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Conversion Therapy for SSA

Conversion Therapy for SSA

By the.guard
Question: I know conversion therapy is highly controversial and deemed unhelpful and unhealthy in the mental health field. What do you think about it? Dovid, a GYE volunteer, responds: Thanks for sharing the question and I am glad to answer the question from my perspect...
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Zera Without Sperm

By the.guard
Hi, I have an unusual situation: I don’t spill seed when I masturbate because I don’t have a vas deferens: it’s the link between the testes and the penis that brings actual sperm. I just emit white liquid. I actually don’t have a problem staying away from masturbation how...
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I can't stop looking at girls!

I can't stop looking at girls!

By the.guard
Q: I'm 21. I don't masturbate or watch porn but I find girls tantalizing. Being shomer negiah, there isn't any release, and I'd like to be able to interact with girls without being a creep/perv. What can I do? GYE Responds: The fact you don't masturbate or watch porn is...
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Dating Advice

Dating Advice

By the.guard
Q: I am 24 years old and in shidduchim and I feel lost in the whole parshah, how to deal with my lust issues legabay Shidduchim. I don't know if this is something you could help me with but I am in need of guidance and I don't have where to get it from. A: There are two ...
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The Game Called Life

The Game Called Life

By the.guard
Question: I find myself able to hold strong with the routine challenges, like I know when I go here there's going to be that etc I'm prepared, but I almost have no defense when the challenge arises in a completely unexpected time or place. It's almost like my yetzer hara ...
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What Rabbis Who Criticize the 12-Steps Need to Know

What Rabbis Who Criticize the 12-Steps Need to Know

By the.guard
I think that this recording (Shiur #8 of Dov's Shovavim Chaburah) was a very good one, in my opinion. The entire subject and what he writes (in the Kuntress "Derech Emes", is controversial. I think if you listen carefully, you will understand very well why so many frumm...
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How to do Teshuvah for disseminating shmutz?

How to do Teshuvah for disseminating shmutz?

By the.guard
I, unfortunately, shared a lot of girls and women pictures over the years. I've tried to do whatever I can to delete and prevent circulation now but I know that some people still have them.
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Should a therapist be his client’s Webchaver buddy?

Should a therapist be his client’s Webchaver buddy?

By obormottel
A client has asked me whether I would be prepared to be his Webchaver to help him stop watching porn. Essentially this means that there would be a download of the History of Sites he has visited and Alerts if he visits any porn sites, sent to my nominated email.
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3 Myths About Pornography Use In Couples You Might Still Believe

3 Myths About Pornography Use In Couples You Might Still Believe

By obormottel
Whether you are are in a committed relationship or thinking about one, or you are a counselor, member of the clergy, or a therapist, here are 3 myths about pornography use among couples you need to know:
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Halacha Question: Wife with Severe Arthritis

Halacha Question: Wife with Severe Arthritis

By the.guard
My wife and I are over 65 years old. She has severe arthritis in all her joints, so she can't put her legs in position for biah.
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Depression in Sobriety

Depression in Sobriety

By obormottel
I am currently over 7 months clean and still have depression (for which I take medicine), and I get into the escape mode a lot (I surf the news or just try to numb my existence). I'm feeling lost, what am I missing?
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Sexual Fantasies During Relations

Sexual Fantasies During Relations

By obormottel
What are the halachic guidelines when it comes to thoughts during sex? Is there any way for me to rewire my brain and stop this? I feel helpless. Thank you so much. 
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Scared of Falling

Scared of Falling

By obormottel
B”H, I’m doing okay — almost 12 full days - but I’m scared I will just have a sudden fall. I’m trying to put in an effort every day but maybe one day I’ll simply be possessed by my Y”H and masturbate, and either not care or just not have the power to stop it in the moment.
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When is enough enough?

When is enough enough?

By obormottel
Many people tell me that I am not an addict. After all, has my addictive behaviors caused terrible harm and consequences? Have I lost my whole family?  Have I contracted AIDS? Have I given someone else a sexually transmitted disease?
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Dealing with intrusive thoughts

Dealing with intrusive thoughts

By obormottel
The problem is that you are fighting. A good driver needs guardrails only in an emergency - to drive constantly bumping against the guardrails is a problem. 
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Integrity

Integrity

By obormottel
Dear Dov, What are some things we can do to build integrity into our lives? Sometimes there seems to be some in one area, but less in another. -Looking for Integrity Dear Looking, There are many ways of bringing Integrity into our lives but I believe that all of them are...
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Not Attracted to My Wife

Not Attracted to My Wife

By obormottel
Question: Hi, I'm 26 years old. I am married for a bit over 5 years and from the beginning, have not had much of an attraction for my wife. However, after having 2 kids, my wife gained a lot of weight and now I have absolutely no attraction to her. I spoke to her about th...
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Unfiltered Internet Device?!

Unfiltered Internet Device?!

By obormottel
QUESTION: I just came home from summer camp, and I found out my little brother got an iPod with unrestricted internet on it. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do because I myself have unlimited internet. I'm scared he's going to end up like me. Can you help? ANSWER: Are y...
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