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Judaism's view of lust

By obormottel
Judaism views lust as follows: We acknowledge the fact that G‑d created us with such feelings, and it’s certainly not an aberration to feel lustful. However, outside of marriage, we are expected to be sufficiently aware of our higher calling, utilize our intellect, and mu...
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Stolen waters

By obormottel
Rav Dessler (Chelek 1, page 42)brings a Gemara which tells of a man hiding in the walls of the house of a woman with whom he was having an affair. The husband came home and was about to drink water that this man knew was poisoned. At the point, the man jumped out and resc...
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Powerless is Anti-Torah!

Powerless is Anti-Torah!

By obormottel
Someone wrote: The 12-Steps speak about how we are powerless. This seems to me to be ANT-TORAH!! It may SEEM like we're powerless, and it may be EXTREMELY difficult (like it is for me) but powerless?? The very first mussar shmooze in the Torah was given by the MASTER HI...
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SPECIAL APPEARANCE BY RABBI DONIEL KATZ

By obormottel
A VERY RARE AND SPECIAL APPEARANCE BY A WORLD RENOWNED GUEST SPEAKER RABBI DONIEL KATZ “Serenity - We have a Prayer for it… How do we get it and how do we keep it?" on this Wednesday January 17 at NOON (EST) GYE Conference Call with Duvid Chaim. Call (641) 715-3836 Acc...
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Hi I'm Pharaoh, I'm a PlagueAholic

By obormottel
"I Pharaoh, the Supreme King, Ruler, and g-d of Egypt admit that I am powerless over Plagues -- that my life has become unmanageable!" (Step One - Big Book, Egyptian Edition) Just search Wikipedia and you will learn that "Participation in a Passover seder is the most wid...
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"It is easier to stay sober than to get sober."
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Segulah for Teshuvah

By obormottel
A while back, I met with Rav Nasan Maimon who taught me something from his Rebbe, Rabbi Michel Dorfman, zt'l. He taught me in the name of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov that if one wants to repent he should accustom himself to recite Psalms daily. (5 a day and you can finish th...
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The Pharaoh of Our Understanding

By obormottel
"We made a decision to turn our Will and our Lives over to the care of Pharaoh as we understood him." (Step Four - Big Book, Egyptian Edition) Having concluded the Book of Genesis, we embark on a new chapter in the lives of B'nai Yisroel. As we all know from Sefer Berei...
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From the Womb to the Tomb

By obormottel
The children agitated within her ... and Hashem said to her: "Two Nations are in your womb, two regimes from your insides shall be separated; the might shall pass from one regime to the other, and the elder shall serve the younger!" (Bereishis/Genesis 25:23) If we...
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Another 90-day success story

By obormottel
I have special news to share. Today is day 90 for me! I've made it 90 Days clean for the first time since I've signed up!! I know that I don't really take part in the forum chats (I've found other GYE tools to be more helpful for me, and I've drastically cut down the time...
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Don't lose your head!

By obormottel
As we continue the story of Yakov and his sons, we not only see the conclusion of Sefer Bereishis (book of Genesis) but also the end of the lives of Yakov and Yosef. The story of these great and holy men seems to be full of so much pain and struggle. And yet, they not ...
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Asoro B'Teves - a good day to learn from

By obormottel
Asoro b'Teves is the only fast that even if it happens to fall on Shabbos, we'd have to abstain from the beer and Cholent. That would be a crisis, which the Rabbis saw in their ruach hakodesh would be untenable, so they preset the calendar so that it never falls on a Shab...
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When meetings conflict with Sholom Bais - a wife's perspective

By obormottel
I am a recovering SAnon (wife of a sex addict). I don't have any groundbreaking advice, but this is my take on the issue of Meetings conflicting with Sholom Bais based on my experience. This situation is very typical. SAnon rooms are very small in comparison to SA. M...
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Does it get better?

By obormottel
Let's see. If you're used to not having any amount of significant days of sobriety and now you're accumulating hundreds of days clean, what does that mean? Just like gamblers or drug addicts, after a certain time in the program, they only go to a meeting once a week (inst...
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You can't move ahead until you know where you are!

By obormottel
G-d spoke to Israel in a night vision and He said, Yakov, Yakov. And he said, Hineni - HERE I AM" (Bereishis/Genesis 46:2) Today, we are learning, how Parsha Vayigash speaks to those who seek Recovery. As we continue the story of Yakov and his sons, we learn at the very ...
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Putting sobriety ahead of "love"

By obormottel
I felt overwhelmed by feelings of unworthiness and fear yesterday, and being at the computer, used the opportunity to write my fears out, clearing my head and pointing out exactly what I am anxious about/fearful of.The wife and I have been at odds the last couple of days....
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Olive's reward

By obormottel
The Midrash offers a parable in explaining the use of olive oil for the Menorah in the Temple: it is comparable to a king whose legions rebelled against him. However, one of his legions remained faithful and did not rebel. The king said, "From this legion that did not reb...
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Lessons from Yosef Hatzaddik to Modern Man

By obormottel
“And Pharaoh said to Yosef, ‘after G-d let you know all of these things, there is none so understanding and wise as you’.” (Bereishis 41:39) Over the past few months people have witnessed how the high and mighty have been taken down to the lowest depths due to foolish...
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