Practical Tips

There are many people who are desperate and say that they would do ;anything ;to be free of the compulsion. Here is something that will indeed take much ;effort, but if one is really ready to do ;anything, this can help greatly: WATCH YOUR SPEECH! Be meticulous in avoiding ALL ;l...

We have a member on our forum who calls himself "Momo". When he first read through the GYE handbooks (here), they did not seem to have a lasting effect on him. We managed to convince him however, that the handbooks can't work unless we read them slowly and try to IMPLEMENT t...

One of the slogans of the 12-step program is "Keep it simple (stupid)". It is important to keep things simple. We make things difficult by complicating them. "Simple" does not mean "easy." A command to lift a 100 pound weight is simple, it's just very hard. If we keep things s...

This may seem a little different, but it's tried and true. Whatever it is that you are struggling with - in our case it is lust, we all know that we are most vulnerable when we are feeling down. When we are well rested, we feel good. And when we eat r...

Don't fall on a whim. I'll say it again: Don't fall on a whim. Falling is too painful to do just like that. If a person c"v feels like he must fall, he should at least think it through. Write down 10 reasons you ;don't ;want to fall. Then write down 10 reasons...

I've been trying to write down in my pocket calendar how many times I've looked at women in the street each day. I'm only counting if I see someone and keep on looking, or if I intentionally look around. I used to think this happens nearly a hundred times in a day. Now that I'm ke...

I want to share an eitza which occurred to me. While on the road to 90 days, one can fall into a monotonous routine... Once this happens, the propensity to act out increases. I just started planning posts on the forum. Thoughts and ideas that I want to post, or reactions that ...

Reb Avigdor Miller says that we should repeat over and over to ourselves that we are a holy ;people. At ;first, it sounds like a lie, but eventually, it makes its way into our consciousness.

I used to have a big problem with having bad thoughts as I was going to sleep, which let to slip-ups many times. Recently I found something that really helps a lot - it's a bit of Bresslov mantra mediation. Just close your eyes and keep on repeating to yourself the words "Ribono S...

I believe in very few "rules" and directives. If whatever I'm already doing isn't working (and I had >15 years of that craziness), I try something else. If that works, I keep it in my pocket for the next time and share it with others. Here's one example of what works for me. If I...