Q & A

Question: I am a frum woman and my situation is as follows. Two and a half years ago I left my sex addict (now ex-) husband. He is a charismatic, fun-loving man, as I like to say, "the nicest man you will ever meet." His interests were porn and voyeurism. He was extreme...

Dear Rabbi Morgenstern, Would the Rav be able to weigh in to this discussion and offer a psak? See the conversation below: Question: Can I use a mixed gym and pool, as I feel It would help me not to fall. I know that these days we are not allowed to even go in to the st...

Question: I am a happily married man. But for a reason I don't know, this past week my mind has been driving me nuts with thoughts of other women, etc. These thoughts are so powerful. Is there a way to stop them? Are there any extra prayers I can be reciting? Is there so ...

Mesilas Yesharim says, "Kol inyanei haolam nisyanos heim l'adam -- All matters in this world, everything, are tests for man." That's a sweeping statement! What does it mean tests? Hashem has to test you to know what you are? He doesn't know beforehand what you're going to...

Question: I'm breaking free from porn, not masturbation. Does the one affect the other in terms of addiction or not? The 90-day chart for me isn't just a game to follow the rules for. I want to achieve my goal with it. Of course, I will do what is necessary in order to br...

Dear Crossroads, Excellent question. It seems that overall you are working on yourself and doing well, but you are still struggling with occasional falls. You should know that there is almost never such a thing as an "overcharged libido" by nature. Rather, our sages tell ...

Porn is addictive for the same reason that many drugs are addictive. Neuroscientist Dr. William Struthers explains how the brain reacts to viewing pornography repeatedly: As men fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on these images, the exposure to them create...

Testimony from Hearing on Pornography's Impact on Family and Marriage Beginning pornography use associated with increase in probability of divorce

A girl asked us: This is a bit embarrassing but I have this desire to look at my Israeli cousin's non-tznius friends online (Facebook & Instagram). Is this coming from a place where I wish I could look as good as them, or is it the yetzer hara trying to get me to lo...

GYE Member asks: Having a sexual relationship with a woman not married to you is considered bad. Hooking up with a prostitute is a dirty act. Having a sexual relationship with a mom is horrific.Having a sexual relationship with a minor is just as bad.Having a sexual relat...