Q & A

A girl asked us: ; This is a bit embarrassing but I have this desire to look at my Israeli cousin's non-tznius friends online (Facebook & Instagram). Is this coming from a place where I wish I could look as good as them, or is it the yetzer hara trying to get me to look at porn with a few mo...

GYE Member asks: Having a sexual relationship with a woman not married to you is considered bad. ;Hooking up with a prostitute is a dirty act. ;Having a sexual relationship with a mom is horrific.Having a sexual relationship with a minor is just as bad.Having a sexual relationship with the same s...

Question: I'm male and sexually attracted to certain types of men. ;I've been brought up with weird parents. I also had a difficult upbringing and was bullied a lot. ;About half a year ago, someone recommended a book, "Bad Childhood, Good Life", which changed my life! Now I find that ;I get a cru...

Robert came to my office, not by his own choice. ; He was “forced” by his wife Linda to meet me with me. ; She was sick and tired of Robert’s growing distance from her. ; And had suspected that he was acting inappropriately on his computer and was repulsed by the way he would flirt with the women...

Question: ; What happens to "Frummies" who are gay or transgender? There will always be a percentage of people in any given community who are somehow just born like this and there is no way to change them. Sometimes nature makes a mistake and assigns the incorrect gender to a person, so the poor...

Join GYE English-Speaking Live Groups Why does GYE have live meetings, isn’t SA enough? It is important to emphasize that GYE's live groups are not meant to compete with SA in anyway. They are only meant to help those who would anyway not be going to SA now, or who are not yet ready for SA (as ...

I just read a Medrash today that asks, "Why does Hashem forgive the sins of the Yidden and not those of the goyim?" Answers the Medrash, that when a goy sins it's because he wants to throw off the yoke of Heaven. But when a Yid sins, it's only out of taavah or laziness, but deep down he really wi...

A Spouse wrote: I am plagued by the thought that this is my fault because I gained weight. I know my husband wanted a slim person only and cares about my weight. As a bachur, he had this problem, which he thought would go away when he got married. He told me it did help being married till I gaine...

Duvid Chaim asks: ; It’s always been a frustration of mine and many many men I talk to - that the Gemaras don’t “seem” to address addictions. ; No frum struggler wants to feel like the Torah doesn’t understand his plight. ;If you or anyone else has some insights, please share. ; Yaakov responds...

Dear Dov, A woman wrote to us admitting that she did terrible things, lied a lot, and ruined her life as a result. Her children were taken away from her, she is on parole, etc... She is devastated, feels hopeless, and is racked by guilt. ; Dov Responds: Hashem loved her before she did those thi...