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Question: Is a man with azoospermia (absence of motile - and hence viable - sperm in the semen) allowed to masturbate? GYE Responds: Interesting question. I will pass it on to a Rav who deals with such questions. Meanwhile though, please see what we answer when a woman ...

"On the third day when it was morning, there was Thunder and Lightning and a Heavy Cloud on The Mountain, and the Sound of the Shofar was very powerful, and the entire people that were around the camp shuddered" (Exodus/Shemos 19:16) Can you even imagine the DRAMA, the A...

Here are some tips that helped me: Delete everything (Instagram, snapchat, facebook, Twitter, ifunny, netflix). We trick ourselves into saying this is not pornography, but then the images go into our heads, and since we are on a “kosher” (non-porn) site, we think we can s...

Question: I am a frum woman and my situation is as follows. Two and a half years ago I left my sex addict (now ex-) husband. He is a charismatic, fun-loving man, as I like to say, "the nicest man you will ever meet." His interests were porn and voyeurism. He was extreme...

I landed back in Newark clean b'h. There was one point towards the end of the flight where everyone around me was watching movies with explicit content and I felt the temptation. I took off my glasses asked Hashem to get rid of the urge and b'h it went away.

Something isn’t right–at least, that is what your heart is telling you. But there seems to be no evidence to support your feeling. “He’s a great guy,” you remind yourself. “He’s just working hard to provide for our family. He’s stressed and he’s tired, and that’s all it i...

“Desire is a contract that you make with yourself to be unhappy until you get what you want.” — Naval Ravikant 

Every Shabbos morning in shul, I am makpid to fit in 'tefila l'Moshe' (together with yoshev b'seiser) even if I am late for p'sukei d'zimra. This is because I think of the years my father suffered in slave labor camps during the Holocaust and I know that he's up there now...

"He harnessed his chariot...He took six hundred elite chariots and all the chariots of Egypt, with officers on them all. Hashem strengthened the heart of Pharaoh, king of Egypt and he pursued the Children of Israel" (Exodus/Shemos 14:6) "It was told to the king of Eg...

At the end of his new book, Tribe of Mentors, Timothy Ferris cites the following poem by Portia Nelson. It’s called ‘Autobiography in Five Short Chapters’: Chapter 1: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn...

The sforim tell us that rosh chodesh Shvat is very mesugal for his'chadshus - starting anew. It is the day Moshe Rabeinu began to explain the Torah. It is rosh hashana for trees according to Shammai - because the sap begins reviving the trees on that day. The Yidden were ...

I am almost up to 40 days without a fall, and my wife is assur now, which makes things a little harder. Last night, I was reading business news and they had something about some woman etc. I googled who she was and a movie where she is the main actor came up. Not thinking...

The Holy Ruzhiner Rebbe zy”a interpreted the verse in Tehillim (37:10) “In a little while, the wicked is no more; reflect upon his place, and he is gone.” This means that “in a little while,” - shortly after sinning - “the wicked is no more” - the person no longer wants to be wicked for he regrets his sin. Therefore, it is better that he "reflect upon his place” - he should think before he commits the sin, at the place of the sin - and then “he is gone” - he will not commit the sin at all.

Boruch Hashem, I have passed the year-mark of staying clean, of growing, learning, accepting, listening, and getting to know some wonderful people. In a certain way, the last item on the list - getting to know some wonderful people - was and is probably the most important...

Rabbi Nachman teaches,In order to serve God, you must be obstinate. On no account should you give up and abandon the practices you have begun. Don't give up in any way, no matter what happens. Remember this well, because you will be in great need of it when you start serv...

If you want the evil eye to have no power against you and your children, then make your eyes do not want to enjoy what’s not yours, as Yosef Avinu’s eyes that didn’t want to enjoy what was not his (Potiphar's wife who tried unsuccessfully to seduce him), that’s why the evil eye has no power against him nor his descendants. - The Gemara, Berachos 20a

1) A chaver who speaks/texts regularly with me, reached out for help today. His wife had been off limits for a very long time. There were very challenging moments, but with work and b'ezras Hashem he stayed clean. Today she was to go to the mikva but this morning she foun...

First and foremost, I realize it was through a Power Greater than myself. Secondly, this time was different as there was absolute and complete openness and honesty with my wife. I also had the complete commitment not to take the first drink. The slightest amount of l...