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Re: I Need To Stop 05 May 2017 11:24 #312352

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yosef10 wrote on 05 May 2017 03:41:

Thanks so much to everyone for your chizuck , love, and support. It really feels good inside that people truly care to give advise and comment on my struggles. Theses times in my life were hard and i hit rock bottom and i stayed there for a while. I've really tried almost everything else and nothing worked, hopefully this will be my last stop. I just don't know how confident i am in myself. I only feel a "bad" for my actions if it affects my personal life i.e. i stay up late and do badly on a test, or be cranky over shakos. But there are times where i just don't care, my mind goes blank, and i don't even fight it. And the times i do, i just gradually "do more" until i actually sin. The only real reason why i started on this website is because i was depressed for a whole week, a serious depression. I don't know how but i went below rock bottom. After being disgusted with myself for the past week i decided to email chabad and aish rabeim to get advice. This is the first time i every reached out to anyone about this and i poued my heart out into those messages (its the same one from this thread). Yet, after about a week of GYE, i could barley make it past 3 days without sinning because i didn't feel as guilty because i joined the program. B''H my depression went away, but it is really only when I'm depressed and overworked that i can really only make it about a week without falling. I don't know what to do, how to stop, or especially due teshuva. I havent made any real progress over the past 3 years because in the end I'm just back exactly where i started.

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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 04:11 #312766

yosef10 Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 210 Karma: 12	sorry i haven't written in a while. Thanks so much for the pick me up, i really needed it. As of now the depression is gone b'''h.
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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 04:14 #312767

yosef10 Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 210 Karma: 12	Sorry i haven't given an update in a while. I just wanted to let everyone know that i also joined Fortify, which also seems like a good program to help me stop, and i take all the help i can get. So far the depression hasn't come back, even though i fell since last update I'm clean for about two days and hopefully going strong.
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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 04:19 #312768

yosef10 Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 210 Karma: 12	I don't know if I'm ready for therapy. There are a few people i would have to make it public to if i would get a therapist and i don't know if i can do it them or myself
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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 04:19 #312769

yosef10 Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 210 Karma: 12	Sorry i haven't given an update in a while. I just wanted to let everyone know that i also joined Fortify, which also seems like a good program to help me stop, and i take all the help i can get. So far the depression hasn't come back, even though i fell since last update I'm clean for about two days and hopefully going strong.
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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 05:05 #312774

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yosef10 wrote on 10 May 2017 04:19:

I don't know if I'm ready for therapy. There are a few people i would have to make it public to if i would get a therapist and i don't know if i can do it them or myself

In my unprofessional opinion, if you feel like you're currently progressing without a therapist and you're not ready for the therapist yet, don't worry about it. Take it slow, one step at a time. Just make sure to keep putting one foot ahead of the other. As long as that's happening, you should be fine.

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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 11:23 #312775

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2888 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4042	yosef10 wrote on 10 May 2017 04:19: I don't know if I'm ready for therapy. There are a few people i would have to make it public to if i would get a therapist and i don't know if i can do it them or myself If in your situation therapy involves people knowing and you are not ready for that, in the meantime reach out to someone here to speak to on the phone - which can be done anonymously.
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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 12:04 #312780

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There is a good possibility that tryin' to fight this by yourself will lead nowhere and make matters worse, especially when you spoke so much about depression.

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Re: I Need To Stop 10 May 2017 13:30 #312786

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cordnoy wrote on 10 May 2017 12:04:

I second reb Cordnoy on that, at least I wasn't able to fight this thing on my own, no matter how hard I tried...

Good luck brother

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Re: I Need To Stop 12 May 2017 05:10 #312940

yosef10 Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 210 Karma: 12	Thanks so much chevra, ill do my best and try to keep everyone posted
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Re: I Need To Stop 12 May 2017 05:21 #312941

yosef10 Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 210 Karma: 12	and does anyone think the partner program would help
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Re: I Need To Stop 12 May 2017 07:10 #312942

GrowStrong Current streak: 2153 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder OMAAT Posts: 888 Karma: 89	yosef10 wrote on 12 May 2017 05:21: and does anyone think the partner program would help Bringing the lust thoughts to the light with another human being helps immensely to vanquish them, as does having a network of people to talk to and hear their experiences and be mentored by the ones who can do it..

Re: I Need To Stop 12 May 2017 13:23 #312949

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GrowStrong wrote on 12 May 2017 07:10:

yosef10 wrote on 12 May 2017 05:21:

and does anyone think the partner program would help

Bringing the lust thoughts to the light with another human being helps immensely to vanquish them, as does having a network of people to talk to and hear their experiences and be mentored by the ones who can do it..

I second that, sharing my lust explicitly helps me a lot.

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Re: I Need To Stop 12 May 2017 13:29 #312950

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yosef10 wrote on 12 May 2017 05:21:

and does anyone think the partner program would help

Definitely! Im having back my life, the last 3 weeks, just because of my partner, we exchange daily, night and morning how the day and night was, and in case of an emergency we reach out each other, so we get help!
Partner, is a life saving!

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Re: I Need To Stop 12 May 2017 16:32 #312971

Hashem Help Me Current streak: 2888 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 4042	yosef10 wrote on 12 May 2017 05:21: and does anyone think the partner program would help I dont think it works, I know it works.
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