Q & A

I got a sort of halacha question. I know and feel like I'm in serious danger of falling right now, and I want to know if it's allowed for me to "reward" myself by doing wasting seed with my wife. Like if I can go 6 months without falling, then can I in turn do something that is not mutar? ;Thank ...

;RABBI YEHOSHUA KAGANOFF Passaic, NJ 07055 201-953-2703 20 Sivan, 5776 / 26 June ‘16 Below is the pertinent part of my responsum to a highly regarded, prominent Talmid Chochom Posek, which is found on pg 158 of my sefer ;on addiction and halocho. I have translated (and annotated) it below and at...

Dear Scared Witless, The Tzadikim have already addressed this Zohar that implies there is no Teshuvah for this, and offered numerous answers and explanations. It’s not our topic, but the point is, you can definitely do teshuva even for this, and it does not contradict the Zohar in the slightest ...

Question: A GYE user sent me a message asking if I don't mind sharing my WhatsApp number so we could help each other. ; So far, we have exchanged personal messages on the website and it was ok, but I wonder, are members of GYE allowed to talk via WhatsApp? I mean, there will be a picture of me t...

Question from a woman: I once heard that shmiras einayim isn't as serious for women as is for men. Sometimes I'll stop myself from looking at something for my future children. But I'm not as makbid with not looking at certain sites or certain types of movies as I was before I heard that from th...

You said yesterday that you can't accept the fact that you are (or you are labeled) a lustaholic ;- an addict to lust. I can identify with your fear of this stigma, I understand you so well. I (and many more on GYE) have been in the same boat and are still there. I will never forgot the moment I...

Dear Yid, You have a disease called addiction, which means that your brain has become hyper-sexual by the pathways carved by the chemicals released over years when doing these behaviors. You see, the brain needs to find balance. So when a person begins engaging in these kind of behaviors often, ...

Someone wrote to GYE: I have been sober for almost ten months, Baruch Hashem, and I have been attending SA meetings for almost a year. I got permission from my addiction therapist to begin dating at six months of sobriety, and I began a few months ago, right after Succos. On my fourth girl, it g...

GYE asked an old-time SA member and this was his response: Yeah, some people like it while some don't; in some countries and cities it's attendance and sobriety presence is pathetic while in others SA's is; etc, etc. I don't know if it's more robust, but they have a section for LGBT members and i...

; Dov writes: Sometimes guys write to me about SSA. I responded to a couple of them with this (below) as a start to the right ;conversation: As far as myself, I do not see any similarity that homosexuality bears to addiction. Do you? It seems like a ;separate issue and therefor needs to be accep...