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Dear GYE, 4 and a half years ago my wife "caught" me looking at pornography by randomly checking our browser history. I was happily married at the time with a son, and a daughter on the way but I had simply slipped easily back into by adolescent ways, easy as that. The ...

I've just reached 90 days for the second time, only the last time I acted out on day 91! There is a great difference between now and then, as then I was--as they call it-- a "dry drunk," without doing much to stay clean. But this time it's with 3 times per week live me...

In reality, it is common for a man to feel dejected when reflecting his own spiritual state to such extent that he becomes incapable of approaching Hashem in prayer, for fear of being hypocritical; "How can I pray now, when I just degraded myself to this new spiritual low...

About a week ago, I finally raised the white flag. Indeed, I don’t know how to support my wife through her sex addiction (which has uncovered many other layers of emotional dysfunction). Yesterday was the first time that I went to therapy for myself. While I’d like to ...

What has helped me stay clean, b”H, the past 90 days? Firstly, all the incredible support of GYE and its members. There is no doubt that this is the strongest point. Also, seeing the fantasy thoughts as the nisayon they are, clarified it as something outside of me and not...

Is there any REST in this Journey called Life? Parasha Devarim is the last book of our Torah. And is referred to as "Mishneh Torah" which is translated as "repetition of the Torah." Our Sages teach us that the entire Book of Devarim was spoken by Moses to the Jewish peo...

Dear K., As moderator of the GYE forum (and I have copied "Skeptical," who is also a moderator), it is my responsibility to monitor the forum. I can't help but notice your work ethic for recovery. It is truly astounding and you should be commended. I also feel for your st...

Dear GYE, Today is 90 days I’m tasting the sweet sound of it Savouring its warmth What a magnificent gift My gratitude is immeasurable For not only has lust been subdued My essence has changed, improved Working on this struggle Has affected deep inside I’m a new person ...

Question: What happens to "Frummies" who are gay or transgender? There will always be a percentage of people in any given community who are somehow just born like this and there is no way to change them. Sometimes nature makes a mistake and assigns the incorrect gender ...

"When lust ideas attack, we do Oiseh Shalom, which means that we take 3 steps. The 3 steps are (1) admit my own powerlessness, (2) willingness to believe and trust in Higher Power, (3) giving it over to Him because He has no limitations.

What do my choices say about me? As we all know in this Parasha we learn about how Klal Yisroel were about to enter the Land of Israel. And then the tribes of Reuben and Gad made a very very peculiar request from Moshe. Does this make sense at all? Don't forget that wh...

Silent Struggle: 4 Ways Girls Get Pulled into Using Porn (and what you can do to help them) Cassy Hulse Protect Young Minds The truth is that girls are just as susceptible to sexual addiction as boys are, and it’s time to start talking about it to help end their silent s...

So my struggle is all about masturbation in response to my very wild and dirty fantasies. Since I'm the type that lives in my own head, there's always lots of fun and noise in there (usually not bad, btw!) and there's almost always a song playing in the background, as wel...

Join GYE English-Speaking Live Groups Why does GYE have live meetings, isn’t SA enough? It is important to emphasize that GYE's live groups are not meant to compete with SA in anyway. They are only meant to help those who would anyway not be going to SA now, or who are ...

GYE recommends joining the new 12-Step fellowship of Porn Anonymous (PA). See pornanonymous.org or p-a.online. See Rabbi Twerski speaking about the new PA initiative at GYE's recent conference in Jerusalem: Check out their site for information about existing meet...

Some interesting articles Yakov wrote in the past on this topic: https://guardyoureyes.com/articles/torah/item/the-segulah-of-this-day https://guardyoureyes.com/articles/torah/item/gathering-the-wood-for-the-mizbe-ach?onepage=1 https://guardyoureyes.com/articles/torah/ite...

Have you been searching for G-d? As we all know, the "hero" of this Parasha earns the distinct honor of having the Parasha named after him. Of course, we are talking about Pinchas. (In fact, out of all the fifty-four Parashiot in the Torah, only six of them are named af...

Covenant Eyes | I need to be honest, I was reluctant to share my story publicly. Reluctant because women don’t struggle with porn, right? The Internet was not accessible for me when I was a teenager. It hadn’t yet infiltrated every aspect of our daily lives. I had no ac...