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"FrumFiend" writes on our forum for the first time: I am a respected marbitz torah and mashpiah ruchani. I fell into tumah very young age (a guy showed me something). I spent years spending every moment lusting after and dreaming about how to access such material. In Beis...

Someone posted on the forum: I'm trying to use only public computers. Being the only guy with a yarmulke for miles around, I'd be too afraid of getting caught, and of the shame that would ensue and the chillul Hashem. I hope that will be a strong deterrent for me. Dov Rep...

For me, it wasn't about getting caught... I still believe that I can likely carry on forever and never get caught... I probably will never lose my job or family because of it... So why am I doing all that I can to stop, even joining these embarrassing SA meetings? I guess...

The following piece is in honor of R' Menachem Mendel of Vitebsk ZT"L, talmid of the Baal Shem Tov and author of the Sefer Pri Ha'aretz whose Yartzeit was recently on Rosh Chodesh Iyar. It has been mentioned on the forum in various contexts, that many of us felt disgusted...

Guys, did you know Shavuos is right around the corner? I feel so unprepared - Hashem has been sending me a gazillion messages that I should get back into a regular learning schedule. We want FREEDOM from lust, right? Well, as the writing on the Luchos teaches us ("charus ...

It started simply enough. She was my friend. Me, I was shy and very conservative. I was too shy for boys and didn't have any real close girlfriends. I wanted to have a special friend, one in whom I could confide my deepest darkest secrets. I wasn't a tomboy or a geek. I w...

Some of us are affected on a more personal level. The planned Gay Pride march in Jerusalem - whether it takes place or not - is, no doubt, triggering a number of reactions in the Jewish world. But while most discussions revolve around national and religious issues, some o...

Hi everyone, I think it's quite significant that I will reach 90 on Erev Shavuos. I must say that although I have not posted much, I obviously could not have come this far without stumbling upon this web site. Posting, but even more through reading, has really helped me t...

"Leap, and the net will appear" (Zen saying) We call this "Bitachon". We are afraid to give up our unhealthy tendencies. Don't be afraid. Hashem set up the net. It's safe. And it's the path to true freedom and happiness. Leap, and the net will appear. That was Naaseh V'Ni...

Shavuos is "Chetzyo Lachem, Chetzyo LaHashem". Interestingly, it seems that on Shavuos there's more of a reason to be involved in gashmiyus, because once we have Torah, gashmiyus can be raised onto the level of ruchniyos. That's why Shavuos is the only time during the yea...

There is a very interesting thing about the way we count the Omer. The natural way of counting towards an event is by counting down. When one looks forward to a significant day, one counts off the days remaining between the present and that day. In contrast, when we count...

Someone asked on the forum: This whole looking at porn and acting out is such a big part of my past. It will haunt me forever. I can never be truly rid of it because it is there. How do I face this? And if we can actually heal from this then we aren't addicts, no? Dov Re...

I am only human, so I'm expecting that someday I may slip too far and fall - although I don't want to. I BUT I'M NOT AFRAID OF THAT. Because the moments of weakness DON'T DEFINE ME. I AM THE GOOD GUY who's trying. It's the GOOD minutes, hours, and days that DEFINE ME, not...

Imagine if you live near Victoria Falls in Africa, would you be interested in looking at a two inch high waterfall? It would not be hard to look away from that. The physical beauty of woman is just a two inch waterfall compared to the beauty of the soul. Why would we want...

This comes from the book called 'timeless seasons' by Rabbi Pinchos Roberts, but I figure most people haven't heard of it and it is SO relevant to us. How come ALL the Jews, without exception, accepted the Torah at Har Sinai? In parshas Vo'eschanan (Devorim 4:35), Moshe r...

Someone posted on the forum: I hope I don't slip into depression once I realize and internalize that my wife will not and cannot be part of my fantasies... I might have to settle for (or strive for, perhaps) and ordinary existence. Dov Replies: Here is a juicy fantasy fo...

I did the 5th step call with Duvid Chaim yesterday, one on one. Step 4 was to make a fearless moral inventory of our resentments, fears, and misconduct. Step 5 is to share this inventory on a 3-way call (yourself, your sponsor, and Hashem). I expected that the call would ...

I've partnered up with someone who I identified on the forum as someone I know in real life, and he's been a great help. Being able to talk openly about my issues with someone who really knows what it's like and will not judge me, is a great thing. I find that I'm consist...