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The pivotal motivation for much of the stuff we all do, is to feel connected to something even greater than us - to others and to Goodness. Not to "be loved", but to Love. The Hope that we all have, is that "maybe, just maybe, there is something worthwhile in me and out t...

I remember reading once something in the Sefer "B'Nei Machshava Tova": People think that we can't feel our soul. But in reality we CAN feel it, but we've been conditioned to misinterpret it. For example: Sometimes you feel uneasy. You try to eat something or take a nap to...

Not isolating yourself and becoming a part of a group is the main way to get sober and recover from this addiction. Ideally, that means a live SA or SLAA group in your city. We also have phone groups that meet 3 nights a week for members of the forum. You - and none of us...

I just want to share a thought that I heard from Reb Yitzchak Moishe Erlinger from Yeshivas Me'Oir Einaim in Yerushalaim (a Very Holy Yid) at the shiur that he gave yesterday at Irgun Shurei Torah in Boro Park. He was talking about how to achieve real Simcha in the month ...

If we could actually say that knowing this (the intricacies of the issurim) would necessarily make an iota of difference in getting someone to stop for good, I'd promptly shut up. But I do not believe it is so in many cases. Of the following two choices, which is more lik...

I was having a conversation with someone from the forum and here is how it went: I said, "I believe in you", then he said, "I believe in me in short spurts, but not for the long haul"... It then occurred to me that we are in total agreement... Because there is no long hau...

My (user)name is Jack, please read my recovery story. I was addicted for 38+ years until I found this site. Do the 90 days, even one minute at a time, if you have to. Join a phone group - you will find one here that suits you. Don't attempt this by yourself. Would you att...

The Pasuk doesn't say "I will dwell in it". Rather, it says "I will dwell in them". Every Jew can make his heart like a Tabernacle for the divine presence to dwell inside of him. Ahron (whose story appears here on our site, and here on Aish.com) wrote to me yesterday: For...

Someone wrote on the forum: Undertaking a genuine Teshuva starts by understanding the mekoros and ikarim of the issurim of these issues. This is not only MY opinion, but many rishonim and baalei hamusar hold like this. You can get rid of an issur and a bad habit by shapin...

I am a yungerman who has been looking at re'ios assuros even before I knew that I shouldn't be looking at them. I was doing the ma'aseh before I knew that it is an aveira, r"l. I am married now with a few children, Boruch Hashem, and have been struggling with the yetzer h...

You should want to stop to be able to have a life, NOT to stop 'sinning'. If you don't stop now, you will end up spending your whole day online looking at P***. You will have no life. You will not learn Torah. You will ignore your wife and kids. You will not get a positio...

I want to share today something that I feel is very important to make sure I get out - and off my chest. The 90 days is for sure a must to get where you want to go. However, the first day is more important then the rest of those 90. I look back now and see that at day 1,...

We wished Mazal Tov to 'Sci1977' on his 90th day clean, which got him onto our Wall of Honor chart. 'Sci1977' follow up by writing on the forum: This morning, I re-read the last page or so of my thread and realized how emotional recovery is. I have closed the door to my ...

A funny thing seems to happen to all the folks I meet in recovery after they are sober for a while: They take on this mindset that they are not in this world to overcome lust. They begin to see their sobriety only as a gateway to real living. See the start of step 4 or 6 ...

Teshuvah & Ahavas Yisrael are the two highest ideals of the GYE Network. And Martin Gross showed us all that these two ideals are possible even in the abyss of pain and death. To quote Nochum Kurinsky who was present at the execution (YW NEWS): The curtain opened and...

Day 90 of being clean and sober. Thank you G-d, thank you G-d, thank you G-d. How do you even come close to understanding this momentous - yet still so small of an accomplishment - at the same time? My gratitude is immense, and I will forever remember these 90 days proba...

To someone who claimed he had studied the 12-Steps and found them "insightful": The steps are not like Torah, which (sadly) can just be a book, and just read without being believed in at all, nor incorporating it. The steps are not information - they are a program. Hence ...

So here I am on my third week of my climb back up... How can I make this one better?... How do I make these clean days get me more return for my buck than the last days did?... I think about something I first learned from Dov and read about later in the SA literature... S...