The Library

I was walking around a few minutes ago on a large street. I got myself something to eat, and I did a little shopping. As is always the case, there were many women walking around. My instinct, of course, told me to give the "initial peek" (which is really just used to dete...

Last night was a tough night. I basically ended up spending all night reading GYE. Often I would be doing other not-so-good things instead. As they say, spend the time on "healing" instead of the addiction. What I realized is, that life is a challenge. I need to "play the...

I have to say that the Chizuk emails have become my lifeline. I come in to my office after the pritzus in the street, and as I open my computer I have that familiar tingling feeling, but the Chizuk email keeps me in focus. Even more importantly, I am in correspondence wit...

There's a thin line between entertainment and war... The little kiss between the 15 year old's on the innocent "Disney movies" today, is not so innocent... It's a very important part of lust's attack on us... It's where we are taught - from the youngest age - that this st...

Lust is an illusion. A friend of mine told me that during all his years single he thought that sex must be Heaven. Now that he's married, he sees it's no different than any other need. "A good piece of chocolate is better", he says.

Someone sent Elya the following question: I have a question regarding marital intimacy and perhaps you can offer some advice. I feel that my wife and I are on two different wavelengths and that is causing some hotzaas zera at nights. I am in the mood to be intimate almost...

I just heard a tape from Rabbi Yosef Chaim Greenwald saying that the Divrei Chaim of Sanz said that on Chanukah a person can do Teshuvah even on aveiros that the Zohar says that one cannot do Teshuvah on, because when the King comes to visit the jail, everyone can ask fo...

Try to get out of going, if possible. If not, make a plan in advance. Schedule how long you have to be there, and stick to it. Set an alarm to remind you when to leave. Prepare an excuse to leave in advance. Give yourself a pep-talk before going. Look at yourself in the ...

Self-will is banging on the tray of my highchair

The monkey may be off my back, but the circus is still in my head

THE EASIEST WAY TO STAY SOBER:a) Breathe in. b) Breathe out. c) Don't lust in between!

About 9 months ago, in the throws of the addiction, I woke up one morning feeling that I no longer recognized myself. I don't know what it was, but a terrible sensation tore through me and hit me at the very core. "What happened to me?" I thought. "Where did the old me go...

Dear Rabbi Twerski, There was a lively discussion on our forum over here recently about whether or not we should tell children how babies are born, and at what age, and how much to reveal, etc... If the Rav has time to read some of the points of view that were expressed o...

Now that it is Chanuka, there is a tikkun, that after lighting the Chanuka candles (or oil), one should look at the lights and meditate, "hanerot hallalu kodesh heim - these lights are holy." The sefarim say that they represent the original light of creation. Concentratin...

"Silentbattle" writes on the forum: One thing I love about this site is that it deals with different levels of addiction, different types (levels) of aveiros - but everyone helps each grow! Yeah, it could be easy for every person in their own way to look at others and bre...

Yosef Writes: My name is Yosef. I posted on this forum only one time in the past, more than 6 months ago. At that time, I also reached out to someone here on the forum, but not believing that he would ever answer my PM (private messages), I never checked my messages - unt...

"KolelGuy" wrote on the forum: I've been doing really well since my last fall, which just "happened" to be the day before I joined the GYE crew. The main issue for me has always been that I would forget my weakness and get too confident. But since I'm here, I keep myself ...

It seems weird that almost three weeks clean have passed. I spent the last day or so forcing myself find other outlets for the time I spent. The best distraction has actually been working. I have been working like a mad man. I used to sit at my desk and figure out what I ...