Practical Tips

Moshe wrote on the forum: I feel like I'm hopeless. I've tried almost everything, but I am locked in a vicious cycle of good, bad and ugly days. Every time a few good days pass, I get the good feeling and forget about my effort of recovery, even though I know it won't las...

Lately I have been phoning/txting/emailing/chatting with other chevra. The Yetzer Horah thrives on isolation. He loves depression. I love shmoozing. I love connection. By communicating with others, I am 'connecting' to them, thereby getting my craving for 'emotional fulfi...

The 90 Day chart that we developed for GYE members is a big motivator, but you might want to also try a different version, with some features that our 90-Day chart doesn't have (yet). Check out "Joe's Goals", a motivational program designed to help you reach your goals. I...

A member wrote on the forum: I fell twice again today, I really can see that I can't afford to take that 1st lust hit, because once I open it up, I'm powerless, I have to put the break on before that point. But what if my partner is unavailable? I haven't quite got the k...

I'm married, Torah observant, clean and sober 15 years in AA, and sexually sober for nearly four years. How did I/do I stay clean? The first 90 days were definitely all about using what I had learned in AA, and inspiration from Chaim Kramer's book "Crossing the Narrow Bri...

Here is a little tip that has been working for me, for almost 6 months now. It starts with having someone like a Rav, who you'll really feel ashamed revealing this behaviour to. Second, make a list of things to do if you feel the urge before acting out (the goal being not...

Davka when things are going well is a wonderful time to strengthen our defenses. For example, install a filter (with the password held by someone else and with only the person holding the password having the ability to reset it), strengthen the settings on our existing fi...

A number of years ago, I spoke to my Rebbi/Rosh Yeshiva (who is world famous) and I told him that I feel like I am being controlled from the outside and have no physical control over my body and ability to control my actions in my area of weakness. He gave me some ideas, ...

Here's something I started recently: I'm going through the archives of the chizuk emails. Anything I see that talks to me personally, I add it to my thread called WORLD'S COLLECTION OF INSPIRATION.You can do a similar thread yourself. I find the tips add up quickly. I re...

Since I've joined GYE b"H, I bounce back a lot quicker than I used to after a fall; I'm able to treat it as a passing glitch in the overall trend rather than the overall trend. By nature, I'm an anxious worrying type and since joining GYE I've been much calmer and more re...

The pre-Rosh Hashanah wave of visitors to the town of Uman in Ukraine peaked on Monday as around 9,000 boarded 50 flights from Ben-Gurion International Airport. Another 5,500 people will travel to Ukraine today on 28 flights to visit the kever of Rav Nachman of Breslov...

By "World" Don't add the GUARDYOUREYES website to your FAVORITES list. Each time I type in the words ...G-U-A-R-D-Y-O-U-R-E-Y-E-S... it's a real reminder! (Sometimes subconsciously). Paul replies: What has helped me immensely is making guardyoureyes.org my homepage on my ...

How does one repent for certain sins that he knows he will repeat is a question that is being always asked. And the answer is as follows. If a man smokes forty cigarettes every Shabbos, and he decides he's going to smoke only thirty nine, that's a fortunate man. That's ca...

I have a technique that works for me. I have been trying it for a couple of weeks now and I believe it works for me, so I just had to share it with you. For all I know, it may already be something many of you do, but in case it is not, I believe it will appeal and give yo...

Getting to 90 days clean is a great feeling, and I want to share what helped me. I had started the 90 day chart in November 2009, but I kept falling. I couldn't put my finger on it, but I would go for a few weeks - and then fall, a few weeks - then a fall.Then I realized ...

I have been sexually sober for over a year and have not purposely viewed pornography of any kind in over something like 7 months. The usual progression for me usually starts on the street and goes to internet news sites, which then goes to lust type of news, and from ther...

Someone posted: BS'D I haven't posted much over the past months. After I made that one time fall after 21 days on the 90 day chart, I felt like a nobody. I kept falling and things got progressively worse over time R"L. Then I started reading the AA-book and now I really...