Q & A

Question: Hi, I'm 26 years old. I am married for a bit over 5 years and from the beginning, have not had much of an attraction for my wife. However, after having 2 kids, my wife gained a lot of weight and now I have absolutely no attraction to her. I spoke to her about this, and she tried to lose...

QUESTION: I just came home from summer camp, and I found out my little brother got an iPod with unrestricted internet on it. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do because I myself have unlimited internet. I'm scared he's going to end up like me. Can you help? ANSWER: Are your parents aware of the ...

Kayla (pseudonym) was referred to me a number of years ago, by her caring Rebbetzen and mentor, for what she described as a “very sensitive, urgent problem, of a sexual nature.” The following week, the poised, pleasant, 20-year-old young woman showed up for intake and described her presenting pro...

Dear Tzubrochen, When the subconscious mind starts to realize that you have made a decision not to watch pornography anymore, it rebels. It wants the "drug." It wants that rush of adrenaline and raised heartbeat. Therefore, when it is in charge - when you are sleeping, half awake, or very spaced ...

Dear GYE, ; There are no words to thank you for the tremendous help and support you provide. I have worked on many of the tools, but I think I need the most help in one area. How to properly deal with "sticky thoughts." Fantasies ;and triggers will often sneak in. I am compulsive by nature and I ...

Question: I grew up without anyone teaching me about Kedusha issues, and I always thought that I was alone in my struggles and that I was a major loser. It wasn't until after my marriage that I found GYE and read the handbook (especially the "Attitude Principles") that I finally had the right att...

"Workingmyprogram" asks: The klippa has us so confused - he makes us think we need to run to churches and goyim for help. We have the power of tefilla which is the strongest eitzah of all! Cry out to Hashem with genuine tears, and you will feel His closeness! Why all the running for 'keil ;zor' -...

GYE Responds: Excellent question. I am not a posek, but I will try to use common sense based on what I have learned. - If a person's wife is a niddah, then he should not do anything intentionally to arouse his desire for her. ; - If she is mutar to him, then it depends. If he is about to be with ...

GYE Responds: Before the great flood in the days of Noah, it says "And G-d saw that the land was destroyed, for all flesh was destroying their ways on the ground". Our sages explain this to mean that one of their many sins was that they spilled their seed. This seems to imply that it is bad in G-...

GS says: “Not without your sponsor and not before you get to step 9. And ;- not until you have read everything the Big Book, the '12 and 12', and what the White Book say about disclosures.” ; Dan says: “I have been in the rooms for about 8 years. I haven't seen anyone with reasonable recovery ...