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Things to Consider

By the.guard

Here are a few interesting things I've been thinking about to keep myself inspired, and I wanted to share them: 1) Imagine walking around and everyone in the world knows what you are thinking. You would make sure not to see or think anything bad. Well, guess what? In just...

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Your Greatest Desire

By the.guard

From TorahAnyTime's weekly Parsha Newsletter. Reb Tzadok of Lublin writes, “Kol adam yesh lo chemda – Every person possesses an inner desire.” It may be for money, physical pleasure, honor, or a variety of other pursuits. “But one should know,” says Rav Tzadok, “that thes...

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Trust in God - Reducing Anxiety

By the.guard

Stress and Anxiety are common underlying reasons for escape into destructive pleasure based behaviors. Dr. Rosemerin developed 4 exercises for increasing bitachon which he has scientifically proven through a randomized controlled trial to reduce anxiety and stress eve...

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It’s called ‘Hell Week’ for good reason

By the.guard

It’s the hardest physical challenge of a Navy SEAL’s 24-week training. It’s where the remaining 20% of recruits are whittled down to the 5%. A former Navy SEAL who got through ‘Hell Week’ shared an important idea that we can all use to get through our challenge. Hell Wee...

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Dear Abby

By the.guard

How old will be you be in seven years if you don’t go to medical school (or fulfill any other ambition)? – Pauline Phillips (“Dear Abby”) Abigail Van Buren, who penned the long-running “Dear Abby” advice columns from 1956 until her death in 2013, was actually a Jewish wom...

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Eyes on the Ball

By the.guard

In recent weeks I've been thinking about something I saw in one of Rabbi Noach Weinberg’s books where he speaks about reaching our goals. He says that the most common reason we don’t reach our goals is because it feels “heavy”, “painful” or “hard”, and therefore we don’t ...

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It's Just Not Fair!

By the.guard

Question: I’m 18 and according to Chazal I should get married. It is just not fair! My desires and urges are so great but I have at least 3 years to go until I get married! Sometimes I just feel like giving up. What is the proper outlook? Answer: First of all, Hashem sen...

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Guilt Weighs Me Down

By the.guard

In response to Chizuk Boost #572: Bad Remorse Versus Good Remorse someone wrote: Thank you very much. I needed to hear this, and it is very true point. But what should I do when I try to be positive and move forward with joy and optimism, but then the thought comes "But h...

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The Intimacy Compartment

By the.guard

Every human being has a compartment in their brain for the area of intimacy. As long as this so-called "box" hasn't been opened yet, it remains only in potential and does not take up much bandwidth in the mind, if any at all. This is the normal case with pre-adolescent ...

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Get the Message!

By the.guard

I wanted to just share this... Recently, a fellow that I know from many years back was arrested for some deviant behavior in the realm of z'nus. Here was a guy just about my age and on the surface seemed to have had it all. A great job, beautiful family, prominence in the...

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Struggling Avreich

By the.guard

Question from member "wilnevergiveup": I am a serious avreich learning full time, I learn mussar regularly and constantly strengthen myself with various incentives. I can then usually keep myself clean for 2-3 weeks, then this or that and I am back to square one. I will t...

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Crying from Happiness

By the.guard

I struggle with lust as far back as I can remember. I’m married now and I have a loving wife with beautiful children b”h. My wife knows about my struggles, but not the extent. I just started my journey on GYE and I’m a few days clean. However it was still a struggle for ...

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Corona Stress

By the.guard

Question: I need to air out and relax from work, family, etc. How can I deal with stress? I'm looking for healthy ideas and (non-addictive) outlets... Reply: In general, the best way to deal with stress is to ask ourselves at every given moment "What would Hashem want ...

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Nothing to fear but fear itself

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The Maharal (Chidushei Agados Bava Metzia 33.) teaches that when a person is afraid of poverty, he will become poor. The Maharal explains,"By being afraid of poverty, a person is subjugating himself to poverty, and this causes the poverty to rule over him." The Maharal pr...

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The Only Thing We Need to Know

By the.guard

Having dealt with thousands of people who struggle with lust at all levels on GuardYourEyes, I would like to share with you what I have come to believe is the most powerful attitude to overcoming the Yetzer Hara at all levels of this struggle (and also perhaps the greates...

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You can't be embarrassed of getting well

By obormottel

I heard someone mention that he would be embarrassed for anyone to find out about his history even if he would be clean for many years. This attitude makes one refrain from joining live groups and in turn, can push off the real recovery. How can we overcome this feeling of embarrassment?

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10 Excuses That Will Keep You Watching Porn

By obormottel

This article is reprinted from Fortify.com: Copyright Disclaimer Addiction teaches us to rationalize and justify. Over time we get really good at making excuses for ourselves to act out and we keep buying into our own lies. There is no end to what a porn addict can come u...

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Are you confident?

By obormottel

Confidence isn't everything. Here are traits that are just as important to cultivate: - Acceptance - Kindness - Patience - Resilience - Grit - Foresight - Compassion - Rationality - Forgiveness - Authenticity - Courage - Gratitude - Honesty - Optimism - Discipline - Wisdom

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