Attitude Tips

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You asked about davening for women you see on the street or work with at your job who you have a hard time getting out of your mind. The first business I have with Hashem's pretty women (and shiksas are of course His humans, too) is to have the right relationship with th...

Is It Helping or Enabling? You see a disheveled person asking for tzedakka: Is he an alcoholic or drug addict, or just a person down on his luck and in need of a helping hand? Your friend asks you to help him find a job, but to tell the truth, you don’t think your...

When struggling with this issue, most people think they are just dealing with a much larger than usual Yetzer Hara, or simply a lack of self-control. It is neither of these. It is vital to understand that this is an addiction. An addiction is a spiritual and psychological...

By Naomi Wolf in The Times, London   Andrea Dworkin, the anti-porn activist, rose to fame in the 1980s arguing that if we did not limit pornography most men would objectify women more intensively and treat them less as people than as porn stars. The floodgates would open;...

Suppose I were to call one of you on the phone and say the following:Hi, here’s what needs to be done today:First wash my car – scrub it well and rinse thoroughly.Next, my shoes need a perfect shine – make sure to buff them evenly.Third, my laundry needs to be done today....

There are three different mind-frames that one can use when he is faced with a strong challenge in Shmiras Ha'ainayim or Shmiras Ha'bris . Each person can choose the one that works best for him. There also may be times when one way will work better for you than the other ...

The middah of humility is one of the most powerful tools in dealing with sexual desire and obsession. When you are feeling weak, vulnerable and needy, and everything inside you in craving to just give in, one of the best ways to overcome the test is to just let go and say...

Rav Nachman says, the name of the Yetzer Hara in our generation is "Dimyon" - "imagination". This is very deep. That's truly all the Yetzer Hara is, a big bubble of "imaginary" pleasure that just pops in your face! Think about it. Sexuality is really 97% desire and only 3...

Never underestimate the value of each and every time you say no to yourself. Sometimes a person is feeling weak and says to themselves, "what's the difference if I look now at something that I know I shouldn't - I'm anyway not feeling strong now". You must believe in the ...