Hoping posted on the forum: I don't know if this is true, but I just read this: "African hunters have a clever way of trapping monkeys. They slice a coconut in two, hollow it out, and in one half of the shell cut a hole just big enough for a monkey's hand...

I am clean, with the help of G-d, for over fifty days. I feel a sense of some control, and I don't dread the internet like I used to. Starting a few weeks ago, I had a HUGE boost in self esteem and self confidence. I do not know with certainty that my improved spirit is a...

"Noorah" posted on the forum: I find that the more holy the day or season, any time we are enjoined to be happy, the Yetzer Hara will go to great lengths to pull me down. The seforim all say that when we say that a Tom Tov is a "zman" ...

The program (12-Step) way of looking at the whole business, is actually different than what we are used to. It is even different from what normal people without these problems are used to. The program is not about answering questions of how to beat the desire. It is not a...

Before Yom-Kippur, some people were discussing on the forum how they think their Yom-Kippur will be, based on where they are "holding" in their struggle, and whether they feel inspired or not. Dov posted the following importan...

I thought about all the forum people that I could remember during shacharis this Yom Kippur. It was the best part, as far as I am concerned. It's funny, but there is only one tefillah during which I get a "second wind" and take a ...

Momo often posts on the forum a summary of Duvid Chaim's daily calls (read all the summaries over here). Here is Momo's summary from the last call of Duvid Chaim's cycle, which ended before Yom Kippur. Being the la...

Chevra, How many of you are asking yourself this question? After all, we just completed 40 Days of Teshuva; first kicking off the process of "return" at the beginning of Elul, followed by the humbling experience of Coronating the ...

For me - in active addiction, staying clean was a religious struggle - that was really all about me. A clean day was another feather in my hat, a good deed, a great mitzva, and - as some here have stated - another feather in th...

Someone wrote on the forum: I am sure that after 120 years, all of us posting on this website will be dancing in the middle of klal yisrael's circle with all the tzadikim, because if we can overcome our Niyonos, we certainly deserve t...

I have not met too many folks who did not have to live any differently to get a different life. Meaning, if you expect to actually have a different and better life, a life without the garbage of the Lust, P, and M-words, you may not be ...

Aaahhh! i hate this! stupid yetzer! i can't take it anymore! i hate this part of me! wasting my time! making me do stupid things! I'm still trying to break my filter! somebody call me stupid! i wasted another hour tonight on no...

Someone wrote: When it gets impossibly hard, all it takes is for me to drop my guard for one stupid second, and I'm a gonner. That's what I really need help with. Dov replies: I understand the "dropping guard for a second" business,...

Not only can't I cure myself from my sickness, but as the Kotzker might say, perhaps neither can G-d Himself, necessarily, for He only comes in where people "let" Him in. The 12 Steps are about letting G-d in, by learning how to get ourselves o...

Someone was complaining how difficult it is to remain clean with lust triggers being everywhere! Dov writes: They may seem like they are everywhere, but we all go through times like that. Thanks for reminding me. I passed the same pretty lady twice yesterday - first at w...

If you were G-d, you would not want to be a ritual, would you?

Dov had written once on the forum: "I started getting better because I really reached out for my G-d and kept using His help, from that point forward." Someone asked Dov to clarify: Please help me understand this. How do I do this??? When I am caught ...

I am not an expert on anything, and certainly not on addiction or recovery. (I'm pretty good with wild mushrooms, though!). I am, however, able to share my experience, and I am gifted with the faith that I need to share it in order to remain sober. I became ...