Attitude Tips

Somewhere in our past life, we may have picked up the idea that it's not all right to ask for help, that asking for help would be a sign of weakness. Recovery calls for some basic changes in our thinking, and when we feel vulnerable is the best time to reach out and ask ...

The Lies The Truths If no one sees me, no one loves me. Porn gives me the feeling of being loved I am seen. I am worthy of love. When I am alone, I can hold on to love. I deserve this, I do some much, I deserve a break I deserve good self-care. My needs...

Porn is everywhere in our culture and is increasingly socially acceptable and even defended. You’ve been to the mall (bookstore, movie theater, etc.); you know that sex is largely seen as no big deal. What you may be wondering is why it matters. So what if porn is every...

A favorite saying in sports is, "It isn't losing to get knocked down. Losing is staying down." In life, as in sports, that idea makes great sense. Like "Let go and let God," or "Let it begin with me," it is a saying that reminds us of an important underlying principle. In...

The Mishna says, "Hevey mechasheiv hefseida neged scharah." Why mechasheiv? Because the yetzer hara doesn't want us to make a cheshbon. It wants us to be filled with a ruach shtus and close our eyes and go with the inertia of doing an aveira. If you think about it in adv...

For the past, let's say, a week and a half - maybe longer - I haven't been myself. Instead of my positive, cheery, optimistic, loving self, I've had these feelings inside of self-hate, harshness, and withdrawal from life… What I'm feeling hurts. It's suffering. But I know...

We all know the story of Yaakov and the shepherds from Parshas Vayetze. Did you ever wonder how Yaakov Avinu single handedly removed such a large rock from on top of the well? If he was an “Ish Tam Yoshev Ohalim” how did he have this kind of super-human strength? To answ...

Don't believe the lie that things are hopeless because they feel that way. That is a chemically induced emotion. Yes, all emotions are chemically induced. But let's say you took a drug that made you deliriously happy. Even though you are going to a funeral and normally yo...

One thing I feel that really helps me when I'm about to fall is to stop for a second, and think logically about what the pros and cons of this fall would be. For example: Pros: 1) I get pleasure. 2) it relieves stress. (And that's all I'm able to come up with, besides for...