants us to act out, but what if we j...

"Poshut Yid" posted today on the forum: I have failed! I have fallen. After 32 days I lost it. I knew I was losing it and I couldn't stop myself. It started with Facebook and I spent the whole day on the computer surfing. I even went home for supper and came back and thou...

Staying happy, upbeat and positive is one of the biggest keys to success in this struggle. Chanukah is over, there's war in Israel, the cold winter lies before us and there have been falls and slips here and there. The Yetzer Hara wants more than anything to drag us down ...

Some important points of Chizuk from "Battleworn" on the forum to someone who was having a hard time guarding his eyes and who found that focusing on guarding his eyes made it even harder for him: 1) Your life's focus must always be on the positive. You absolutely can't g...

Yakov provides tons of Chizuk and inspiration for so many of us on the forum, and we are truly blessed to have him with us. May these "90 days" be merely a first step for him, in a life-time of Kedusha and divine service. May he truly merit to fulfill the words of the Tor...

Here is "Me's" very inspiring e-mail to us (edited for clarity). There is much to be learned from it: Shalom, B"H, tonight is my 2nd arrival at 90 days. The first time, I was running fearfully from the Yetzer Hara until I ended up falling. The second time around though, I...

Day 57! WOW!I wanted to share a few things that "occurred" to me over Pesach.Those of you who have been following my journal know that I am working on abstinence from food addiction as well. Over Pesach I was surrounded with food and guests and the works. I can't tell you...

If you're feeling down, vulnerable, weak or depressed, it's easy to begin to feel that this journey to sobriety is just "not worth it"... But perhaps a "paradigm shift" in attitude can change everything. What's a "paradigm shift"? Stephen Covey (author of the best-selling...

I was on the street, walking back from getting lunch at a milchig restaurant in Manhattan because of course, it's the Nine Days so we don't eat meat. But the Yetzer Hara doesn't mind that one, it seems. He was much more intent on getting me to lust after women who felt th...

I just saw an ad for GYE on YeshivaWorld.com. It reminded me of the ad I saw last August that changed my life. Wow - it's almost a year that I'm clean of the bad stuff!! (See Jack's 90 day timeline here). But, I know I could fall in a second - so I'd better not be too hau...

I'm sorry if you weren't warned, but the fact is - this forum is a one way street; there is no leaving! This is a club of fighters, not winners. In truth, we are winners, because not giving up IS winning. When the angels claimed that the Torah should be given to them and...

Rav Arush discusses how people get depressed because even though they try their best to succeed, they fail and continue to fall. He writes that if someone gets depressed, he should realize that he doesn't have enough Emunah, because he thinks that he could accomplish some...

The miracle is in process at this very moment! It is more useful for me to be aware of one short coming in myself, than realizing a thousand in someone else. Happiness is not ready made, it is built through our actions. I know that true happiness comes from Hashem - ...

I have really begun to feel and see the Yad Hashem more and more as I learn to let go of control. Strangely, the idea that I am not in control has led me to increased responsibility for my actions, because they are the sole thing for which I am responsible (Hashem is 100%...

Excerpts of Battleworns's "Torah Approach" on our Forum Here. In this struggle, we must internalize the following truths: a) Those who struggle with this issue should understand that the purpose Hashem sent us to this world was to work on this very issue! b) The reason we...

I'm sorry to say I had a fall yesterday. I didn't post right away, cuz I was depressed. I was extremely MAD at myself and I felt soooooooooo lost. I hated every part of me and my animalistic desire to sin. The feeling of shame trickled down all over my bod...

There was an incident that taught me something about turning to Hashem for help: At a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous in Jerusalem, one man who was seven years sober related that he had resisted AA at first because it was God-oriented, and he was an atheist. ...

We have a member on our forum who calls himself "Momo". When he first read through the GYE handbooks (here), they did not seem to have a lasting effect on him. We managed to convince him however, that the handbooks can't work unless we read them slow...