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My Upcoming Dilemma 23 Apr 2017 16:49 #311187

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My wife is leaving tomorrow morning to Florida for a few days, and im staying home with the kids, and im affraid for a fall, i wont have my wife around, so i feel more secure to act out, being home alone, and lying in bed bored, is my most dangerous moments, same issue is in the summer weeks, but i have time for that now,
i need some ideas i shouldn't fall, and if ill have an urge, i will post it here to get some support not to.
Thanks Chevra
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My threads: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years ~ My Book of Business ~ My Upcoming Dilemma

להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים
Last Edit: 24 Apr 2017 15:14 by Shivisi_Hashem.

Re: my upcoming dilemma 23 Apr 2017 16:52 #311188

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 23 Apr 2017 16:49:
My wife is leaving tomorrow morning to Florida for a few days, and im staying home with the kids, and im affraid for a fall, i wont have my wife around, so i feel more secure to act out, being home alone, and lying in bed bored, is my most dangerous moments, same issue is in the summer weeks, but i have time for that now,
i need some ideas i shouldn't fall, and if ill have an urge, i will post it here to get some support not to.
Thanks Chevra

I would suggest listening to some talks found on this site like from Dov, also reading the forum can kill hours productively (old threads)

Re: my upcoming dilemma 23 Apr 2017 16:55 #311189

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oold threads is a good idea, didnt think about it, thanks
My email:jacdoja@gmail.com
My threads: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years ~ My Book of Business ~ My Upcoming Dilemma

להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: my upcoming dilemma 23 Apr 2017 17:57 #311192

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 23 Apr 2017 16:55:
oold threads is a good idea, didnt think about it, thanks

I'm old.
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If one gives up at the first sign of a struggle, he is really not ready to be successful."
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"The right thin' to do and the hard thin' to do are usually the same."


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Re: my upcoming dilemma 23 Apr 2017 18:22 #311196

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The Just Having Fun section should keep you busy for a while
!אנא עבדא דקודשא בריך הוא

וּבְיָדְךָ כֹּחַ וּגְבוּרָה וּבְיָדְךָ לְגַדֵּל וּלְחַזֵּק לַכֹּל

And every day that you want to waste, that you want to waste, you can
And every day that you want to wake up, that you want to wake, you can
And every day that you want to change, that you want to change, yeah
I'll help you see it through...

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Re: my upcoming dilemma 24 Apr 2017 00:04 #311224

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I downloaded the SA white book onto IBooks a while back and it keeps me very busy and intrigued most days. The information and structure of 12 step recovery is so important to the life of an addict like me. At times I felt like I was reading my own story. To see others, even worse than myself tell their story and how they have recovered is truly comforting. 

Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 24 Apr 2017 15:38 #311277

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last night, my wife was still her and wwooww, what a fight, what a night, i had an extremely hard night last night, my wife was about to leave to Florida with her friends in the morning, and we had a very warm loving talk, how we will miss each other, (she is now in her Nidah days, so no hands on love) and my thoughts was starting wondering somewhere else, so when she fell asleep i started fighting with my self, should i pleasure myself or not, back and forth, for a second i started touching my self, but i stopped right away, what a מלחמה, then i thought to my self, you know what, let me finish the day clean, maybe tomorrow will do it, and i fell asleep.
 הודו לד' כי טוב
Today as my wife is not around, i will need extra help and support the night should pass sober.. i will read iy"h the GYE handbook, the SA white book plus older forum posts, that might help plus older forum posts. will keep you posted if there is any problems.
My email:jacdoja@gmail.com
My threads: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years ~ My Book of Business ~ My Upcoming Dilemma

להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים
Last Edit: 24 Apr 2017 15:39 by Shivisi_Hashem.

Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 24 Apr 2017 23:52 #311329

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Thanks to "Markz" he will be my life saver tonight, i will study his FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING tonight, lots of good stuff, 
Thank you Markz
My email:jacdoja@gmail.com
My threads: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years ~ My Book of Business ~ My Upcoming Dilemma

להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 24 Apr 2017 23:58 #311330

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 24 Apr 2017 23:52:
Thanks to "Markz" he will be my life saver tonight, i will study his FREE LUST TRUCK TOWING tonight, lots of good stuff, 
Thank you Markz

You're welcome brother ;-)

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Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 25 Apr 2017 00:01 #311331

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hhilarious  too short notice! will i be rewarded?
My email:jacdoja@gmail.com
My threads: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years ~ My Book of Business ~ My Upcoming Dilemma

להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים
Last Edit: 25 Apr 2017 00:02 by Shivisi_Hashem.

Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 25 Apr 2017 00:35 #311335

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Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 25 Apr 2017 00:01:
hhilarious  too short notice! will i be rewarded?

Here's a select sample of the most requested prizes 

#1. You get dov to post on your thread
#2. You glimpse light at the end of the tunnel
#3. Trouble visits your thread
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Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 25 Apr 2017 00:38 #311337

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Markz wrote on 25 Apr 2017 00:35:

Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 25 Apr 2017 00:01:
hhilarious  too short notice! will i be rewarded?

Here's a select sample of the most requested prizes 

#1. You get dov to post on your thread
#2. You glimpse light at the end of the tunnel
#3. Trouble visits your thread

Dov likes trouble.
I'm all about that (substantial) bass, no trouble ....

Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 25 Apr 2017 00:46 #311340

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Trouble wrote on 25 Apr 2017 00:38:

Markz wrote on 25 Apr 2017 00:35:

Shivisi_Hashem wrote on 25 Apr 2017 00:01:
hhilarious  too short notice! will i be rewarded?

Here's a select sample of the most requested prizes 

#1. You get dov to post on your thread
#2. You glimpse light at the end of the tunnel
#3. Trouble visits your thread

Dov likes trouble.
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!

You are stark crazy 
How can you award a prize without working for it

You messed up Shvisi's recovery process

Hes gonna have to start from scratch...

Oy - a zeleche tzuros 
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Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 25 Apr 2017 01:05 #311341

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you are all making my night, "trouble" is "mark"ing "dov" to my thread, what an honor, and you called it tzuros? 
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My threads: my long נסיעה of almost 30 years ~ My Book of Business ~ My Upcoming Dilemma

להטות לבבנו אליו ללכת בכל דרכיו ולשמר מצותיו וחקיו ומשפטיו אשר צוה את אבתינו
כי עיקר מציאות האדם בעה"ז הוא רק לקיים מצות ולעמד בניסיון,  והנאות העולם אין ראוי שיהו לו אלא לעזר ולסיוע בלבד לשיהיה לו נחת רוח ויישוב הדעת למען יוכל לפנות לבו אל העבודה הזאת מסילת ישרים

Re: My Upcoming Dilemma 25 Apr 2017 06:17 #311374

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Stay clean tonight!
My road to 90 days, all with God's help.             What brought me here.90 days with Areivim

Made it 259 days from 01/28/17-10/15/17 without mz"l. At day 90, I started to go for all aspects of שמירת עניים\הברית. At day 168 I fell with שמירת עניים & restarted the count. On approximately November 4 2017, with the support of a fellow GYE brother (daily text messages/phone calls), I restarted. This round I'm working on שמירת הברית as well as שמירת עניים.
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