The Library

'Moshe843' wrote on the forum for the first time: I respect anyone with the strength and courage to overcome their evil inclination but sadly, I really don't think I care enough. But it bothers me that I don't care... I'm so bogged down by years of disillusionment and cyn...

Only recently, for a period of about a month, did I start falling by being drawn to reading wrong things. My computer at home now has a report that goes weekly to wife and a friend, my comp at work is turned outwards publicly but could still be dangerous (even though I kn...

I'm following a program on RecoveryNation.com. It has workshops that you do every day, and it comes IN CONJUNCTION with a 12 step group or any other recovery program. I think it can help anyone trying to get better. For example, after my last fall, this program suggested ...

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a Roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King's' wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping...

Rosh Chodesh is a time of Hischadshus, Renewal. Its also a Limud for us not to give in, because always when the moon is in its smallest position, it's a sign that it starts to grow again. Rosh Chodesh Nissan even more. It's Rosh Chadashim - the foremost time of "renewal"....

'AryehTahor' asks on the forum: Since my last fall and my general life situation at the moment, I have decided I would like to start working the steps. Can the steps be effective if you basically print them out and study them a little each day and think about them? Or do ...

To someone who claimed that he was going to try and over-power the Yetzer Hara, 'DovInIsrael' writes: It probably won't work. The Y"H is just waiting for you to pick a fight with him. Instead, try this: When he comes knocking at your door, invite him in and show him to t...

Steve wrote on his inspiring thread (where you can read his story too): B"H YISBORACH!! I just passed 90 days!! THANK YOU TO ALL MY FRIENDS HERE AT GYE WHO HAVE HELPED ME GET TO THIS POINT!! For years I had given up hope of ever getting FREEDOM from this Yetzer Hara, and ...

The Medrash Tanchuma (Pekudei - 11) relates how the yidden tried to put the Mishkan together after making all it's parts. They were not doing it through their own understanding (the mistake of Nadav and Avihu) rather, they were doing what Hashem had commanded them to do. ...

Today I was sitting in the bus and I saw a man reading a newspaper. Now, I used to have huge problems with newspapers.I used to read them everyday, all of them (5-6)... The free ones... those are the most terrible ones!!The Pritzus, the rubbish, all the unhealthy stuff th...

I've been off-line for the last few months to help me heal, and I'm telling you that it did me a world of good. I even gave my cell phones (which had internet access) to someone to keep for me, and now I plan to take them back from him and sell them off... Now that I'm on...

Just wanted to tell you a little while back that I had completed 'chai'-18 months, but at this point it's already nineteen, Baruch Hashem. Great to see that so many people on the site are still so dedicated. Thanks!

Going to a Mikva every day is a very strong protection against sexual sin and desire. If this is too difficult for you, make sure to go at least when you fall. Imagine this. If the waters of the Mikva can make a non-Jew (who wants to convert) into a Jew, imagine what they...

Dov has suggested that going to the Mikva could possibly be even detrimental in the early stages of recovery if it makes us lose sight of the ikkar, which is not just making ourselves "feel better" - (which was our motivation in acting out as well, BTW) but actually "gett...

"Vayovo'u ho'anoshim al hanoshim, kol n'div leiv - And the men came with the women, all those whose hearts wished to donate" Rashi says: "im hanoshim, usmichim lahem - (they came) with the women, and close to them". I've been wondering for many years about this posuk, wha...

We are standing now at the cusp of Chodesh Nissan and we are reading this Shabbos about the SHIVAS YIMAY HAMILUIM - and we are actually in the days of the Miluim. The Medrash Tanchumah tells us the Moshe Rabbainu built the Mishkan twice every, and another opinion holds he...

Someone wrote on the forum: I don't feel clean and I feel like I need to go to the Mikvah but I don't know how to go by asking without people becoming suspicious. I feel really bad because a few times I have watched porn right before learning. Dov Responds: I'm for g...

There are many who say "I tried/did/worked the 12 steps", and they mean they read a book, answered the questions, did some writing assignments and followed the program to the end.... But they did it all alone. Just a little plug for "the program" as I know it: Working the...