Let's cut right to the heart of the matter: We get in trouble if we try to run our own lives. ; Our ego starts to mess things up. ; We try to control things we can't control. We think we are smarter than we are. ; ; We start to think we can run things just fine by ourselves. What's the end pro...

I feel very guilty when I do something really stupid. What's wrong with that? ;Yes, the guilt pain of masturbating does require many people to medicate all over again. So? ;Too many newbies make what they think is a 'recovery call' - but really they just want the 'older' guy on the other end to m...

I am an addict, so my truth is ;far ;more machmir than all the religious folk are. Misah bideai Shomayim, coreis, whatever... ;For me, it is misah bidei Odom - me. I really kill myself when I lust and act out, R'l. It's not "spiritual" death, and no violins are needed, thank-you. If I'd have cont...

I hate wet dreams and do not wish them on anyone. But here is what I have been given on that: ;I think it is a pretty much just silly pride for me to ;ever ;really buy the belief that a guy like me - no matter how much recovery work I ever do - really deserves to sleep free of wet dreams. I have ...

ChaimYakov says: "I did ask this question in person no less than 4 times to 4 different Rabbanim. ;The answers I got in order were: ;1) You need to get married ; ;2) You need to get rid of the Iternet ;3) You need to talk to your Rav about this ;4) You probably won't be able to stop ;Anybody who ...

"Powerless" has nothing whatsoever to do with 'ilmolei ozro, eino yachol lo' and is not the flipside of 'hakol bidei Shomayim chutz miyir'as Shomayim', at all. Whether I am in control or not is a simple fact: if I cannot stop having sex with myself (most folks call that 'masturbation') or with a...

Fruits are squeezed to get juice. Flowers are crushed to get fragrance. Diamonds are extracted to make jewels. So if you are being pushed in life - Fear Not!!! It's Hashem, trying to get the Best out of you.

No, you certainly do ;not have to tell your parents. I do believe, however, that your making a huge deal about rejection and shame if you ;would tell the parents is just not accurate. If your parents love you and are not very screwed up in the head, they will sympathize. Even if they are di...

; GYE Responds: Thank you for this nice share. ;Yes, what Dov always shares seems to be the only way to beat the yetzer hara at the end of the day. ; I was thinking recently, we find by the story of the Meraglim, that they clearly saw that אל פי טבע (naturally) there was no way to beat the Canaa...

; Principle One: Acceptance ; Key Concepts We need courage to live changed lives of serenity and emotional sobriety. ;The encompassing umbrella of the First Principle of Acceptance is the integration of a paradigm shift, freedom, consistency and willingness to move into a better way of life. Th...