Practical Tips

ADDITIONAL TOOLS FOR RECOVERYIMPROVE RELATION WITH SELFEMERGENCY TOOLS ;1. Short prayer, "I'm powerless, please G-d help me!"2. Move somewhere else. (Get away from the trigger!)3. Pick up litter.4. Sing (or hum) a favorite tune. Or listen to music.5. Call someone from the program or the forum NOW...

; We all know the sick feeling of regret we all feel after the sin has been committed, ;and it hurts and makes us feel really depressed and sick, especially, immediately afterward. ;Then, as time causes us to forget, the feeling goes away, and the sin happens over and over again. ;So the trick i...

; Roughly six months ago, I watched a particularly riveting porn scene (please God, that was the last one). ; I could not get the images out of my mind. ; Whenever I shut my eyes, there they were. ; Then I remembered from when I was young and scary thoughts/images would frighten me. I was sent ...

In the world of sensory stimulation – sounds, smells and images – eyes are our primary interface with the world. Eyesight accounts for 80% of what we learn and 80% of our memories. We need to choose our images wisely, as the Torah exhorts: "Don't stray after your heart and ;eyes" (Numbers 15:39)....

Rabbi Azriel Ariel, of the the Israeli organization Hotam, which works to propose Halachic solutions to societal problems, has called to address the phenomenon of romantic relationships in the workplace. He stressed the need to create a behavioral code that will prevent unhealthy relationships t...

; 1) Always guard your eyes carefully during the day. 2) Guard yourself from ;lustful thoughts. 3) The Kitzor Shulchan Aruch offers advice on preventing keri like reciting the first four Psalms before going to bed, and not overeating before retiring to sleep, and avoiding spicy foods..... The Ar...

I just want to respond to someone who said that he "just can not say no (to lust)." I am a member of Sexaholics Anonymous. What works for me is realizing that I am totally NOT in control and only God can get me out of this. Therefore, whenever I feel "I just can't say no," I pray to my Higher Pow...

I go to Las Vegas twice a year for a ; business ;convention. This past time I decided that I had enough of the seedy Strip and instead I stayed at the La Quinta in Summerlin, next door to Rabbi Wyne’s Shul (Young Israel of LV). I really enjoyed myself. I was able to sit outside and learn Shabbos...

Thank you for your mail. It helps me to find the strength to face this situation, without being overwhelmed. I knew that being mad and so upset was neither appropriate nor helpful reaction to his fall, but I could not find my way out of my painful feelings. When I read your answer, I instantly fe...

; If you're reading this, it's likely that you've been struggling with Shmiras Ainayim for years with ups and downs, and can't seem to get a full grip on it. Well, you're not alone. This is one of man's greatest struggles, and all the more so for people who already became addicted to such behavi...