Practical Tips

In the summer time, many people have lots of time on their hands. The Michtav M'Eliahu (R. Dessler zt"l) writes that the mind is like a vast empty field. This field will not remain empty. If you do not fill it with good positive thoughts, or busy yourself with something, ...

Summer time is harder. Wherever you go, there are mixed crowds of vacationers and immodestly dressed women. One-time-addicts are especially sensitive to what they see on the street. The nature of the addiction causes the chemicals in the mind to be quickly aroused. It is ...

An 18 year old Bachur posted his story on our forum along with the tips that he uses to help him stay clean. The story is particularly inspiring due to the fact that this boy received no Jewish Chinuch from his parents, and yet he is clean already for almost a year! If h...

Read what this holy Jew posted on the forum (edited a bit for clarity): As I require Internet access for my line of work, I had fallen into harmful patterns of not only porn usage, but also secular media and culture exposure. My rationalization for this was that I needed...

A member on the forum called "Tahor" posted: I am in my 40's. My second marriage. My first ended because of multiple affairs. At that time, I spent hour upon hour in Torah study. I attended the place of assembly regularly (SA groups). I formed small groups of men for acco...

One of our members (whose story can be seen here) wrote the following e-mail to his partner who was struggling to break free of this addiction:   There are 2 areas that need to be addressed when dealing with this - the root cause, and the practical day-to-day challenges. ...

"Nomer" posted on the Forum When you have an urge to check out a news story that involves anything sexual just to peak your interest or to stay informed of the 'news', AVOID it like the devil!!! I have fallen into this trap quite a few times and although it seemed innocen...

Rabbi Avraham J. Twerski sent us an article he found in Hebrew that he thought would be useful for our Chizuk (I believe that Rabbi Twerski personally translated it into English for us). Advice for Someone Tempted to View Forbidden Pictures - and a Tikkun If the yetzer ha...

When the Yetzer Hara strikes hard and we feel suddenly weak, vulnerable and afraid of falling, here are three things a person can do to save themselves: 1) Stop what you are doing and cry out to Hashem. "Hashem, the Yetzer Hara is too strong for me. I need you. I can't do...

If you are sitting by the computer at work and a strong urge comes to you, just get up and walk out of the room. Take a walk and pray. Whenever you feel weak, just stop what you are doing and pray. Say: "Hashem, please save me from this menuval! He is too strong for me! O...

Our website and network is called "GuardUrEyes" because the eyes are the "windows to the soul". All the limbs of the body - including the heart and mind, follow the purity of the eyes. No matter how complex this disease seems to be, emotionally, psychologically, physicall...

Today is Hoshana Rabba, the last chance for Teshuvah before the final "Chasimah" of the new year. We need to have a clear cut plan if we want to succeed in doing true Teshuvah. We need to make sure that visiting forbidden sites and masturbation is simply "not an option" f...

I want to share with you a beautiful story of recovery that someone posted on www.jewishsexuality.com. The story contains tips and ideas that can help us all in this struggle, but what I found the nicest about it, is the simple no-nonsense outlook that the writer has, acc...

Every Midah (attribute) that Hashem created, can be used for either good or bad. How can the attribute of "laziness" be used for good? Well, one powerful way to fight the Yetzer Hara is simply to be LAZY about sinning. The Yetzer Hara wants us to act out, but what if we j...

After we talked about taking drastic measures in the past, "Mevakesh" sent us the following e-mail: I'll tell you something that I have been doing for a while and it seems to be working and may work for others. Every time I find myself looking at a woman for more time tha...

"Habib613" posted the following yesterday on the forum: Baruch Hashem, today is day 9. I cannot believe I made it this long! It's incredibly difficult, especially at night when there is no one around. But this site has helped tons! I listen to music while I work, and it b...

"Be-Holy" posted once on the forum: We have kosher internet Rimon and my temptations are getting lighter, but my issue is that I still can't look my wife in the eye because I wish she looked better, and in my mind, I want her to dress sexier - while at the same time knowi...

Jack writes to ShomerAyin: Dear ShomerAyin, I feel your pain and frustration because I've been there. It's true, nothing seems to help. But group support really does help. And there is one more thing you need: brute strength. But you can't do it alone, no matter how stron...