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I have been grappling with a problem. My Filter had a loophole which when manipulated, allowed real nasty images to pass through. I was Mekabel a while back to contact the filter Gabai and have the problem fixed... I tried a few times but kept on missing him. Lately, I co...

Yosef Hatzadik writes: They say that hindsight has 20/20 vision. When feeling weak, remember how you felt after you followed the Yetzer's advice last time. Even more so, remember how good you felt when YOU DID NOT DO AS THE YETZER HORA WANTS!!!! Which is better? Which d...

I came across an interesting Gemora in Horiyos, for those learning the daf. The Gemara relates how Klal Yisroel brought 12 korbanos for sinning with Avoda Zara (Par Healam Davar). The Gemara asks, "According to R' Yehuda who holds that each shevet requires their own korba...

Moshe wrote on the forum: I feel like I'm hopeless. I've tried almost everything, but I am locked in a vicious cycle of good, bad and ugly days. Every time a few good days pass, I get the good feeling and forget about my effort of recovery, even though I know it won't las...

Someone writes on the forum: Day 52, no masturbation... but the house is in a total state of chaos. My child is behaving badly, my wife is in a crisis unable to cope, husband (me) trying to intervene, wife undermining me at all times and then (of course) screaming at me a...

I know that Hashem will help me with this. I know that it's an illusion. I know that the void I feel inside, is all part of the illusion and part of the trap, which the Yetzer hara uses to entice us. Like R' Nachman's parable of the man in the market with his closed hand/...

At first glance, all these struggles seem to equal the problem itself. Stop acting-out, goes the theory, and life will be cured. And the sad truth is that... as difficult as this may seem to many of us... the real truth is even trickier.I think whatever is making us want,...

Here is what I learned today in therapy. I shouldn't view the urge to masturbate as something evil. It's a totally natural urge, which comes from a section in my brain that seeks to have pleasure at all times. I should not feel guilty if I have lust, rather I should refra...

A number of years ago, I spoke to my Rebbi/Rosh Yeshiva (who is world famous) and I told him that I feel like I am being controlled from the outside and have no physical control over my body and ability to control my actions in my area of weakness. He gave me some ideas, ...

Someone wrote: I'm scared that if I fall, I'll have to start over again and it's gonna be hard. I've come so far and I dunno if I'll start again... "7Up" answered: I think it's important that you realize the koach and importance of each and every second clean. Each indivi...

Someone posted on the forum that they are working the 12-Steps and making progress, but every time they remember the terrible sins they did and the harm they caused others, they become depressed and even suicidal, thinking of the irreversible damage that was done. "Smile4...

There were times when I felt that maybe I should just let go of Yiddishkeit since I can't stop masturbating and it is such a grave sin. I was in touch with Dr. Sorotzkin and I asked him the following: "The cold-turkey approach doesn't seem to work for me, but I can't beco...

Why do we turn to the garbage? At the end of the day, what is it that makes us keep going back to it after swearing it off so many times? A big part of it has to do with "Pain". Life can be painful at times. Most humans feel R.I.D (Restlessness, Irritable, Discontent) or ...

We might have a tendency to think that after Rosh Hashana and Yom-Kippur when we worked so hard and achieved spiritual heights, the Yetzer Hara won't bother us for a while. But it is exactly the other way around. Precisely when there is so much spirituality and closeness ...

I decided to start my Motzei Yom Kippur off on the right foot, so I was listening to a shiur by Rav Fishel Schachter last night. He told a story that will make any person who is in SA, or should be in SA, truly understand the meaning of "Just for today I'll stay clean, I ...

I had a slip recently and I decided to turn my K9 into a white-list filter! I admit it's a crutch, but I need crutches at this point. How did I make K9 into a white-list filter? I added COM and NET and ORG into the blocked keyword list. If there's any site I need to use...

"Rabbeinu Yonah discusses various barriers to teshuva in Sha'arei Teshuva. But perhaps the greatest barrier most of us experience is a lack of belief in our capacity to change" -Yonason Rosenblum The following excerpts were taken from www.sexualcontrol.com Just about anyo...

The Rambam is famously quoted as saying that every person has the potential to become like Moshe Rabbeinu. But compare that with a piece taken out of a shmuz given by Rav Shlomo Freifeld Ztz'l: "The Chovos Halevavos says that there is a cheshbon hanefesh, a way of introsp...