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Not Attracted to My Wife

By obormottel

Question: Hi, I'm 26 years old. I am married for a bit over 5 years and from the beginning, have not had much of an attraction for my wife. However, after having 2 kids, my wife gained a lot of weight and now I have absolutely no attraction to her. I spoke to her about th...

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Growing Strong

By obormottel

Dear GYE, I hope you can help me out. I’ve been clean for about 40 days now, and when I’m in Yeshiva, it’s hard but nothing crazy. The problem is, whenever I leave Yeshiva, I get destroyed. I try not to look at girls but whenever a girl is around my mind is only on her. I...

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Joyful Remorse?

By obormottel

With regards to teshuvah – returning to G‑d – the common notion is that it wholly consists of tears and intense remorse. After all, if one really feels bad for a wrongdoing, it is only natural to cry. Let me tell you a story. Before entering a private audience with the Re...

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Why Jews can't play chess

By obormottel

The LUBAVITCHERS say the king lives forever.The VISHNITZERS have 2 kings. The GERERS wont let the king stand next to the queen.The YERUSHALMIS wont let the soldiers (pawns) into their area.Those from MEAH SHEARIM wont move out of their area.MODERNERS dont want black and w...

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Humility

By obormottel

Reb Yochanan says: "Where we find the greatness of Hashem, we find His humility." What Dov means, is that Hashem's humility manifests itself in that He truly understands our limitations and continues to love us even in our sinfulness and insanity. For Hashem, that is humi...

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Kal v'Chomer

By obormottel

Rav Klonimus Shapira of Piaseczna related, in connection with the following Posuk: “Adam ki yakriv mikem korban l’Hashem, min habehema min habakar u’min hatzon etc.” If the Torah gives us the ability to sanctify an animal, how much more so, we should realize, it gives us ...

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Reaching 90 Days

By obormottel

B”H, yesterday I reached the 90-day mark. There is no question that the competitive nature of the 90-day chart and award system with different levels helped me jumpstart the process. Part of my issue was that I was seemingly the only one who cared about my success in Kedu...

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The power of tefillah

By obormottel

This can be called a sobriety statement or a prayer, whatever works for you: "God (or Higher Power) I am powerless over this addiction and I surrender it to You. I turn my life and will over to Your care Please help me, I'm in Your hands." --------------------------------...

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On the Road to Greatness

By obormottel

QUESTION: How do I deal with the fact that I keep failing in things that I want to accomplish in Avodas Hashem? I try but it doesn't go. I feel like I just want to give up already. ANSWER: In one of his Seforim, the Breslover Rebbe writes as follows: he says, “when I was...

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Battling rank-and-file

By obormottel

The other day I faced a big Nisayon. It wasn’t a Nisayon of Arayos per se, but more of an issue of curiosity. The Yetzer Hara was so powerful because it was trying to convince me that it wasn’t a Yetzer Hara at all. Nothing is wrong with looking, because it’s totally not ...

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Mesiach l'fi tumoi

By obormottel

Dear GYE, Thank you for your advice and welcome. There is so much help in your fellowship. And that is what I have found to be most helpful in combatting this affliction. I am so grateful to my S-groups and sponsor and sponsees and the whole 12-step community. I am deepl...

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New type of accountability software

By obormottel

This is a quote from a Whatsapp message we got from a GYEBoost member today in reference to https://truple.io/ This app sends random screenshots to your partner and will let them know if you uninstall. Check it out for yourself.

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Keep coming back

By obormottel

Five hundred - the number of consecutive days that God has kept me sober. I know that this is a major miracle: that I relapsed and recovered, that I didn't feel judged by my recovery friends, and that I stayed sober, although I had many physically and emotionally difficul...

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New and Improved Yiddish GYE website launched!

By obormottel

Exciting News: New and Improved Yiddish GYE website launched!We are happy to announce the launch of a new and improved Yiddish GYE website with many improvements and new sections. We are sure this new site will help thousands of our Yiddish speaking brothers with Shmiras ...

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How I Reached 600 Days Clean

By obormottel

Yesterday, by the grace of Hashem and the help of the SA fellowship and GYE, I celebrated 600 days of sobriety! Thank you, Hashem! I've been on GYE for almost a year now, mostly in the chat rooms, and seeing that I've chatted with dozens of people here (even acquiring 2 s...

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Rejecting the Unholy

By obormottel

Interestingly, many of us here have had difficulty staying clean over Yom Tov and immediately after Yom Tov. Whether it is the lack of regular structure, too much free time, or being around well dressed female guests, the emotional highs we get on Yom Tov require us to pl...

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The Patterns of Life

By obormottel

www.aish.com 15 mins read Parshat Kedoshim rounds out the Torah's treatment of sexual offences by listing the consequences of engaging in the various forbidden sexual relationships outlined in Parshat Acharei Mot. One of the major hallmarks of a "mode...

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Unfiltered Internet Device?!

By obormottel

QUESTION: I just came home from summer camp, and I found out my little brother got an iPod with unrestricted internet on it. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do because I myself have unlimited internet. I'm scared he's going to end up like me. Can you help? ANSWER: Are y...

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