The Library

To all those who suffer from Lust addiction, we highly recommend reading the "Big Book" of Alcoholics Anonymous. Download the full and complete edition of the "Big Book" (For our purposes, remember to replace the word "Alcohol" everywhere in the book with "Lust"). Today ...

I want to share with you a beautiful excerpt from an eye-opening article that someone shared with me recently about the different type of 12-Step groups that exist today: What the original AAs were shooting for - and what they aimed their program at - was not mere sobrie...

"Yehuda the Addict" Posted recently on the forum: I had a bit of a slip on Purim. I have not let it pull me down though, Hashem is still part of my life (in the past this would have led to a downward spiral), and I think I may even have learned from it. One of the things...

Some of the most common causes of the addiction to inappropriate stimulation and lust are depression, anxiety or resentment. People who feel an inner void or darkness because of these emotional issues, either genetically or because of external circumstances, are more pron...

One of our members on the forum, "Boruch", used to be against the 12-Steps. He wrote long posts describing why he thought that the approach was anti-Jewish and counter intuitive. One day, Boruch's therapist suggested that he try the 12-Step groups at least once. Boruch w...

My Yetzer Hara is telling me that the only reason I am abstinent is because I am busy, but I know that this is not true at all. This addiction took a hold of me no matter what was happening around me. Rather, I know that I am abstinent today because Hashem is keeping me a...

Dear PFN - It was sweet reading your post, though the pain it brings up in my memory is horrible at the same time. I also told some of my story on this site in an earlier post, and I also went through the therapist and medication route. Before that, I went through the tes...

One of the most frequent causes of failure at actually getting better - is forgetting. It would be quite natural for me to consider myself "fixed up" as soon as I turn my back on the first temptation! "It's been three days - I feel better!! I am better!" You'd think that ...

His e-mail contains a lot of wisdom and it can help us all to approach our struggles with lust with the right attitude. Duvid Chaim writes as follows: Dear Guard, First and foremost, a huge Yasher Koach to you for this site and the countless hours that you undoubtedly sp...

Dov wrote once in one of his posts (which we quoted in a daily e-mail): Saying that "I am lusting after those women because they are obviously begging for it cuz look at how they are dressed!" is BS. I am reasonably certain that the average slutty female out there intends...

"Think Good" wrote on the forum: I am concerned that I may let my guard down after making it past 30 days . "London" answered: Hi Think Good, I have been told at SA meetings, that if I have one eye on yesterday and one eye on tomorrow, then I am cross eyed on today. Yest...

"ShomerAiyin" posted on the forum: Sorry to burst everyone's pre-Shavuot highs, but I'm having a bit of a crisis. I don't know how to internalize everything written on this site, including the 12 steps. - I've read the 2 handbooks, both the GYE Handbook and the Attitude ...

There was a discussion on the forum recently about using Mussar and "Sifrei Yirah" to break free of this addiction. Although this may work for people who are not deeply addicted, it rarely works in more serious cases. "Dov", who has 18 years of sobriety through SA, wrote ...

I would like to bring a few inspiring post from "London" on the forum to various strugglers. London's experience is very precious, as he has learned some solid technique in battling this relentless addiction over the years through his membership in the 12-Step fellowships...

Rashkebahag asks on the forum: I find that people under stress are very prone to this addiction. They use it as an escape. I am under stress in many areas of my life. I used to think that maybe the stress is a divine punishment for my bad habit, but now that I am genuinel...

There is nothing in the world as beautiful, precious and insightful as the experience of old-time strugglers like Dov, who have seen the truly ugly side of the addiction, hit bottom, and yet come all the way back as heroes in shining armor! And when we can learn from thei...

The 12 Steps & 12 Traditions (Pg 31-32) discuss why it is, that even religious people who always believed they had faith in G-d and had asked G-d for help countless times in the past, were still unable to break free of the grip of the addiction: "This answer has to do...

I would like to bring some quotes from an eye-opening story called "They stopped in time" from the AA literature. It is one of the most widely quoted stories among addicts, since it contains the secret to changing our entire outlook in life. And with the proper outlook, w...