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Sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth.

Try to replace guilt with gratitude.

Share your pain.

Share your happiness.

Remember your last fall

Wherever you go, there you are.

You are not alone.

I feel that this entire discussion is nice in theory, but the missing "context" is very loud in its absence. Please bear with me on this... A Rebbe of mine, who was a great gadol b'yisrael (and my mesader kiddushin) told us in a shmuz that being in Yeshiva is all about se...

The issue of "addiction" vs. "Yetzer Hara, Aveiros and Teshuvah" has been discussed many times before on GYE, with me as a participant, too. I love these issues, as they touch on the core of recovery for me and what it has done for my life, my wife's life, and the lives o...

Nothing is so bad, that a little lusting won't make it worse.

If God seems far away, who moved?

Just last week I was on the way home on a bus and had a similar experience. It was a good thing I called a few folks including an addict who I used to sponsor, my wife (who thinks she sponsors me sometimes), and just a friend out of the blue - all just to reconnect with r...

I have not knowingly lusted today and b"H have not acted out in a while, but when I share in meetings I still say things like "when I act out, I... blah, blah, blah... but b"H I don't need to do that today", because I believe that the day I start saying stuff like, "way b...

Holy Jews, Please consider getting hold of a copy of "Alcoholics Anonymous" and reading it, especially chapters 2 and 3. Just substitute the word "Lust" in place of "alcohol". If you actually read what it has to say and like it, then I'd suggest looking at the last two p...

About 70 years ago, a doctor and a drunk went to the famous Carl Jung and asked him what it would take to get rid of the guilt and shame, the stigma and the hopelessness from drinking too much alcohol, raging and then feeling bad about it later. Carl Jung answered: "let p...

You may be completely different than I, but maybe not, so I'll share: Facing the facts about myself is basically the only thing that has been of value to me in getting free - one day at a time. And to do that, I need to be explicit and totally open with other (safe) peop...

The reason a person whose life is being messed up by using porn 'should' stop - is to be a human being, rather than to be 'good' or 'frum'. This is simply because as long as such a person keeps his goal 'to be frum', he is blissfully oblivious the fact that he is no...