Attitude Tips

Porn is everywhere in our culture and is increasingly socially acceptable and even defended. You’ve been to the mall (bookstore, movie theater, etc.); you know that sex is largely seen as no big deal. What you may be wondering is why it matters. So what if porn is every...

A favorite saying in sports is, "It isn't losing to get knocked down. Losing is staying down." In life, as in sports, that idea makes great sense. Like "Let go and let God," or "Let it begin with me," it is a saying that reminds us of an important underlying principle. In...

The Mishna says, "Hevey mechasheiv hefseida neged scharah." Why mechasheiv? Because the yetzer hara doesn't want us to make a cheshbon. It wants us to be filled with a ruach shtus and close our eyes and go with the inertia of doing an aveira. If you think about it in adv...

For the past, let's say, a week and a half - maybe longer - I haven't been myself. Instead of my positive, cheery, optimistic, loving self, I've had these feelings inside of self-hate, harshness, and withdrawal from life… What I'm feeling hurts. It's suffering. But I know...

We all know the story of Yaakov and the shepherds from Parshas Vayetze. Did you ever wonder how Yaakov Avinu single handedly removed such a large rock from on top of the well? If he was an “Ish Tam Yoshev Ohalim” how did he have this kind of super-human strength? To answ...

Don't believe the lie that things are hopeless because they feel that way. That is a chemically induced emotion. Yes, all emotions are chemically induced. But let's say you took a drug that made you deliriously happy. Even though you are going to a funeral and normally yo...

One thing I feel that really helps me when I'm about to fall is to stop for a second, and think logically about what the pros and cons of this fall would be. For example: Pros: 1) I get pleasure. 2) it relieves stress. (And that's all I'm able to come up with, besides for...

Firstly, I would like to thank you for the wonderful, life-saving work you do. Specifically, I would like to comment on the Window to the Soul phone group. I am unable to join in the shiur live because I live in England and therefore for me it takes place in the middle ...

There are people that suffer terribly from self-hatred. Many even can hear or imagine an inner voice tormenting and criticizing them. For some, there are words that go along with the self hatred, even full sentences ring in their head such as: “You're a loser!” “You sh...

How many hours a day do you spend in negative thinking? How much of your thinking involves resentments, worries, regrets, guilt, shame, anger, fears, etc.? How do you expect to feel if a lot of you thinking is negative? Pretty lousy. Thoughts automatically transla...