Q & A

; A. ;Just the fact that you had the will power to stop looking at forbidden things shows you have greatness inside you. How many people are willing to work on themselves and admit their past mistakes in today's world? This is very precious in G-d's eyes. Chassidus teaches us that a Jew has to l...

A. ;This is a very good question and it is one of the deepest mysteries of the universe. I will try to answer it with explanations from ;Chassidus ;and the ;Ramcha"l ;but I hope you understand the terminology (if not, feel free to ask for clarification): Regarding one who says: I will sin and th...

GYE Answers: ; First of all, ;share your life with Hashem. He is your very best friend. Believe me, no flesh and blood relationships can ever really solve your problems. I know so many people with many good relationships and still lonely inside. Only Hashem can fill that hole, and He is always ...

Dear Scared! Let me first commend your level-headedness, a quality that is exceedingly rare when it comes to relationships. You obviously have your head screwed on right and you are walking into this with your eyes wide open. So often people enter or avoid relationships without any clear thinki...

Questions: 1) May men masturbate? Is there any (rabbinic) dispute regarding that? If not, for what reason? 2) And the same regarding women. Are they prohibited to masturbate? Is there a discussion regarding that? If not, why? ; Reply: B”H To the honorable questioner. Although this subject requi...

; Someone called us with a shailah: His wife is in her 8th month pregnancy and has a lot of sciatic pain and numbness in the legs and backside, which makes relations painful for her. He wanted to know if there is any heter of sex with his wife without penetration, such as derech eivarim? ; I rem...

We received the following sheilah: I am reaching out to you on behalf of a good friend of mine. She had a boyfriend for a few years, and now that she is soon going into shidduchim, she realized she may not be a besula but she is unsure. She did have relations a number of times, however, she know...

Dear Unwilling, What if your best friend told you the following: "I have a secret that I want to share with you ;because you are my best friend in the whole world. I have never revealed this to anyone. There is a forest at the end of the city. You need to go at night, so no one sees you. If you g...

I'm a lust addict. What does that mean? It means that even when I'm not actually doing the big act, I'm thinking about it. ; I'm fantasizing. ; I'm checking out women for lower-level excitement. ; And the pressure builds until I am completely out of control and act out again. ; ; I have found th...

A nocturnal emission is something that occurs by itself, against a person's will, and therefore the person is not considered to have committed a willful transgression and there is no punishment involved. ;Nonetheless, t'shuva is certainly appropriate, especially if a person looked at things he s...