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Chazal say that all your sexual drives and intimacy should be channeled towards your wife, which means that these desires and intimacy were created to bring a husband and wife to the ultimate connection. Throughout the day, you can practice thinking about your wife. Think...

With the greatest of humility, I thank the Almighty for 2 years clean on April 8th. The following is partial list of what I attribute the success that I had hitherto - may the Almighty continue protect me amongst all His struggling children! 1 - Non-stop Prayer that Hashe...

In response to the Lakewood Scoop article about our work, someone wrote in the comments: I need a program called "guard your feet" (from going to bad places), "guard your self" (from doing wrong things), "guard your car" (from driving to bad places), etc.. Is anyone able ...

Although, Boruch Hashem, I'm over 22 months clean, I have decided to strengthen my defenses while things are going well.To that end, there are two new developments:1) I switched to Jnet with the "Mehadrin filter" as my Internet service provider. That's on top of the K9 f...

Hi, Kol khakavod on this site! B"H I have had great siyatta dishmaya all my life, even though since I am 12 I have burning passion. (When I was 13 during studies in class, I had to literally inflict blows and bruises on my flesh in order to chase away fantasies). But I wa...

In this week's Parsha the Torah sums up all of the donations that the Jews made to the Mishkan, both for the Keilim as well as the Bigdei Kehuna. The first question we must ask ourselves is, why is it so important to have an exact count of everything that was gathered? We...

From the GYE Handbook Tool #6: Alternate Fulfillment: It is very important, at all levels of the struggle/addiction, to engage in exercise and physical activities on a regular basis, at least a few times a week. Besides for boosting self-esteem, exercise releases tensions...

Part of the compulsive aspect of it, is that I'd sit in front of a computer, and once I was there, it was a natural next step to look at garbage.One thing that helped me was to use my imagination. Before I was in the situation, I'd picture myself being tempted, and gettin...

Feeling bored and aimless while sitting in front of a computer is a recipe for disaster for an addict. It is so easy to be pulled to YouTube for some so-called "kosher" entertainment, but one click leads to another... and we all know where this can lead. In previous Chizu...

Going through Sha'ar Ha'bitachon in Chovos Ha'livavos six times helped (and still helps) me tremendously. (Addicts should start from chapter 1, not the 'pesicha' introduction, to the sha'ar, I think). It's just 70 pages of warm, warm loving words of compassion and persona...

It's been a long time since I've posted on the forum. In the past two weeks I have come to the realization that I cannot be on the computer alone with internet access, despite filters and other means of prevention and discovery. So I unplugged my internet connection and m...

Joe999 wrote: If you have Windows Vista or XP you can download gadgets, so I downloaded a countdown clock that tells me every time I turn on my computer, exactly how many days, mins, and secs I have left till 90 days. It really helps me think that I'm accomplishing as I s...

After a big fall, "Ben Durdaya" joined our forum and posted his story... Here is an excerpt of some of the chizuk he gave himself: A. I wil bl"n l try to stop focusing on the damage that I'm doing to my parnossah, learning, children's chances for hatzlachah etc. -all of t...

Someone said an amazing thing today that I wanted to write down and keep in my own little corner of GYE. Of course this is something I knew, but inside I was fighting it... We have to set limits for ourselves that are way behind our trigger points. Because once we get tri...

Sexual lust can only be kept at bay by avoiding provocative sights and thoughts. Do not enter into negotiations with your desires, for the elaboration of your thoughts, even directed at annulling the desires, will have the effect of reinforcing the desires, and they ca...

It's been about a year on GYE, and I thought this would be a good time to update what went on the past year. My road to recovery was not as great as expected, with several ups and downs during the year. One particular area which captured me this past year, was using my bl...

Click here to listen to a 10 minute recording explaining the TaPHSiC method and how it works. There are two main stumbling blocks that cause an addict to relapse: 1) Compulsiveness: When under an attack of lust, we feel we need it NOW – and the lust makes us act compulsiv...

Do you have a bad habit you'd like to overcome? If so, you are not alone. Millions of people want to quit smoking, stop eating junk food, or give up their sedentary lifestyle. But attacking the problem head-on may not be the answer. The pine oak tree (quercus palustris fo...