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This journey has taken me through a number of different stages in how I view my wife’s struggle, how much I’m involved, and how I feel about myself because of it. Stage one was the hardest. I felt bad for myself for being stuck with someone that is “lower” than me. I felt...

Dear Dov, What are some things we can do to build integrity into our lives? Sometimes there seems to be some in one area, but less in another. -Looking for Integrity Dear Looking, There are many ways of bringing Integrity into our lives but I believe that all of them are...

I had written a certain well-known Rabbi about how to deal with lustful thoughts. In several of the Rav's shiurim he had mentioned the Meor Enayim that a person's obstacle is really his path to success. How is being bogged down with lustful thoughts constantly a path to s...

HaRav HaMekubal Yosef Shabtei Shani says that one of the key tools for Klal Yisrael to bring Mashiach and build the third and final Beit Hamikdash is Shemirat HaEnayim, guarding our eyes. A person should think: "My eyes are wondrous tools. They are windows to my thoughts,...

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself wherever you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

Question: Hi, I'm 26 years old. I am married for a bit over 5 years and from the beginning, have not had much of an attraction for my wife. However, after having 2 kids, my wife gained a lot of weight and now I have absolutely no attraction to her. I spoke to her about th...

Dear GYE, I hope you can help me out. I’ve been clean for about 40 days now, and when I’m in Yeshiva, it’s hard but nothing crazy. The problem is, whenever I leave Yeshiva, I get destroyed. I try not to look at girls but whenever a girl is around my mind is only on her. I...

With regards to teshuvah – returning to G‑d – the common notion is that it wholly consists of tears and intense remorse. After all, if one really feels bad for a wrongdoing, it is only natural to cry. Let me tell you a story. Before entering a private audience with the Re...

The LUBAVITCHERS say the king lives forever.The VISHNITZERS have 2 kings. The GERERS wont let the king stand next to the queen.The YERUSHALMIS wont let the soldiers (pawns) into their area.Those from MEAH SHEARIM wont move out of their area.MODERNERS dont want black and w...

Reb Yochanan says: "Where we find the greatness of Hashem, we find His humility." What Dov means, is that Hashem's humility manifests itself in that He truly understands our limitations and continues to love us even in our sinfulness and insanity. For Hashem, that is humi...

Rav Klonimus Shapira of Piaseczna related, in connection with the following Posuk: “Adam ki yakriv mikem korban l’Hashem, min habehema min habakar u’min hatzon etc.” If the Torah gives us the ability to sanctify an animal, how much more so, we should realize, it gives us ...

B”H, yesterday I reached the 90-day mark. There is no question that the competitive nature of the 90-day chart and award system with different levels helped me jumpstart the process. Part of my issue was that I was seemingly the only one who cared about my success in Kedu...

This can be called a sobriety statement or a prayer, whatever works for you: "God (or Higher Power) I am powerless over this addiction and I surrender it to You. I turn my life and will over to Your care Please help me, I'm in Your hands." --------------------------------...

QUESTION: How do I deal with the fact that I keep failing in things that I want to accomplish in Avodas Hashem? I try but it doesn't go. I feel like I just want to give up already. ANSWER: In one of his Seforim, the Breslover Rebbe writes as follows: he says, “when I was...

The other day I faced a big Nisayon. It wasn’t a Nisayon of Arayos per se, but more of an issue of curiosity. The Yetzer Hara was so powerful because it was trying to convince me that it wasn’t a Yetzer Hara at all. Nothing is wrong with looking, because it’s totally not ...

Dear GYE, Thank you for your advice and welcome. There is so much help in your fellowship. And that is what I have found to be most helpful in combatting this affliction. I am so grateful to my S-groups and sponsor and sponsees and the whole 12-step community. I am deepl...

This is a quote from a Whatsapp message we got from a GYEBoost member today in reference to https://truple.io/ This app sends random screenshots to your partner and will let them know if you uninstall. Check it out for yourself.

Five hundred - the number of consecutive days that God has kept me sober. I know that this is a major miracle: that I relapsed and recovered, that I didn't feel judged by my recovery friends, and that I stayed sober, although I had many physically and emotionally difficul...