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A dear GYE friend of mine who finds it very difficult to verbally say over the telephone that he fell made the following TaPHSiC Shavuah:Whenever the urge comes, he MUST stall for time. He MUST wait at least 15 minutes before following the Yetzer Horah's directions. (The ...

Vera'a hakohen es hanega When someone goes to a tzadik or a mentor, he should not present his best characteristics and good qualities. Rather he should reveal his flaws and shortcomings, with the intent and hope that he can find succor for his ailing through the assistan...

The Metzora's punishment is isolation! Isolation is a punishment! Let's stop punishing ourselves and get out of isolation!

Dear Lakewood Scoop, Thank you for posting my letter [A Professional’s Response To Internet Addicts: Klal Yisroel Is Now Beginning To Deal With The Issue, March 29, 2011]. Yasher Koach gadol! It was brave of you to post this because it’s not something we generally like t...

In Parshas Tazriah we learn the halachos of negoim (literal translation blemishes) through which one can become tameh if the Kohen determines (paskens) that it is a genuine nega. One of the halachos of negoim is, "ein adam roeh nigai atzmo" (one can not see [and determine...

A few suggestions based solely on what works for me and others I know: 1- Am I more ashamed of the truth about myself than I am of messing up? Or am I really ready to get the help I really need to give it up? What is more important to me: holding onto my shame and pride -...

The Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim Siman 460:2 rules that it is proper for every Jew to take an active part in the baking of the Matzos for use on Pesach. Amongst the reasons for this, the Mishna Berura(in S"K 7) quotes the words of the holy Arizal that "Getting 'into it' ...

I come from a quasi-broken home, devoid of all love and affection. I first turned to shmuzt+hz"l as a temporary 'relief' from the bitter depression that I lived with day and night. With no social network, and virtually no family, I was left to raise myself, and provide my...

I came home from work tonight, hungry, tired and irritable. All the wanting to act out thoughts were popping up in my head. I was thinking to myself "what am I doing wrong? Why is today different than yesterday when I was so serene? Dear G-D, help me I need you, I can't d...

Spending time to figure out where I am 'holding' is poison to me. It's the same curiosity that I feel when I wonder "how that girl who walked by actually looks up close... hmmmm"... These are just obsessions of the mind, and I can't afford them. Besides, I have discovered...

The Jnet Mehadrin Filter comes in three levels: 1.) Least sensitive - Begins blocking (i.e. blacking out or otherwise distorting) when a picture is 5% skin, blocks pictures completely if they are at least 25% skin. 2.) Intermediate Level - Begins blocking when a picture i...

In response to the Lakewood Scoop article about our work, someone wrote in the comments: I need a program called "guard your feet" (from going to bad places), "guard your self" (from doing wrong things), "guard your car" (from driving to bad places), etc.. Is anyone able ...

I imagine there are thousands of people who take for granted when their children start peeking in to their bags or briefcase or wallet etc. and find.... NOTHING... Just regular stuff... But I can't begin to tell you how many times I've discovered my kids having fun with m...

The extent and quality of the relationship you end up with (with anybody, not just Hashem) depends upon what you put into it. If I connect with my wife mainly as my personal candy machine, I get a relationship with a candy machine. Wow....profound...meaningful...satisfyin...

TaPhSiC stands for "The Physical & Spiritual Combo" ("TaPhSiC" also means "Stop!" in Hebrew). It is one of the most powerful methods for Frum addicts, and it has helped many addicts stop these destructive behaviors completely. To learn more about this method, see this...

Hi everyone.I thought it would be fair to post and let all of my friends and supporters know that yesterday was my 90th not-acting out day. A year ago I told people here that my doing 90 days would be impossible. Baruch shechiyani vekiyimani, vehigiati lazman ha-ze! Thank...

The following is a letter received from the Administrator of the (unfortunately) popular site Guard Your Eyes, which was endorsed and praised by Gedolim. – Shalom U’vracha. I’m the admin of Guard Your Eyes Dot Org, and I’m writing in response to the letter in “Reader’s Sc...

Yes, masturbating is a terrible thing to do, as Chazal tell us. Er and Onan would agree, I believe... And, surely, having sex with myself (that's exactly what masturbation is, of course) is destructive to me on many levels. And yes, we Yidden ought not to do it. But that ...