I am not an addict. I am the wife of an addict. I have also lived with other addictions before my marriage. My mind is trained to obsess about the addict and their safety, their whereabouts, how they are, or how they ought to be.

Having SSA is similar to someone who would be attracted ONLY to married women, i.e. single women don't attract him at all (if such a thing was possible).

90 days free of porn watching has arrived. No sense of pride at all, just a deep sense of thanks to GYE for not rejecting me and an infinitely deeper sense of thanks to Ribono shel Olom.

I'd like to mention that which is obvious to us all, with a sketch of 13 principles regarding the gender disorientation groups that fight everything holy

When you warm other people’s hearts, you remain warm yourself. When you seek to support, encourage and inspire others; then you discover support, encouragement and inspiration in your own life as well.  

Ester, my dear child,it's tough. Life's tough. It's how I created This World. But so are you. Tougher than you think you are. I know how tough it is, and I know how much you're hurting. I feel your pain. Nevertheless, I'm disappointed in you. Not for failing, no, I create...

The Arizal among others[1] tells us Pinchas was a גלגל; reincarnation of Yitzchak. The following are allusions to this. A) The numerical value of פינחס is 208, Identical to that of יצחק. B) Both Yitzchak and Pinchas were Moser Nefesh:[2] Yizchak at the עקידה and Pinchas i...

I’ve just stood up Brushed the dust off Stretched my muscles Ready to fight again I fell after a really long streak My longest ever Felt I was past this struggle Thought I’d grown above it It’s 2 days later I’m back at it I shake my head in disbelief It happened, I hone...

This journey has taken me through a number of different stages in how I view my wife’s struggle, how much I’m involved, and how I feel about myself because of it. Stage one was the hardest. I felt bad for myself for being stuck with someone that is “lower” than me. I felt...

Dear Dov, What are some things we can do to build integrity into our lives? Sometimes there seems to be some in one area, but less in another. -Looking for Integrity Dear Looking, There are many ways of bringing Integrity into our lives but I believe that all of them are...

I had written a certain well-known Rabbi about how to deal with lustful thoughts. In several of the Rav's shiurim he had mentioned the Meor Enayim that a person's obstacle is really his path to success. How is being bogged down with lustful thoughts constantly a path to s...

HaRav HaMekubal Yosef Shabtei Shani says that one of the key tools for Klal Yisrael to bring Mashiach and build the third and final Beit Hamikdash is Shemirat HaEnayim, guarding our eyes. A person should think: "My eyes are wondrous tools. They are windows to my thoughts,...

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself wherever you choose. You're on your own, and you know what you know. And you are the guy who'll decide where to go.

Question: Hi, I'm 26 years old. I am married for a bit over 5 years and from the beginning, have not had much of an attraction for my wife. However, after having 2 kids, my wife gained a lot of weight and now I have absolutely no attraction to her. I spoke to her about th...

Dear GYE, I hope you can help me out. I’ve been clean for about 40 days now, and when I’m in Yeshiva, it’s hard but nothing crazy. The problem is, whenever I leave Yeshiva, I get destroyed. I try not to look at girls but whenever a girl is around my mind is only on her. I...

With regards to teshuvah – returning to G‑d – the common notion is that it wholly consists of tears and intense remorse. After all, if one really feels bad for a wrongdoing, it is only natural to cry. Let me tell you a story. Before entering a private audience with the Re...

The LUBAVITCHERS say the king lives forever.The VISHNITZERS have 2 kings. The GERERS wont let the king stand next to the queen.The YERUSHALMIS wont let the soldiers (pawns) into their area.Those from MEAH SHEARIM wont move out of their area.MODERNERS dont want black and w...

Reb Yochanan says: "Where we find the greatness of Hashem, we find His humility." What Dov means, is that Hashem's humility manifests itself in that He truly understands our limitations and continues to love us even in our sinfulness and insanity. For Hashem, that is humi...