The fourth Principle of Responsibility is to stop hiding from ourselves. There can be no recovery when we continue to isolate ourselves and our feelings from the outside world. In addiction, we used our emotions to protect us from reality. We guarded our delusions with ...

Sooner or later every addict stops acting-out; it's just nice to be alive when it happens.

Want a clear answer to these common questions? How can it be that the Torah doesn't provide the answer for me? Why can't I just do Teshuvah, why do I need the 12-Steps? Why do some Rabbanim and therapists discourage the 12-Step program? (Although the vast majori...

The goal of most addicts I know, when they start reaching out for real help, is just to get out of trouble. And the trouble is usually getting caught. So, although we really do want to stop and be clean, we simply do not believe we can live without it - nor do we have any...

Perfectionism has no place in sanity - many people can see that. But then why is it that when we inject the words 'avodas Hashem' into the equation, all of a sudden perfectionism becomes sane? And why is it that so many obviously sick people (who are often addicts no l...

Bottom is the point at which your life is falling apart faster than you can lower your standards

Dear Desperate Yid, here are some ideas I'd like to share with you:1- This 'powerlessness' idea is actually all about taking personal responsibility for one's actions - if the person is an addict. It simply means that we finally recognize that all the good (or not so good...

How does it make sense that recovery does not grow? When I use porn it always progresses, either in intensity or style - the old schmutz eventually stops doing the trick, and I need a bit 'more' to get the job done. When I use porn it always progresses, either in intens...

The "Nuclear Reset Button" idea is about how we unfortunately thrive on that very honest state we do feel after masturbating ourselves, and that no matter how holy we feel in that state, it is all part of the same sick cycle. It suggests further, that since we sincerely c...

Please bear with me and I'll tell you about Captain Kirk in a minute. First, I will share that I have seen dozens of guys who have had the hardest time just saying their right name on a phone call. I have heard the hesitating, quiet voice on the other end of the line fi...