Q & A

I believe that the main reason we cannot find one eitza that works is because an eitza is always, that means without exception, nothing more than a gimmick. ;Gimmicks are tricks that are used in order to bypass real change. They may ;prevent the behavior, but consider this: Removing the bad beha...

A mother wrote: My son is a good happy erlich boy. No exposure to magazines or computers. We live in a chasidish neighborhood so he doesn't get to see too much pritzus. I notice he has nocturnal emissions often. How often is normal? Also my younger son who is his roommate commented that he someti...

Hi. I'm 15 years old and I care about Hashem a lot, but why should I stop hanging out with girls? ; GYE Answered: ; Please see page 15-16 of this booklet called "Dear Bochur". It would be better if you read from page 9 already, to understand more about the issue. And if you can read the whole t...

Hello, Thank you for your wonderful site. I am a teacher in a religious, Jewish school in Germany. The children in the school often have unfiltered access to the internet (there is little awareness of the dangers here). ; There is one 10-year-old boy who, from his speech, jokes, and drawing, app...

A 14 year old boy wrote: So I started doing the TaPHSiC Method, and I ended up falling, so now I have to tell someone about the problem. I'm thinking either my dad or my Rav. What I wanted to know is how to do it. I'm sure they'd both be understanding, but I'm still not sure what to say. As you c...

; Sex addicts new to recovery typically have little to no idea how to define sexual sobriety. Sometimes they worry that sexual sobriety is the same as chemical sobriety, where permanently abstaining is the ultimate goal. Many say that if that is the case, they’ll stick with their addiction, than...

Question: I have a question for Rabbi Twerski or any Chabad rabbi who is on the GYE board. How do the 12-steps go with the concept of “moach shalit al halev” (“Mind rules over the heart”)? GYE Responds: Good question. Let's take the example of someone who has Diabetes. For years, he tried to figh...

Dear GYE, I don't know what my husband does or doesn't do regarding the Internet - he plays the innocent card - but I caught him watching porn several years back, and he never came clean to me, ;saying, "it's in my past, I'm doing GYE." He gets your emails but they rarely get opened. ; I'm not su...

An email received by GYE from Rabbi Y.W: Dear GYE, My partner and I are directors of a local kiruv organization that realizes that nowadays many in the frum community need a tremendous amount of kiruv and chizuk as well. I am aware of the enormous help GYE provides, and that you are among the wor...

AnswerMy sympathies for the murder of your cousin. It is an unfathomable tragedy and I share your grief.Your question is a complex one, and the answer contains many variables. I will present them all for you here. I hope that something I have written helps to console you and your family.First , w...